Portrait ofa Marriage?More like portrait of abusive lesbian relationship

If you mean the rape scene, I think Vita realises her behaviour had been abhorrent, in her writing on which the book and film are based. She described it thus in her writing (23rd July 1920, Of course I have no right whatsoever to write down the truth about my life).

"I cant describe how terrible it all was - that meeting and everything. It makes me physically ill to write about it and think about it and my cheeks are burning. It was dreadful dreadful.I only wanted to hurt Denys even though he didn't know of it. I make no excuse, except that I had suffered too much during the past week and was really scarcely responsible"

I only wanted to hurt Denys even though he didn't know of it.
A strange concept one of which a normally intelligent woman did something quite illogical, a kind of transference of pain and emotion through a intermediator her lover and passion Violet.

In her thoughts years after the event she realises how bad her behaviour had been and in a sense that is why she wrote the text, a cathartic statement to try and bring some reconciliation with herself and the situation, and of course that is why we have the book and film.

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