Hello, Everyone,
My first message on here for a long time....
Okay, I watched "She's Gotta Have It" for the first time last night; a long time considering I saw "Do the Right Thing" when it was released in the UK.
I know I'm being really dumb, but can anyone explain to me who the many "dogs" are? I don't get it.
Thank you in advance.
Rich.
It's okay, I worked it out!
It's the guys who are talking about "drinking your bathwater".
Funny - in all these years I have never perceived sleazy heterosexual guys in bars to be "dogs". ;-)
Wishes.
Rich.
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So Nola Darling is a hoe? But Bill Bellamy sleeps around with a bunch of women and he's called a playa? (How to be a Playa)....
I guess it's still socially acceptable for a man to retain his dignity but sleep around but if a woman does the same - she's a hoe.
I agree, the film addresses the double standard that exists for women with more than one sexual partner. She is either a ho, or sick, but many men behave in the same way. I did not exactly like Nola and I think it would have been better if she explained why she did not want to be with just one man. For her to sum it up and say at the end she simply was not a one-man woman, then have the film end...I would have needed a little something more to understand her motives.
shareThat was the whole point. Nola didn't believe she needed to justify or explain her desire to be herself. The film made its viewers question their beliefs about sexual roles by using role reversal. Nola's behavior is more culturally acceptable in American society when it's displayed by men. Women who behave like she did are called "freaks" or "whores." I'm not making a judgement about it one way or the other, it simply is what it is.
shareThe difference in this case, is that she's calling all these guys dogs, when she has no business judging people. Like the pot calling the kettle black. She was simply being hypocritical.
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No,the men had no business judging her----they all tried to make her feel like something was wrong with HER just because she didn't want to settle down with any of them,and they couldn't handle that--however like some posters have said,whenever a man sleeps around,it's considered normal. hAlso, she was referring to the men as "dogs" simply because they were just spouting some lame lines to get her to kick it with them---the "dogs" reference is just part of late '80's African-American slang,that's all.
Not really....if men have multiple relationships, they have to hide them for fear of upsetting the females in the relationships (because it is actually NOT socially acceptable). Nola made no pretense. She hid nothing. She actually flaunted her multiple relationships, which makes her a nasty hoe-bag.
The issue isn't multiple partners over a span of time (which is where we get the socially acceptable thing). The issue is with multiple partners concurrently, and not caring about anyone else's feelings but her own.
hellraiz the retrd fgt
shareI agree with the comments about the double standard, also, taking the Zora Neale Hurston passage at the beginning, I think that even if Nola was inclined to be a one man woman, neither of the three was material for that...she was dealing with the "truth" of the situation and "acting accordingly". Even Jamie, the most seemingly "together" of the three, tried to hang it over Nola's head that if she didn't cut the other two out of her life, he would go with his dancer. Hypocritical.
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