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Why Wasn't She Willing to Let Him Take Her Sexually?

posted 15 years ago by LadyMargaret
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Up until that point she was willing to be slapped by Paul if it meant he would get better because she loved him with devoted loyalty.

Why wasn't she willing to let him have rough sex with her if she still loved him?

Does she say, "No, don't." because she no longer loves him and does not want him to have sex with her or does she say, "No, don't." because she still loves him and is saddened at the stranger she sees on top of her pitying the shell of the man she once knew and morning the loss of that man she married?

[–] CathyE 14 years ago

I don't think she was really willing to be slapped by Paul. She was just at the end of her rope, and didn't know what else to say or do.

I don't think letting him have rough sex with her or not had anything to do with whether she loved him or not. I think she did love him to the end. I think you nailed it in the second scenario - she was mourning the loss of her husband. This man was a stranger. And he terrified her, because she had no way of predicting what he might do, or what she should say or do to alieve his mania.

Hell indeed.

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[–] Helena727 9 years ago

Because he wasn't seeking "rough sex" with her -- he was out of control + trying to control her. It was marital rape. Everyone -- man or woman, hetero or gay or bi, in a marriage or a new relationship or on a date -- has the right to say "No," even to a longtime partner, and if that person doesn't respect that "No," then it's rape.

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[–] frankey200 9 years ago

Because he wasn't seeking "rough sex" with her -- he was out of control + trying to control her. It was marital rape. Everyone -- man or woman, hetero or gay or bi, in a marriage or a new relationship or on a date -- has the right to say "No," even to a longtime partner, and if that person doesn't respect that "No," then it's rape.

Yeah, sure, you're right, everyone has that right. But that doesn't answer OP's question - why didn't she just submit and let him?

Was she so terrified? Of what, that he would kill her after the sex? Or was she just in a blind panic, unthinking and unwilling to let him get close to her, because he was no longer someone she knew?

Perhaps if she had time to think about it, she might have submitted out of some past love, and maybe been able to make some connection. But probably not.

[–] PoppyTransfusion 8 years ago

why didn't she just submit and let him?

Was she so terrified? Of what, that he would kill her after the sex? Or was she just in a blind panic, unthinking and unwilling to let him get close to her, because he was no longer someone she knew?

Everyone has their cut off point. I think that at the point he raped her she realised he was no longer sane. That must have been deeply scary.

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