Love, not age


Now, I'm a big fan of the fifties. I almost only listen to music from the 50's and the 60's - it's great! I'd love to live in that time.
I freaked out when I found out Jerry Lee was alive. This may sound stupid, but I had to start somewhere. As I loved Jerry's music, I started to find out more and more about his life.
I there's one thing I have made out of my research, then it is that Jerry and Myra loved eachother, and concidering that, the age isn't a big deal. Am I right? I mean; love has no age. And it's not like Jerry was fifty or something.

By the way, does somebody know Jerry's fan-address?

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not a clue about the address but you were the one that agreed with me first and im now happy that there is a thread about because youre right love has no age in the words of Jerry Lee "they cancelled the tour because of our marrige not because my music." everybody thought the music sucked because he was married to somebody that was younger then him and is his cousin did you know that out of the famous people that were signed at sun records out of the 2 that are alive jerry lee is one and the other is carl perkins

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Yeah, I completely agree with you guys. I've always thought age shouldn't be a factor at all, it really is just a number. My parents really don't agree with me about that, I'm going to have problems with them when I get married, i expect. Oh well. And yeah, I'm embarrassed to say I also wasn't aware that Jerry Lee Lewis was still alive until a little while ago.

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Yeah, I completely agree with you guys. I've always thought age shouldn't be a factor at all, it really is just a number.
So you dont care if a 30 year old has sex with a 8 year old? You're SICK

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My boyfriend and I have an eleven year age difference (I'm 19 and he's 30). When I look at him, I don't see a thirty year old man. I see the man I'm in love with! HOWEVER, I do think thirteen is way to young to settle down and get married.

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I don't think age is a big deal either. As long as your old enough that is. But honestly noone is in a real relationship with an 8 year old. If they are then the person involved is a child molester, etc. Now if you're 30 and fall in love with a 50 year old that shouldn't matter as long as it's love and you are okay with the age difference. I mean, I know this couple with a 25 year age difference (I had no idea until my mom told me, the guy really didn't look old at all and the wife didn't look any 25 years younger than him) and they are very religious people at my church, so I mean it really shouldn't matter. Age is just a number and anyone messing with a child is a molester in the first place. Love involves 2 people and an 8 year old has no idea what love is or that they are being violated.

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I agree age is no factor on love. But I say this from personal experience my boyfriend is 6 years older than me. My parents are 10 years apart. So I've just been around it my entire life.

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Erm, age is a huge factor. Sorry but I have to disagree with almost all of this. It's not the number of years between them, its the fact that she was a literal child when she married him. There is a difference in a 23 year old marrying a 40 year old and a 13 year old marrying a 30 year old. You do so much growing mentally in those essential years. I personally know two women who were married at near the same age as Myra and both women are clearly underdeveloped. They have some life experience sure, but never got to grow up. He was in the wrong and if he really loved her, he'd have waited.

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Yes, thank you for saying that. A lot of people are defending his behavior and molestation. There is no way a 13 year old can be mature enough to choose to marry someone! Think about it. What if an old man, 30 for instance, married and was having intercourse with your 13 year old little sister!

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Totally agree!! That girl was a child when he married her and her parents should have contested it. He was no better than a pedophile.

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It's why we have the statutory rape law.

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Age shouldn't be a factor in love, but at 13 you're still a child

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I am not defending him but wasn't Jerry Lee himself 14(and his wife 17) when he married his first wife, from what I've read teenage weddings weren't exactly the least common thing in that region and in the era

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Jerry Lee and Myra later divorced. There are some well-known marriages that can survive a huge age gap (the one that springs to mind is Sophia Loren and Carlo Ponti) but for the most part, if there's a significant age difference, they don't last long.

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Well i do very much agree with the love not age.
But, it still is considered rape.
I know if i was to put it my way..
like as if i was Myra and i married my older cousin...
i would think it wasnt wrong because they did love each other.
BUT in real life, then ended up divorcing anyways!
so yeah.
AND another reason why i dont think Jerry and Myra getting married was because jerry wasnt forcing myra.
Myra could have said no.


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sh*t, i couldn't tie my laces when i was 13 LOL

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Age is a BIG difference when it comes to teenagers. Even between two teens, like if one was 17 and the other is 13. The teenage years are formative years and a 13 yo is still learning things about their body while a 17 yo's (especially a boy) hormones are out of control. Also their sense of judgement and decision making varies no matter how mature they think they are. Even when they're older, a big generational gap can make a difference in terms of lifestyle and taste but at least it'll be legal. It's usually better if the older one is more youthful in outlook and POV.

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I agree with those of you who have stated that even if age is not a problem when two people are in love, it BECOMES one when a child is involved. Let's be honest, NO ONE at 13 is ready and mature not only to commit but face the difficulties of a marriage, a husband and future children. Our bodies at 13 aren't finished growing yet and many girls at 13 haven't even gotten their periods!No wonder the law punishes it...think about it, maybe this time the law has something to tell us: we are not adults at 13 to make life decisions, specially marriage.

A message to the 19-year-old girl dating an older guy: not even you were ready to marry that older guy you love when you were 13 so please stop making those remarks. Marriage is not romantic and nice all the time, it has its highs but it has its downs also and I don't suppose you work and cook and clean and do the laundry and go to the supermarket AND have to be thin and happy to your boyfriend so unless you are in the situation you can't imagine the level of commitment a marriage means.

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loves is what counts. Age is not that important however i have to agree that 13 is too young to know what kind of commitment marriage involves. If she was 23 and he was 40, it wouldn't matter that much, but she's a child, only 13. Come on guys.

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There is an 18 years difference in my girlfriend and my age...and we do love each other.

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My boyfriend is 15 years older than me, but we didn't know each other when I was 13. If we had, our relationship would be quite different. When I was 13, he would have been a 28-yr-old grown-up and would have seen me as a child, not an eligible woman.

Now that we are both adults, we're on the same playing field- one that isn't creeepy. And actually there are a lot of factors that make us compatible. Like, neither of us has ever been married, neither of us has any kids, we're both just starting out in new careers. If these things were different, I'd probably have no interest in him.

As it is, we're madly in love and can laugh about things like him voting when I was in kindergarten. It wouldn't be funny if he had been baby-sitting for me at the time.

That said, I don't think it was that uncommon for women to marry very young in Jerry Lee's time. Both my grandmothers were married by 16, scandal-free. 13 might be at the young end, but probably people then felt the way we now feel about 18-yr-olds getting married. It seems really young, but there's not really anything wrong with it.

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Regaurdless of your assumptions about "back then" the issue of him marrying his 13 year old cousin completely destroyed his career, split his family, and got his music banned, and often burned literally. So I'm guessing since it destroyed everything, it was a bit of an issue, even back then.





It's "must have", "should have", "could have", and "would have". For God's sake there's no "of".

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I know this crap is old but jesus people, he wasn't a middle aged man. He was 22 almost 23, they're only 9 10 years apart.

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Is she 13 years-old?

This will be the high point of my day; it's all downhill from here.

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Yeah, knocking up a 13-year-old girl is just AWESOME because they're in LOVE!!

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it is rape. rape RAPE. OF THE WORST KIND
BUT SINCE I LOVE MUSICA AND ADORE PRETTIE WINONA ACTIN'SKILLS AS WELL AS HANDSOME GOOD LOOKING DENNIS QUAID i fell in love with the musical/movie etc
of his well his NOT SO GREAT LIFE.

but do not condone men marrying and or RAPING A CHILD.EVER!
AND MOTHERS WHO ARE GREAT MOTHERS LOVING GOOD DADS/MOMS WOULD HAVE Had him in
jail doing up to 3 to 5 years to teach him a good lesson,as i am going to be
or even longer as if this happened with my girls.

but the movie/acting scores a high 10 imo.great GREAT REAL TRUE TO LIFE acting
and i still love the song,great balls of fire,awesome instant hit back then and
i love it but was NOT born during this time.

adios!
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it is rape. rape RAPE. OF THE WORST KIND as this was not just RAPE/BUT INCEST
RAPE,PUKE.....yuck yuck yuck and ignorant dad ONLY THINKING ABOUT BECOMING RICH$$ said, uhhh ok,but love the part of the movie when J.D WAS GOING TO Blow
dennis(jerry)head off lmfao i loved it and completely understand why of course.
RAPE IS RAPE IMO..



BUT SINCE I LOVE MUSICA AND ADORE PRETTIE WINONA ACTIN'SKILLS AS WELL AS HANDSOME GOOD LOOKING DENNIS QUAID i fell in love with the musical/movie etc
of his well his NOT SO GREAT LIFE.

but do not condone men marrying and or RAPING A CHILD.EVER!
AND MOTHERS WHO ARE GREAT MOTHERS LOVING GOOD DADS/MOMS WOULD HAVE Had him in
jail doing up to 3 to 5 years to teach him a good lesson,as i am going to be
or even longer as if this happened with my girls.

but the movie/acting scores a high 10 imo.great GREAT REAL TRUE TO LIFE acting
and i still love the song,great balls of fire,awesome instant hit back then and
i love it but was NOT born during this time.

adios!
[email protected]

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"Normal"? I don't think so. Maybe in the South....

This will be the high point of my day; it's all downhill from here.

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My uncle married a 13 year old in the 50's and they are still married today.

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What could possibly be the problem when a 22 year-old, twice married bigamist has sex with a barely pubescent 13 year-old cousin? Perfectly natural.

The South will rise again!



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Here's a little perspective on the situation. When they got married, Jerry Lee Sr. was nine years older than Myra. Myra was 10 years older than Jerry Lee Lewis Jr., Jerry Lees's son.


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All that means is your thinking with your hangy down thing. Yes, looks matter, to an extent, but it's surprising how, as you grow older, you can see the attractiveness in females your age. Plus, you'd be surprised how much they still like the horizontal bop, among other things.

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For people who are saying "love is love," they are not taking into consideration those who cannot rationally consent (children, mentally handicapped, etc.), nor are they taking into consideration immediate blood relatives (can you honestly say with a straight face that it would be "okay" if a father and a daughter wanted to be in a relationship with each other as long as they "loved" each other?).

And sorry to burst everyone's bubble, but in most cases, age DOES matter in relationships, even if the youngest partner is at an appropriate age to give consent.

If you think about it, the divorce rate in the US is already 50%. Half of the US isn't able to make a marriage work; what makes you think a 13-year-old would be able to? The fact of the matter is, is that a child is just not mature or developed enough (mentally) to even grasp the gravity of a marriage.

I was 18 when I got together with my 31-year-old boyfriend. We are now married, me being 27 and him being 40. It was NOT all rainbows and sunshine. Throw in an ex-wife, two kids, an unexperienced girl straight out of high school with no real life experience and a freshly divorced man who already had most of his life together, and things get a little tough.

People who jump into age-gap relationships totally miss the bigger picture in the early stages of the relationship like personal values, beliefs, hobbies, friends, in-laws, past exes, children/step children, and other issues.

You know how weird it is at 18 to sit at the adult table during holidays at your boyfriend's mother's house when everyone in it is at least 13 years older than you, drinking wine (woops! you can't drink! you're not 21!) and talking politics and religion? Things you have no clue about?

Or how weird it is to still suffer from all those residual hormones and emotions from your teen years that you can't necessarily regulate because you're still trying to reach your full maturity because you've never even had a career, a house, or a bill that wasn't in your parents' names?

Or how difficult it is when your partner wants to stay in and go to sleep at 9:00 PM while you are up and ready to go party?

That's just the tip of the iceberg. Age gap relationships are harder than regular relationships. Yes, they can last, but they take a lot of work. The younger person has to be mature enough to handle the responsibility of a long-term relationship and the older person has to be patient. BOTH have to be willing to compromise a lot.



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