what causes men to become violent?


Why do men become violent towards women? Did their mothers abuse them in their childhoods? I have never been with a violent man in a relationship (thank god) but i just want to know what makes men like that?

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A variety of things can contribute to a man becoming violent. In Buck Thurman's case, i believe it stemmed from the abuse he endured from his mother (according to his stories to Tracey), and alot of insecurities and emotional trauma he was going through. This man was badly in need of some psychiatric help and counseling. Unfortunately, in that time, that was rarely offered or talked about.

"I believe that which does not kill you simply makes you...stranger."

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The above poster is right, but many believe that a family history of abuse only makes the tendency to abuse stronger. The ultimate decision of who you become is up to YOU. There are thousands of people who are abused and don't grow up to do it themselves. Its a free will choice.



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Read the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft.

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A better question is why women continue to be attracted to macho, *beep* bad boy types. If you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas.

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A better question is why women continue to be attracted to macho, *beep* bad boy types. If you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas.


A lesson for you dipsh!t. There are plenty of men out there who are no good who aren't Bad Boys. Politicians are always getting in to some kind of mess, would you say women went after them because they were bad boys?





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Nice victim blaming.

Snakes. Why'd it have to be snakes?

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I don't think eljefe was necessarily blaming the victims. But their behavior should be addressed as well. There are women who continue to date losers, abusers, freeloaders, etc. Something in their past may be contributing to how they choose who they want to be around, like perhaps, how they saw their mothers in relationships with other men.

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I agree there are women who repeatedly date losers. But there are also abusers who are VERY deceiving and charming at first. They are not always in plain sight and obvious scumbags.

Snakes. Why'd it have to be snakes?

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While some abusers can be charming at first, there are always at least SOME kind of warning signs in the beginning of the relationship. I was very briefly in one myself, and I ignored the verbal 'jabs' I heard at first. I thought I was overreacting, my mom told me the same thing etc. etc.

But long story short, there are always some kind of warnings or red flags.



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"Didn't he discover America?"
"Penfold, shush."

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