Whether he was upset or not, if I walked in on my son having trashed almost ALL my electronic things in my apartment, including a stereo...I would have broken his face! I could see one item, but he trashed the entire place!!!!
Clearly you need to find some better way of fixating your anger, perhaps chess or boxing??
Dede was such a lax parent when it came to discipline with Fred. She let him call her names, never mind he calls her Dede and not Mom (WTH?), misbehave in school (playing backwards), he's rude beyond belief in he basically tells her she's stupid, tells the world that she is dead just because he's mad at her, nothing is ever good enough for that kid.
I felt bad that he was lonely, but he was so spoiled and so blah how could he have friends?
How do you parent a child that's smarter than you? I thought she did a pretty decent job considering that she had absolutely no support whatsoever from her parents or a husband. The one thing I'd actually criticize is the fact that Fred walks around all by himself in the city, wow really at age 7? Times really have changed, you just don't see that anymore. He almost seemed like a latchkey kid.
His teacher called him mentally retarded, how would you react? His mother didn't seem to respect that teacher either. The playing backwards thing seemed like a ruse to try and hide his genius to the other kids. A little girl calls him a freak when he's walking to the piano. How would you react if you were a 7 year old? Play beautifully and encourage the kids to harass you even further? Most kids who are teased tend to do the same thing and keep a low profile.
Also, he never technically calls her stupid, but his mother sold his piano and he was mad at her. So he wanted her to feel bad like he did. Didn't you ever say immature things out of anger to your mother? I remember being 4 or 5 years old and being scolded by my mother. I carved the word MEAN into the coffee table. That's how children react whether they're geniuses or average.
As for exclaiming that his mother was dead, I personally didn't get that either. I didn't think he was angry at his mother, he was distraught and made an outrageous claim for reasons I can't understand. Children don't do things just because they want to be evil or misbehave. . Children say and do things because they are hurt, lovely, sad (remember Fred exclaims that he's pensive before leaving his mom), angry. I remember being a teenager and my defense mechanism was to not speak at all. My mother always thought I was "angry at her," but what she didn't realize (and never did) was that I was depressed and needed someone to talk to. I never got that, but I've since evolved from the childish attitude of pouting and never saying what's wrong.
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Helenlaurence
7 years ago
I agree with what you say- but I think he says she was "dead" because he felt abandoned by here- and it was the only way he could understand it in his 7 year old mind.
He probably wanted to punish her in some way, too.
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