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I couldn't stand that unfaithfull wife


What a dirty, cheating, double-crossing woman. Yet we the audience are supposed to be sympathetic towards her.

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These days we're always supposed to be sympathetic toward the woman. Cheating men are always just rotten guys in films and TV. Cheating wives are given "good" reasons for their unfaithfulness, like the husband is imperfect and therefore unworthy of her.

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These days we're always supposed to be sympathetic toward the woman. Cheating men are always just rotten guys in films and TV. Cheating wives are given "good" reasons for their unfaithfulness, like the husband is imperfect and therefore unworthy of her.


You're right - that's almost formulaic. A man who cheats on his wife is always portrayed as the scum of the Earth, while cheating wives are always victims fully justified in their infidelity.

It's a lot like the standard sitcom formula where the wife is always smarter and more moral than the husband, and the kids are always smarter and better than the parents.

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well, steven bauer was better-looking than john, & women are allowed to cheat on mediocre-looking or ugly husbands whenever they have a chance because "you go girl!"


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If you don't let your wife bang the neighbor it's oppression.

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My point was that she was not a saint either, although he was worse. I was also complaining that 90% of the times in current movies and TV shows, it's the man who's no good. Statistically, under the age of 40, wives cheat as much as husbands,

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He was mentally ill and not responsible for his actions. What's her excuse?

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He was mentally ill. That's as good an excuse for a cheating wife in movies or TV today as any. Another thing: an adulterous wife in movies or TV is just that. She's usually otherwise a good person. An adulterous movie/TV husband is usually guilty of many other sins and crimes, often plotting to kill his wife.

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Except De Palma already made a movie about a man who cheats on his wife and gets his just desserts for it: it was called The Bonfire of the Vanities. On the contrary, Raising Cain turns the tables so that the cheating wife gets her just desserts.

Of course, De Palma also punishes the cheating wife in Dressed to Kill, but with that film he was devilish enough to actually have her killed off because of it. He's a hell of a lot more merciful towards the cheating wife in this film.

What I don't understand is how we're going to stay alive this winter.

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In the Bonfire of the Vanities, he was also an arrogant egotist, a bully, a greed-head, and other nasty things as well. The author of the book, Tom Wolfe, punished him more for considering himself a "master of the universe" than for being an adulterer. How Hollywood loves to excoriate "unfaithful" and "greedy" people, when they are among the biggest philanderers and money-grubbers there are. Most actors are no more worth millions for making movies part of the year than executives who work 16-hour days 24/7, twelve months a year are worth millions in salaries and perks. Many performers cheat and throw their weight around far more than any corporate CEO.

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And they enjoy airing their opinions about everything under the sun as if they are supreme beings.

It is sickening to hear grotesquely overpaid movie stars whining about how everybody's got to use public transport instead of driving, use less electricity, stop taking vacations etc. In the meantime they continue their luxurious lifestyles - jet setting all over the world, travelling in gas guzzling stretch limos, living in huge mansions etc, etc.

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And they rant on and on about how life in America is such a living hell and have homes in Europe where they play the great don or country squire, but they still keep their homes here and come back to make the millions they can make nowhere else. It's possible to get rich in other countries, but far tougher and these "enlightened" lands don't have nearly so many rich people, either in numbers and proportions. Somehow that's supposed to be a good thing.

They talk about the oppression of the working man, but the vegetarian ones fire workers for eating meat on their lunch hours (Paul McCartney), offending their political sensibilities (Ellen Burstyn, before she sank into unimportance), or even not applauding them loud enough. Before the sexual harassment laws were enacted, then-single Warren Beatty would have women fired for refusing to mess around with him.

But we shouldn't get off-topic any more. The fact is, "Raising Cain" didn't really punish the unfaithful wife, and her husband was wrong to try to kill her. She lived and will get the house and money, if there is any, and her lover or some new one. What I couldn't stand was making her out to be some kind of victim.

I once saw a TV movie where Tim Matheson killed his worthless wife's lover after she and the lover tried to murder him. Then he buried her alive with the money she wanted so badly. She was an evil woman, but it was a vicious murder and morally wrong. She should have gone to prison, not to such a horrid death.

I preferred an Edward Hermann TV film where he pretended to forgive his slutty wife who had only married him for his money. Then he kicked her out with only bus fare. Adultery is wrong, whether it's by Tiger Woods or Sarah Ferguson or Josh Duhamel or his wife Fergie, who didn't think having lesbian affairs was cheating on her husband. Go figure.

If people don't want to be faithful, they should stay single. You don't have to get married anymore. Single people over 30 are no longer pariahs as in the past. Women can have successful careers and financial independence. But the adulteress witch of a wife in Raising Cain wanted the money. I refuse to believe these women never know what these "unworthy men" are really like until after they marry them.

The husband in Raising Cain was a sick and violent man and should have been institutionalized or imprisoned, but his gold-digging, hot-britches wife was little better. He was a sicko. She didn't have that excuse.

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You guys are trying to engage in a pointless argument about "morality" that can't really help somebody trying to critique a De Palma film- it's that kind of superfluous feedback that's gotten De Palma accused of so many laughable charges: "treason", "mysogony", etc.

Like I said, if you want to see an actual De Palma film where the cheating wife is truly punished for her infidelity, there's always Dressed to Kill or, to an extent, Body Double.

But De Palma's been badly burned by all that neofeminist crap and has since been less harsh on his female characters unless their suffering is there for a specific political reason, i.e. his two most recent films, The Black Dahlia and Redacted. Or, there's Mission to Mars and Femme Fatale which place women in empowered roles. Either way, De Palma is one of the wisest filmmakers around when it comes to navigating your way through gender correctness, so the bickering here is futile.

What I don't understand is how we're going to stay alive this winter.

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Bickering is a God-given right, even if it solves nothing. My only point is that the wife in "Raising Cain" was an unsympathetic bitch who deserved to be taught a lesson, but not murdered. I have no desire to see anyone, man or woman, murdered just for infidelity. As for DePalma, "The Black Dahlia" and the disloyal "Redacted" both tanked in the box office. The latter proves that he is not so skilled in navigating political correctness.

I don't care about "morality" in films. I would love to fool around with married women, but my wife won't let me.

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As for DePalma, "The Black Dahlia" and the disloyal "Redacted" both tanked in the box office. The latter proves that he is not so skilled in navigating political correctness.


Huh? What do box office results have to do with anything? Many of De Palma's greatest films- Hi, Mom!, Sisters, The Phantom of the Paradise, The Fury, Scarface, Femme Fatale- were financial lemmons. But they are nevertheless wonderful films that are getting their due.

And what do you mean by referring to Redacted as "disloyal"?

Anyway, I was referring to his navigation of gender correctness. His navigation of politics is more in tune to the sensibilities of somebody like Sam Fuller.

What I don't understand is how we're going to stay alive this winter.

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The reactions of spoiled upper-middle class film critics who do nothing but watch and talk movies all day mean nothing to me. Scarface has become a cult hit, but most of his other bombs remain unseen by ordinary moviegoers. You can't get your meassage across if no one is watching. Besides, not all critics think DePalma is a genius. Their darlings can become pariahs after a few reversals. Remember Wynonna Ryder and Michael Cimino?

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You're a far better person for not doing so pmiano, and you'll also feel much happier and contented - no worries of discovery, no guilty conscience, no stress at having to continue remembering lies etc, etc, etc.

As for my own feelings I do not admire or look up to, nor would I trust people like John F Kennedy, Bill Clinton (yuk that guy makes me sick) and now Tiger Woods. To me their behavior is both sordid and pathetic.

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Besides, not all critics think DePalma is a genius. Their darlings can become pariahs after a few reversals. Remember Wynonna Ryder and Michael Cimino?


Wait... what? Where did this comparison come from? Since when has De Palma ever undergone a trasnformation similar to Ryder's shoplifting or Cimino's transexuality? I don't get this...?

And why do I get the feeling that both of you are ill-educated yuppies who would rather moan about the good old days than discuss cinema? Neither of you seem to much respect De Palma as a filmmaker or cinema in general, either; I therefore fail to see why you hang around the Raising Cain boards.

Oh, but of course your reply is going to be: "it's a God-given right".

What I don't understand is how we're going to stay alive this winter.

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My point is that critics are often wrong and very pretensious and fickle. They have not always loved DePalma's work. And bad as "Heaven's Gate" was, it was so reason to turn on Cimino the way they did. That was long before he came out, which is no big deal in Hollywood. And what really did shoplifting have to do with Ryder's professional fall? Actors who've far done worse have managed to salvage their careers.

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Ryder and Cimino were once darlings of the critics who fell from grace, long before Ryder started stealing or Cimino started cross-dressing. The critics are a fickle bunch who run hot and cold, especially on someone like DePalma. He is a good (but not great) director who has made bad decisions.

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Not to mention the fact that I will remain alive and in one piece. My wife of many years is a Latina, and does not believe in divorce. She does, however, believe in widowhood. Do you remember Lorena Bobbit of Ecuador? EWWWWWW!

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And they enjoy airing their opinions about everything under the sun as if they are supreme beings.


Because that's totally not happening here. Only movie stars do that.

-There is no such word as "alot."

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But by attacking the woman for infidelity yet not even acknowledging the murderous kidnapping man we're also led to sympathize with in the same movie, your point loses its bite. And it's not like her choices were without consequences. If you need to read a moral into this fantasy, is it fair to say "Act on your impulses, ladies. If you're willing to endanger your children. Be left to drown in your car. Witness a man's murder. See your lover nearly get his head torn off, after being implicated in several deaths and abductions himself"? Or are you just using the movie to make an unrelated political point?



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My only message is that neither the crazy husband or the slutty wife were worthy of the sympathy of the audience. They deserved each other.

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That's something I really dislike about US cinema and television: the women we're to sympathize with are almost always whores of one kind or another. Japanese female protagonists, on the other hand, as a comparison, seem to be mostly virtuous, even in very crowd-pleasing films. I think this is just another sad sign of how the sexual revolution in particular and extremist liberalism in general is destroying the West.

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I could, that woman looked so hot and so very irresistable, especially in the scene where she was laying on the bed.

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She did a great job - I couldn't stand her LOL

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I was pissed when it was revealed she didn't *beep* die. He smothered the bitch, why the *beep* couldn't she die? And then drowned? WTF. She shoulda been dead. Just for that the movie lost a star from me.

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