I don't believe that The End of The Affair is a good example to hold against Bitter Moon. There's a lot of religiosity in Greene's work - Catholic Guilt plays it's part. Julianne Moore's character makes a pact with God and keeps her word, believing that she has kept the Fiennes character alive.
You misunderstood the comparison written in the psychological context of sexual-emotional obsessive love bordering on hate. Greene remarked that love and hate operates the same glands, which we can see very clearly in case of Mimi. The reasons why Bendrix and Mimi were dumped by their lovers are completely irrelevant; it's the effect the breakup produced that matters.
And I wasn't talking about Sarah either but about similarities between the respective male protagonists. Here's my original quote:"Interestingly Greene's leading male characters are usually very cynical and selfish, just like Oscar. I love the brutal honesty, the way he pitilessly strips them out of pretenses and coldly exposes their weaknesses. I noticed this particular parallel to Greene in Bitter Moon's rendering of Oscar's character."
Although it's easy to detest Oscar for his emotional cruelty, his relationship with Mimi wasn't destructive till the obsessive passion and feelings for Mimi gradually wore off and he began to realize they have no future together. Oscar didn’t handle the breakup with kid gloves in order for Mimi to loose hope of them ever being together. It’s merciless but it had to happen eventually.
Mimi, on the other hand, was unable to let go. It's a situation when one person feels genuinely happy in the relationship because their needs are met and ignores or refuses to notice it may not be the case with the other side. She was unprepared and couldn't cope with a sudden loss. It's incomprehensible and pain can be very acute. It's quite different from a slow death of a long term relationship when two people can part as friends. What do we do if our partner doesn’t want to accept the fact we want out but clings, calls, stalks, begs on his/her knees and wants to please us at all cost and against our will? How long will it take till our respect and patience are going to give way to anger, resentment, guilt, disgust, disrespect and pure hatred? At this juncture Oscar became a cold bastard and later a cynical, impotent cripple.
I've seen this often - but usually with low grade men with no confidence.
It's what you would like to think, that you'd never be capable of such behavior. It happens to the most conventional couples but also with sophisticated, intelligent and confident men or women. Oscar wasn't a low-life with no confidence. Besides being selfish he wasn't a type who sits at home and watches his kids grow. Usually people can walk away from a failed relationship so it doesn’t progress to such torture and emotional abuse.
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