Etiquette


There are, of course, hazards with telling the truth. What would/should Cynthia have done, if Graham had responded negatively to her questions about whether he liked the way she looked and whether he thought she was pretty? Should she have thanked him for his honesty or thrown her clothes at him and shouted?

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Anyone?

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Advance to GO; do not collect $200.00. You shouldn't ask a question, if you are not prepared for a truthful answer. (Taken from PM's "Rules of Life After Adolescence".)

(PRN) – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=id-bFpYQzXE

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Good point and thank you for replying. It occurs to me that maybe she just asked out of habit! Maybe she always wants the guy to assure her she's pretty because it's a turn-on when he says he does (whether he does or not being another matter ...)
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This question is a trap. It asks a man an impossible question. She wants to turn the focus and preoccupation to her charms, purely for the reason of seduction. If not for sex, for the man's mind. It keeps him in the sexual/sensual zone. What kind of an answer can he give? If he doesn't want to end the conversation immediately it had better be positive. This type of question is not for the purpose of an answer, but for manipulation.

(PRN) – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=id-bFpYQzXE

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I cannot recall how much, if anything, Cynthia knew about Graham's determination to stick to telling the truth. I hope that when she did twig that he would not have lied, it gave her ego a nice boost that he was telling the truth.

It does seem a bit sad that she should feel less pretty than Ann, although obviously bonking John is not a very mature response to sibling rivalry.
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My philosophy on this is that if a person is unprepared for certain answers, then they don't have any business asking questions... I prize honesty when it comes to emotional matters and not practical ones. If I thought I was going to mortally offend someone by speaking the truth then I'd settle for the "I'd rather not say" response, instead!

In a situation where he were being candid, then she should respect that decision by trying not to make a scene...






I'm gonna take this itty-bitty site by storm... I'm just gettin' warm.

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Ive always got the impression that graham was lying when cynthia asked him if he thought she was pretty.That he knew that's what she wanted to hear and that not only did it make her feel good (sad, i think everyone is beautiful in ther own way...) but as someone pointed out it kept the conversation going and threw that graham saw her insecurity and found out that she was screwing her sister's husband. I f he had said "no" then she would have become angry and upset and stormed out and graham would never have found out whats beneath her appearence, attitude etc..... and would not have found out about her affair.


I could go on and on but i could be wrong on all of it lol.

:)

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But if he lied about that, what else might he have lied about?

Anyway, if he had said, "I wouldn't say pretty, but I do find you sexy", that might have still worked.

It is pretty obvious that he found her sexually attractive or the whole tape would have been pointless. If she had been sexually unattractive, he could just have stopped asking questions and let the conversation dry up and send her away.

Sweet, yet bent on global domination!

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I think he did find Cynthia attractive, theres no reason to believe he lied. Its easy to confuse impotence with not feeling attraction.

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When Cynthia asks if she is prettier than Ann does Graham say different? Graham just isn't attracted to her on that level but Ann's obvious sexual repression and self consciousness in spite of her obvious beauty is infinitely more fascinating to him.

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