She slept with her husband's cousin. The Ghost always made it known that he loved Babs. The way he stopped at the side of the road to hear her pregnant stomach and the way he kissed Babs instead of the "Miss Magnolia winner. The Ghost deserves to commended the way he forgived her when he finally found out.
shareI agree with that. I didnt like her.
shareAlso..don't forget when Cake and John Goodman's character surprised the Ghost when he was on the road and were in the motel room frolicing with those groupies while the Ghost was off by himself no doubt missing Babs...
Whore.
"How'd ya know my name was Mac?" - Mac
I totally agree. Ghost was as good a man to his woman as any husband has been IMO. I would have kicked the bitch to the curb.
shareCheating one time does not make a woman a slut. Sure it was a mistake, but humans make a lot of mistakes.
shareIf you watch the deleted scenes, Gavin sleeps with Darlene Kiely, Bolling Kiely catches them and he shoots his wife. While the police investigation is taking place Babs is there, she's pissed. I don"t know why since she already balled Cake.
shareBased on these posts, I am not sure if we watched the same movie. Yes I admit Babs had her indiscretion with Cake. But the Ghost was not an angel. The scene where he was running the bleachers and Babs walked up. They got into some heavy petting in the walkway of the stadium. She told him to 'Stop. I can't. I don't want to be like all the others, what do you call them, punchboards.' Ghost said, 'Oh Babsie.' and looked away. She replied 'Gavin, don't you think I know. I don't care about that.' This leads me to believe he had been with other women in college. Then later Gavin retires and goes out with the boys. Cake brings over some chinese food. Babs opens a bottle of wine and says 'Lord how many nights have I sat at home alone while Gavin is out with the boys. Of course the boys are not always Just Boys. They say the double standard is practically born in the South.' This suggests to me that she knows he has had affairs but being a true Southern woman, you just look the other way. Lets also not forget Gavin was a hero on campus and in the NFL early on. You know he had lots of offers. Do you really think he turned all of them down?
shareAgreed. Babs was a slut for sleeping with her husband's relative. Especially considering how loving the Ghost was to her.
shareDidn't read the book, but I'd say most of you guys are completely cracked, for Bab's certainty when she tells Cake that evenings with the guys weren't only just the guys, indicates that she'd lived with rose colored glass regarding her husband's fidelity until they were eventually knocked off.
We're given the impression that as much as Babs is saying, she's really holding back how much she isn't. We're never told exactly how she made the determination of her husband's affairs, but in the sixties it was usually told to a woman by their gynecologist.
I believe that's the theme of the entire film. The idealistic dreams of young and the systematic stripping away of those dreams as life progresses.
I agree completely. The whole film is about how "real life" can change you. All the innocence and dreams are lost in the shuffle.
Also, people that get married that young have never had the chance to experience life. They have zero idea what marriage entails. They .. especially the women of that time people think it's easy because they've seen it in one of their magazines.
The movies implies that Ghost has multiple affairs and is out with the boys a lot leaving her alone. Usually when a women cheats it's because there is something missing in their life. When men cheat it's to add another notch in their belt. Men and women cheat for different reasons .... completely.
Kelly: I'm under Evelyn Waugh.
Charlotte: Evelyn Waugh was a man.
I agree completely. The whole film is about how "real life" can change you. All the innocence and dreams are lost in the shuffle.
Also, people that get married that young have never had the chance to experience life. They have zero idea what marriage entails. They .. especially the women of that time think it's easy because they've seen it in one of their magazines.
The movie implies that Ghost has multiple affairs and is out with the boys a lot leaving her alone. Usually, when a women cheats it's because there is something missing in their life. When men cheat it's to add another notch in their belt. Men and women cheat for different reasons .... completely.
Kelly: I'm under Evelyn Waugh.
Charlotte: Evelyn Waugh was a man.
i've understood this film to be an accurate depiction of ls-who women.
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I didn't get a sense that Babs loved Gavin after a while, I think it's one of those high school sweetheart types of relationships that end up fizzling out because maybe they married too young and they didn't date others before marrying the right person but they both kinda stuck with it because of the kids and perhaps not wanting to let people down.
Y'know, I could eat a peach for hours
and remember they fell in love in college and married during the '50s -- divorce was not as common or ho-hum-who-cares back then, it was kind of frowned-upon and looked down on. Lots of '50s wives believed it was their duty to persevere through it all and stand by their man no matter what their marriage brought them. and even the college-educated women didn't feel as confident about single-parenting as today
besides, they did briefly separate when he came out of NFL retirement to play with the Broncoes. even though they'd always kept their home in Louisiana, she made it clear when he decided to take the Broncoes offer that she wasn't interested in a football-season home there for she and the kids like they'd had in DC. he came back home because he had no choice and she was the classic "southern belle steel magnolia" who championed the family through tough times
It was getting old, creepy, and annoying the way Cake was still following Babs around. He needed to get a life! But at least he finally got a woman at the end.
shareThe movie was about Gavin and his marriage to Babs, so Cake periodically showing up is the only way he's seen. but it's Gavin who's constantly throwing Cake and Babs together, that's how their friendship starts and he encourages him to visit with her at the restaurant opening and the summer lake house and them leaves them alone (again) the night of his retirement party.
Cake appears to show up at typical celebratory times, when it's just a visit Babs acts like she hasn't seem him for a while (like when he brings her a copy of his new book to the restaurant) and they hadn't seen each other for 10 years when he returns for the college reunion weekend. It's never really clear how much he dated before leaving for his professor job up north but it looks like his longer term relationships came later in life than Babs and Gavin and he was more academic-career driven initially
Cake seemed to foster and nurture an intellectual side to Babs that Gavin hadn't tapped, and it was kind of a slick reflection of the film's theme unfolding over different eras of what women shared with men in relationships - eventually more than just "all we ever talk about is Gavin & Me". and he was like the college beauty-queen fan who'd feel like he'd never get a woman like her -- he wasn't a varsity letterman or frat-guy, he was normal, average, meek and mild-mannered. It seemed fitting that even as he matured and became more confident with his own life, she was like the goddess on a pedestal he'd only ever love from afar and feel lucky to have any relation to at all. and she always took the time to listen to him. lots of guys had a "Babs" in their young past.
and wouldn't the Ghost kick Donnie's "A" for sleeping with his woman?
Was Cake a slut too?