While I agree that he wasn't all that great of a husband, he is not the sole reason for the marriage falling apart.
1) She did not complain when his long hours and career driven work ethic gave her the money to refurnish and upgrade the house.
2) The issues did not arise until she became bored due to her previous duties (upgrading the house, taking care of the kids, keeping the house) were now complete.
In response to the original posts comments.
1) She was carrying on and did not realize the dinner party was not paying attention to her story. My wife corrects me sometimes when I mispronounce words in front of guest or get a piece of a story wrong. I do not consider it belittling me, yet when a man does it to a woman it's degrading her some how? Plus after that part of the story line they made up and Oliver apologize in his own way and Barbara accepted it. That was not the catalyst for the divorce, it was when he carelessly killed the fly while reading her contract and with her contract.
2)He did not dismiss her idea. I think he was kind of confused about it. He was making all the money and didn't understand. Had he dismissed it he would have told her not to do it. He even went as far as suggest she hire a housekeeper to help her with house duties so she could engulf herself in her business. I would have agreed if you said he didn't show any interest in it.
3) I don't think this is fair. They were at the boiling point at this junction in the story line. Oliver just reached the limit before Barbara. I could argue her antics were also shown to spill into his work when his boss asked him to take "time off."
4) Again unfair since this was in response to her locking him in the sauna.
5) It was an accident. I don't agree with his initial choice to hide it, but the housekeeper hid it also. He finally told her when she confronted him, he could have chosen to lie about it until she figured it out on her own. It was indeed an accident. The point you're missing here is by this junction in the story they were already at one another's throats and common courtesies were out the window.
He never insulted her intelligence or her career. He may not have thought much of her career as I said, but he never insulted it. Despite his opinion of it he attempted to help her although she did not appreciate that help yet she accepted it. (the maid/housekeeper) His correction and cutting her off at the dinner party was not insulting her intelligence. I thought he did it tactfully and without disrespect to her. You obviously did not see the entire dinner party (WOMEN INCLUDED) ignoring her drawn out story.
I don't think it was too much to ask for her to tell him why. It would've been nice if she gave him REAL reasons and not just the results of why, "I can't watch you sleep, eat, or be in my presence" were all results of the reason and not the reason. So, of course he would go about thinking it was repairable and confused about the reason. Despite what you think...from his perspective she didn't have a good reason....she didn't tell him.
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