Richard Farley's looks were not pertinent to the overall stalking and murders. I read that he had dates with women and even lived with one for a bit during his four-year stalk of Laura Black. In less than those 48 months, he had mailed Laura over 200 desperate letters (1-2 per week), while witnesses observed him watching her from multiple locations on a regular, ongoing basis. Laura moved 4 times during that period, but Farley would find her new address and phone number. As in the movie, he also accessed her locked office, desk drawers/cabinets, and gained private personnel records. It's not that Farley couldn't get a date (or get laid); it was that he, within his psychopathy, was obsessed about specifically acquiring Laura. And like you pointed out, good-looking stalkers exercise inexcusable behavior as well.
It is presumptuous to assume Laura thought Farley was physically repulsive. When Laura Black first met Farley, he was younger looking than in photos referenced here and was actually an average looking engineer of 36 - he wasn't as puffy and hairy as the photos taken 4-8 years later...after we also know the ugliness of his crimes. I have not read that Laura ever declined his advances due to his physical appearance. My understanding is that Farley hit on Laura very quickly and aggressively. She was only 22, right out of university, far from family and friends, and taking on her first critical career position where an instant interoffice romance surely seemed like a bad idea. An older coworker - nearly 15 years her senior - is suddenly "putting her to the screws" by pressuring her for her personal time, to go on a date(s). It would scare off most young ladies at that point. Had Laura actually dated Farley even once, his aggressiveness would've likely led her down the same path of fearful avoidance. It may have triggered even more rage within Farley if he felt she "led him on" by allowing a date or two. Sadly, it seems it was a no-win situation. There are now laws and more resources to help with this kind of situation, but not so much in 1984-88.
Attractive psychopaths, sociopaths, and pedophiles can use their pleasant looks to get them even further along in their predatory plans; the general public tends to immediately trust a pleasant countenance and, consequently, feels safe around these predators before they really should. The "creepy" guy/gal down the hall might actually make the sweetest lover, while the "hottie" guy/gal down the other hall, might actually become an absolute monster. Or...it could go the other way.
Richard Farley in an alternate reality: If he had been patient (and mentally stable), perhaps he and Laura Black would have gotten along at work and learned to trust one another; they may have shared great times and finally taken a step toward dating...then considered marriage and a family. After all, similar situations happen in this reality.
I've worked with people who have taken time getting to know their coworkers platonically, attractive or not. After time proves someone to be trustworthy, kind, and to their liking (humor was big with the ladies where I worked), they will sometimes date and even go on to get married. I had one "hot" female coworker that married the unattractive "nerd" for his friendship, intelligence, sweetness, humor, and love. She told me that, initially, she was not attracted to him upon sight, but after time, they knew they were meant for each other and are still together a decade later. I also had a male coworker who was handsome (and rich) marry an older, stout, plain (but feisty) software programmer after they fell in love over a three-year period. These "not initially obvious" couples were attractive from within, but trust and time revealed it.
Basic bottom lines: Don't judge "a book by its cover" and give ALL new relationships time to develop long-lasting trust. And always trust your gut.
"Don't get chumpatized!" - The King of Kong: A Fistful of Quarters (2007)
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