I saw this movie 14 years ago and its sentiments still haunt me, to love and consume joy to the point that there is only room left for doubt , loss and disapointment. To quietly walk away and disappear . I have never been able to understand if it was an act of selfishness or sacrifice.
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Its a great film that my ex poet wife introduced me to. I can't help but feel that the irrational ending to my marriage had some parallel with the extremity of what she did too (her brother killed himself and it screwed up our relationship in case you were wondering).
I may raise this issue with her now you've mentioned it!
I would assume perhaps none of you has ever loved, that love that aches.
I think it was a very selfish act of joy (the suicide) to die before anything changes, because as we all know, nothing stays the same forever...
it has nothing to do with love, or having friends (silly and simplistic commentary) or any thing of that sort...only love at its purest,
in spanish they say
amar es el empieze de la palabra amargura...
quitzet, i agree to the fullest with you. It was selfish and beautiful. One of the best movies ever.
Oh, and what does this mean?
amar es el empieze de la palabra amargura...
amar = to love
amargura = bitterness
amar es el comienzo de la palabra amargura...
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love is the beginning of the word bitterness
One strong lesson I take from this movie, is that you cannot allow one person to be your entire life. It creates too much dependency on that one person, and promotes a greater fear that if they leave, you'll have nothing left. Having friends can reduce that pressure and fear. Talking to friends can provide some perspective and help you see things more clearly.
It is quite an adolescent notion, isn't it; wanting to live only the intense, exciting part of life and avoid all the boring bits. But it seems to me that that was what the film was about. It was/is the adolescent fantasy of a middle-aged-to-elderly man.
sharei took her suicide to mean that the night they had just experienced and the love they showed each other that night was her idea of perfection and she couldn't bear the thought of losing any part of that, so for her to preserve the perfection of their love she felt like it must end now whilst at her happiest as she couldn't bare to see it descend into shades of grey.
shareIs there something wrong with me? I thought the ending was an example of absolute triumph of their happiness and was the best decision one could make under the circumstances. It's one of the most positive endings i've ever seen in a film and showed her as courageous and having made the right decision. I've always thought he would be overjoyed at her act because her life had reached a happy climax. I can accept that the notion of romantic love in itself is selfish, but given that we are afflicted by it, it's the best one can do. Other options are admirable, namely, either to live a celibate lifestyle and to stay single, or to develop out of a relationship to a higher ethical plain where one's good deeds wouldn't be compromised by having to put one's family's needs before those of friends or the world as a whole, but if one is committed to a person, it makes sense to do what she did.
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you guys are all a bunch of lame wimps.
waaah. lost love. aching. waaaah.
arobinet, it must have really hurt, whatever made you such an imbecile
sharethere's a song by Pedro Guerra, for those who like this movie. i heard it some time ago and remembered me there was a movie i had to see again because of the impact it caused in me. it's called El Marido De La Peluquera (the title in spanish). it's based in the movie plot.
Arobinet, i think you are one of these guys that judges movies on what happens at the end, or you must have other movie-junkies's vices alike (help me people to advice ones like him what you shouldn't do for enjoying movies you usually couldn't). Please let me know what movies you have seen to make a more accurate diagnosis. We might do you a favor.