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Geez People, Lay off of Annie

posted 15 years ago by monique79
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It amazes me to see how much people hate Annie or say she is spoiled.

In the movie she came off as an educated, accomplished, well rounded girl who recently graduated college and unexpectedly met a man and is going to marry him.

Her dad through out the movie wanted to play down her wedding like the backyard BBQ reception comment. He had issues with letting her go so he went against the plans, it was not her doing at all. I don't think her plans (exception of the swans) were too extravagant, especially for a man who owns a successful company. Annie got caught up with the mom and the wedding planners in the excitement, she didn't demand anything, she just wanted to follow her dream, what woman wouldn't?

It would not have been that expensive if George would have just let the in-laws chip in as well. I don't think he should have flown in the Danish relatives, they should have flown themselves in, or the grooms family should have. That's not Annie's problem George had an ego.

I thought it was a very cute movie.

[–] anotherloverholeinurhead 15 years ago

I never thought Annie was running up bills on purpose... I always thought she wanted a beautiful wedding that got more and more expensive as other people fed her ideas.
The only problem I had with the movie was when George sees Annie sleeping on the couch reading "How to Have a Cheap Wedding" type magazine and he says... from that point on I just went with the flow or something like that. Then a few scenes later he is still seen fussing about stuff.
Dude, your daugther was brought to the brink of a redneck wedding because of your attitude... you realize and acknowledge your mistake.. then a scene or two later.. you're right back to being a miser.

[–] Erica152 15 years ago

I love Annie. I never thought of her as a bitch or spoiled. She is sweet, and she and I are very similar!

George: Drive safely and don't forget to fasten your condoms!
Annie: Dad!

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[–] thereseuphemiaabernathy 10 years ago

I love Annie. I never thought of her as a bitch or spoiled. She is sweet, and she and I are very similar!

Then you ought to be proud. :) I like her a lot, too. I love all the characters! Especially George and "Frahnk." x-3
George and Annie are both major over-reactors--by admission! And boy, does my entire family (including me) relate to George's little assessment of theirs. :P Neither character is supposed to be really dislikable, despite any or all of their less-than-ideal actions...

Saluki mom

[–] andie-redhead 15 years ago

My only issue is that she wanted to marry young. 22 is still VERY YOUNG. Why throw away her life to many some guy? I'm mad that the parents actually allowed it. I'm almost 25 and I STILL couldn't ever think of marrying now. That's silly!

[–] fidelio1980 15 years ago

She was completely unappreciative of the fact that her father was paying for an extremely expensive, extravagant wedding. You would have thought she was paying for the wedding herself, and the father was disturbed because he'd have to take the day off from work to attend, or something!

[–] jooooooos 15 years ago

All these she's too young comments are starting to bother me! I'm 22 and just got married this past month. All this crap about experiencing everything before you marry and living life to the fullest is BS! I have more experiences than most my age and feel I lived my single life fully. I would not think twice about getting married at such a young age because I was ready. It's a decision every person makes themselves! I was ready, you may not be but don't knock other people's relationships & choices.

"Hey pretty?... What the hell did you do to your haaand?"

[–] TheJoker_3 15 years ago

You're only 22, so you say you feel that way now, but you won't feel that way in 10 or 20 years time. 22 is way too young, and what we think at 22 will definitely not be the same later down the track, you will regret it.

[–] angelayla 14 years ago

"You're only 22, so you say you feel that way now, but you won't feel that way in 10 or 20 years time. 22 is way too young, and what we think at 22 will definitely not be the same later down the track, you will regret it."

Did you ever think that maybe there are a lot of people that marry anywhere from the ages of 18 to 25 and DON'T end up regretting it? My mother was 16 when she married. She's now 56 and still married and happy. Maybe you wouldn't be happy or some other people wouldn't be happy, but don't tell other people how they're going to feel or try to trash their happiness about it.

[–] anniebel 14 years ago

Well said angelayla. I was married at 21 and have been for over thirty years now. I don't regret it for one minute. It was the best decision I ever made. When will people learn not to make sweeping statements?

[–] Allbymyself 10 years ago

Your post is over four years old, but I wanted to reply anyway...thank you for sharing!

My husband and I were both 21 when we married. We'll be celebrating 22 years next month. I'm SO glad we got married! He's a wonderful husband and I'm very lucky. We have three awesome kids, aged 19, 16, and 13. When our youngest graduates from high school, we'll be just 48 years old...able to really enjoy our time together. We are best friends and I can't imagine my life any other way. I love him more today than I did when we married and that's saying a lot. The only people who project their own ridiculous, hate-filled comments on others are people who are themselves miserable. Too bad for them!

Oh, and my parents? My dad was 22 and my mom was 21 when they married. They just celebrated 52 years in May. They have five kids and 14 grandkids. They still chase each other around the house and there's a lot of love and laughter there. Great examples for the rest of us!

Son. Just don't. ~Captain America

[–] HarveyManfredSinJohn 10 years ago

I don't wish any misery on happy, successful, rich people. Good for them. But I do think people should be reminded every once in a while that the type of lifestyles you see in films like this are most definitely not the norm for most people in the US/Western Europe, let alone the rest of the world, and for people who have studied and worked hard it can rankle to read/hear people talk about how Annie 'wasn't lucky/spoiled/privileged' for having the big lavish wedding of her dreams. For most people in what I'd describe as the 'real world', such a wedding is a fantasy, and it's distressing to read so many women talk about the 'ideal (i.e. expensive) wedding ceremony' which most men simply cannot afford in the present economic climate.

I thought people weren't as shallow and materialistic as this anymore.

Anyway, you know how many women are offended/feel belittled by models/actresses in magazines, and worry that they don't have the 'perfect body', well films like this and other 'wedding movies'/romantic comedies in which the male lead treats his female partner by spoiling her materially make men feel just as bad if not worse.

If you don't look like a supermodel...go to a gym, or simply lay off the cakes and take up regular running. If you're not wealthy however what are you meant to do? Rob a bank?

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[–] shrilltrills 12 years ago

Telling someone that you don't even know that they'll regret getting married at a certain age is not cool.

I personally think it's better to wait until after 25 to get married. You're more mature and more likely to know what you want. At 22, you're still forming your identity and your brain isn't fully developed. The divorce rate is significantly higher for people who marry under 25. That being said, people are different. For some people, getting married at 22 could be right.

I do think that if you want an extravagant wedding, YOU should be paying for it, not your parents. Annie and Bryan, being adults, should have paid for their own wedding.

RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH! - Eric Cartman

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[–] kellymariekitty 10 years ago

My parents met when they were 12 yrs old.
Married at 18, 2 kids by 24 and still together.

They have been married 37 yrs now.

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[–] TheJoker_3 15 years ago

True, the father over-reacted to things like the cake, but Annie COULD have pulled back a bit when things got out of control. For example, when it came out that it would cost $250.00 a head. That is a STAGGERING amount of money, and you'd think that when she heard that figure, she would have looked at what she could have taken out, ie swans. And the honeymoon limo. And the new clothes for everyone. And what was with the renovations inside the house, when people were going to be outside? She also said they only wanted a small wedding, so why almost 500 guests? Not all of them were relatives. Even Nina and George had invited friends and associates, which, unless they personally know Annie, is unneccessary and completely frivolous. Who invites work colleagues to your child's wedding, if they have never met your child? That is so impersonal. Why not invite the local postman too? (I have no doubt the Banks did just that, and their hairdresser, and the butcher...) At my wedding and others I have been to, its simply friends and family of the bride and groom, not friends, associates, colleagues of the PARENTS of the bride.

My point is though Annie might not have been spoiled per se, she still could have, and should have, put her foot DOWN when she saw the $250.00 a head price tag. She contradicted her original request for a small wedding and knowingly made it into something to rival a royal wedding. She knew, and did nothing to stop it.

[–] cabrown482 14 years ago

Somebody earlier made a comment that because Annie was reading on how to have a cheap wedding, she was going to have a redneck wedding. I beg to differ. My husband and I's wedding only cost maybe $150 dollars and it was a beautiful wedding. It wasn't fancy, but it was tasteful, and nice. You can do it, if you know how. Another thing, I was 20 and he was 21 when we were married, and by the time I was 22, I had a six month old, beautiful baby girl. Don't get down on something you don't know much about. My husband and I will be married 8 years in Nov. That's almost 10 years, and I still feel the same about him now as I did then. People shouldn't jump to conclusions about things unless they've been through them themselves. Its judgmental.
What did you do, Ray?

[–] Maxopoly 13 years ago

first off I'd like to say the father did overreact about everything but it kind of made sense since it was his only daughters wedding, but I had hoped when he noticed her willing to have a cheat wedding that he would have relaxed.

annie was awesome.
22 is not too young. It is no ones place to say when someone is ready. If they're an adult and happy let them make those mistakes. I think the most disturbing comment I saw was "parents shouldn't allow this" she's not 16 she's 22. Wouldn't you rather have a joyous occasion with ur kid instead of say crap that will force them to run off marry and resent you. You don't have to like it but at least spend that moment with them. Births, weddings, etc.. Are things that should be required for joy. Parents who think they can control every aspect of an adult childs life is ridiculous. Put urself in their shoes.. When you were 22 did you want ur parents telling you what to do? No you didn't.
some cultures in the united states have brides getting married at like 19 and find it odd other cultures get married in their 30s.

"I'm not bad I'm just drawn that way." Jessica Rabbit

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[–] LukeLovesFilm28 9 years ago

Like most modern feminist girls out there, Annie didn't see or care what the wedding was doing to George. Jesus. Bryan's parents were loaded. She should have pressured Brian to push his parents to help with the costs. But, no. A man is moneybags to women like Annie and Nina. That doesn't even afford a man dignity and respect that he deserves... like Spencer Tracy was given in the original classic. George was treated like a joke to Annie and Nina.

[–] kellymariekitty 8 years ago

Yes exactly, i dont understand how and why does George have to pay to fly over the Danish relatives??????? Why cant they pay themselves????
I know its old fashioned foe the brides family to pay but Brians dad is a millionaire and Brian knew that - he did NOTHING to help pay for HIS OWN WEDDING!!!! Skinflint - its common decency to pay for your own wedding, not allow the brides parents to pay for it all especially when you know your family is worth flaming millions & your brides family isnt.

$143000 on a wedding - are they *beep* insane???????????
Annie - get some perspective a little & not go nuts.
But personally at 22 i was working & still in college so i probably would have paid for my own flaming wedding.

[–] sharkmanface 13 years ago

You Bastards, LEAVE ANNIE ALOOOONE!!!! LEAVE HER ALONE I'M SERIOUS!!!!! She just had a hard time she lost her head, SHE'S A HUMAN BEING!!! LEAVE ANNIE ALONE!!!!

[–] Crazy_Bi_Guy 13 years ago

If you do the math on the head count and the cost per head, George is spending $143,000 on her wedding. That's insane. Not to mention, this was 20 years ago.

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[–] RoadSideAssistance 13 years ago

$250 per head is quite a bit back in 1991. You're definitely open bar at that point (all alcohol) and going for a filet/lobster theme. With inflation that's $400 per head today. That is flat out outrageous. Some of the most expensive weddings are around $300/head today. That includes FULL bar, lobster, filet, etc.

I still fail to see how they even reached $150,000.

$250/head * let's just say 200 heads = $50,000.
Dress (VERY NICE) = $10,000
Remodeling home = $10,000
Cake = $1,000
Clothes for family = $5,000
Plane tickets for stupid Denmark folks = $5,000

So Frans and his partner AFTER food were $65,000 or so? Give me an f'ing break.

Regardless, Annie ran up a ton of unnecessary costs. And then not to even dance with your own father!? WTF! You MAKE time for that. Go find him and give the guy a dance. Selfish.

[–] jackscoloncancer 13 years ago

In the movie they said the head count was around 500, not 200. And they had to buy nine tickets round trip from Denmark, which would prolly be more than five grand.

Again, RIDICULOUS to have that big a wedding that costs that much. Annie was awesome but they could have cut costs and still had a gorgeous wedding.

Back off man, I'm a scientist.

[–] Crazy_Bi_Guy 13 years ago

ZeRO4U-
I went by the headcount given in the movie of 571. Which actually equals $142,750. But you bring up a good point about the extra cost.

[–] RoadSideAssistance 13 years ago

571!?!??!

Holy crap. That sure didn't look like 571 but if that's truly real then $150K is really no surprise. That's still $250 or so per head which is a very nice wedding.

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[–] jacc1515 10 years ago

$250 per head is quite a bit back in 1991. You're definitely open bar at that point (all alcohol) and going for a filet/lobster theme. With inflation that's $400 per head today. That is flat out outrageous. Some of the most expensive weddings are around $300/head today. That includes FULL bar, lobster, filet, etc.

I still fail to see how they even reached $150,000.

$250/head * let's just say 200 heads = $50,000.
Dress (VERY NICE) = $10,000
Remodeling home = $10,000
Cake = $1,000
Clothes for family = $5,000
Plane tickets for stupid Denmark folks = $5,000

So Frans and his partner AFTER food were $65,000 or so? Give me an f'ing break.

Regardless, Annie ran up a ton of unnecessary costs. And then not to even dance with your own father!? WTF! You MAKE time for that. Go find him and give the guy a dance. Selfish.

I agree. Annie was a total jerk. I hope her husband cheated on her with her friends constantly. Annie then became an angry alcoholic and abused pills then in a sad attempt to get back at Bryan, she had a sad, pathetic attempt at an affair with the pizza delivery boy and even he wouldn't touch her because of her now flabby arms and out of control pubic hair growth. Hopefully she did the noble thing at that point and get in the family car and turn in on while sitting in the garage....and leaving at least some of her life insurance $ to her poor broke dad.

I like standing next to you Sean....it makes me look so tough.

[–] dabukaba 8 years ago

I agree. Annie was a total jerk. I hope her husband cheated on her with her friends constantly. Annie then became an angry alcoholic and abused pills then in a sad attempt to get back at Bryan, she had a sad, pathetic attempt at an affair with the pizza delivery boy and even he wouldn't touch her because of her now flabby arms and out of control pubic hair growth. Hopefully she did the noble thing at that point and get in the family car and turn in on while sitting in the garage....and leaving at least some of her life insurance $ to her poor broke dad.

If that were the plot to the sequel, I know I'd watch it.

[–] smithhedgehog 13 years ago

I'm a guy, and I think she was gorgeous in every conceivable way

[–] monique79-1 13 years ago

With people getting married young, in the movie Annie was in grad-school and near graduating. She received an education, I'm sure had her fun single time, and traveled the world, I don't think she was rushing into marriage.

I am 32 and have been dating my boyfriend for two years. I spent my 20's dating around, earning a degree, traveling the country, living on my own, and being solely financially responsible. When I was 26 I was upset I wasn't married by 25, now, I am so greatful I wasn't! I do hope to get engaged within the next year and start that phase of my life.

I tell my younger cousins to enjoy their 20's, really get to know who they are, travel, experience life, see if they can really do it on their own, sans parents or roommates. Once you're married, hopefully, you're married for life, it's important to do everything you wanted to before marriage and have no regrets.

Now, as far as the perfect age, it doesn't exist, it's subjective. I think anyone whose been able to do what I wrote above and is not jumping into marriage should get married if the time is right for them, age though, that's just a number.

[–] PiperCharmed 13 years ago

Uh, the wedding was ridiculously expensive, and I liked her up until the point where she started acting like her father was being so ridiculous for wanting to cut down the price. It was way too expensive! It's one freaking day. I have a student loan bill that's 3/4 of what that wedding cost, and that was clear back in 1991! George was completely right in his original thinking.

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