In real life, John Inman had a male domestic partner. However, there are actually more bi-sexuals than pure homosexuals. The Mr. Humphries character is much more ambiguous than in real life. In the beginning of the series during the 70s, Mr. Humphries is more of a "Mama's boy". He is never shown to have a real relationship with anyone male or female. As time went on in the series, it was apparent that everyone he worked with knew he was gay (and that became part of the jokes). Very scrupulously, Mr. Humphries and his colleagues never ever directly say the word "gay". It is always an allusion.
In this twelve episode series, I am probably at Episode 10 right now. It is a very, very strange relationship. Ms. Moulherd (the farmer's young daughter) used to sleep with the chef. Now, she insists on sleeping with Mr. Humphries. Mr. Humphries is too kind to say that he is "gay". On the other hand, he doesn't seem to mind sleeping with her - suggesting that he is a little bi-sexual.
Ms. Moulherd is rather naive, and she seems to just want to cuddle up with someone. I thought that was the point of their sleeping in the same bed. She needed a companion. I thought it wasn't sexual. Now, in the last episode she said that she was a "champion kisser". Weird. Is she trying to get Mr. Humphries to express real sexual feelings towards her now? Is he going to reveal his true sexual orientation on Episode 12?
According to John Inman, the proposed third (and sadly unmade) series of 'Grace and Favour' was to see Mr. Humphries and Mavis Moleterd get married! Later in the series, Mavis was to meet and fall in love with a new local farmhand, and run off with him, leaving Mr. Humphries devastated and Mrs. Slocombe attempting to take her place in his affections.
Shame the series was never made... The third series was also, apparently, going to re-introduce in one episode the character of Mr. Lucas, played by Trevor Bannister.
It is a horrible shame series 3 never got made. I recently purchased "Grace and Favour" and have been enjoying the show immensely.
But what Mr. Inman said would suggest Fleur Bennett bowing out of the show. Which is a shame as I adore her character and she is rather nice on the eyes...
You know...I don't think we can put a title on what Mr Humphries was. He wasn't gay, he wasn't hetro, he wasn't bi. He was...well, Mr Humphries! LOL He's in a leauge of his own, really, haha. I guess he loved all people. That's the beauty of his charachter. I don't really think much what he is and what he's not, I just take him for what we see :-)
Although it was sad they didn't make a third season. I'm in a way happy because if Mr Humphries got married to Mavis then it would have given his sexual orientation a finality or label. And frankly it would have been a wrong move for not only our enjoyment but for the character because for all those years we were still not sure what he actually was. I prefer Mr Humphries 'unsure and undecided'.
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Those are some good points. I also think that Mr. Humphries was too nice to say "no". She was a young woman who was strong and attracted to a gentle, older man. He was obliging her, plus maybe he was a bit lonely too.
Not so much a direct response to the comment from last year, but just adding my thoughts to the general discussion...
Given the era, I think it's likely that Mr. Humphries was bisexual in the same way that Elton John said he was bisexual, before he clarified he was actually gay. It's clear that his non-straight orientation was an open secret with his co-workers and mother, but it was disapproved of, particularly by his bosses, and even he considered it an illness or defect that might be corrected. I think Mr. Humphries is quite a sad character, coping via comedy.
Mr. Humphries rarely if ever showed any interest in women actually in his presence. If they got too close or sexually suggestive toward him, he would react negatively, ranging from awkward discomfort to outright terror.
While he had similar reactions to men getting close, he also was often discouraged by Mr. Grainger from getting too close to his male customers, indicating that he was already known for enjoying their company a little too much. He also alluded to quite a lengthy past with a variety of men.
The (admittedly few) bisexuals I have met are not like that. They have healthy attitudes towards sex and love. They don't react with fear, and while they aren't mathematically divided right down the middle, they don't lean quite so far to just one side of the spectrum.
But another alternative was that he was simply asexual. While it doesn't seem to get recognized as an orientation, there are people who have no real attraction to anyone, which I imagine must be quite uncomfortable at times. Maybe being perceived as gay was a way to reduce unwanted attention.
The interesting thing is that 21st C society is far less accepting of bi-sexuality than 20th C and more accepting of homosexuality. Human sexuality seems to be on a sliding scale between pure homosexuality and pure heterosexuality. Society isn't comfortable with this, society wants you to be one or the other. It's like politics, you have Labour and Tory, there should be anything in between, like the Libdems.
If a bi-person is in a same sex relationship there is pressure for that person to declare themselves "Gay" and if they are in an opposite sex relationship they get pressure to either declare themselves straight or end the relationship. If we were absolutely free of peer pressure there'd be a lot of people in the middle. I believe Mr. Humphries problems were related to being in the middle, he was attracted to men, he was attracted to women and he never was satisfied with either. He would have been perfectly fit to a threesome.
His development was also severely stunted, he can't grow up and form adult relationships, he is forever momma's boy.
Elton John is bisexual. He was married once - to a woman.
Mr Humphries was sexually ambiguous. It would have been easy to make him homosexual. The character was not homosexual, but camp. He could have been heterosexual, and in fact this was confirmed in the unmade third series.
According to an interview with John Inman, he did not consider Mr.Humphries to be gay, but rather a "mama's boy" who was too shy, too old-fashioned and possibly too afraid to be with anyone.
His reactions to any "come hither" from either male or female admirers on both shows were usually confusion and discomfort. Though when pressed he leaned to the female admirers.
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I think Mr Inman's explanation is a good one. Mr Humphries never came across as an active homosexual, more of a repressed celibate who wasn't quite sure if he was Arthur or Martha. In the 'Are You Being Served' movie, a beautiful Spanish waitress throws herself at Mr Humphries and keeps trying to seduce him. At one point he looks almost tempted to do something about it, but in the ends gets frightened and has to phone his mother!
A very similar real life case was Kenneth Williams. He was certainly gay, but seemed to much prefer drooling over gorgeous men from afar to actually doing anything much with them. Also a man very close to and devoted to his mother.