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PLEASE READ...........

posted 16 years ago by kenrogers30-1
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As many of you know who love this movie.......well this movie also plays a special part in my life. I saw this film with the first person I fell in love with. We were in high school, I worked at my uncles video store and we watched it after work and one thing led to another, and it was both our first time. I know many of you will be disgusted, but even though it is the story of a straight couple, my friend and I were not. we are both men. We had been friends for a long time. Shortly after that we graduated and went our seperate ways. Being told by everyone that it was wrong and he went off to get married. I knew it was not wrong, and to this day I have dated others, but know he is the one I am supposed to be with, but I also know it probably will never happen. It is hard to watch this film, hear the songs, etc. Why does life have to be so hard? Please DO NOT reply to this with hate. I miss him very much. I do love the person I am with now, but like so many people say you never lose your feelings for your first love. I wish him and his family well....but I always wonder.......what if.....I think of Lisa and Joe, how no one felt they should be together...and they found a way. I get so upset and think WHAT IF me and Joe just left....yeah that was my friends name. JOE (kind of ironic). We both attended Catholic school. No one knew we were gay. Of course after I graduated people found out I was. He is married now with three kids. I do believe God has a plan for us. And, I kow someday Joe and I will be together, I just do not want to see anyone hurt. Maybe in a different life.

[–] Hollywood-3 16 years ago

get a life *beep*

Dont talk the talk..Walk the walk.

[–] lissa100771-1 16 years ago

No flames from me. That was actually very sweet and I hope you catch up together with your first love again someday.

It was not, after all, so easy to die.

[–] kenrogers30-1 16 years ago

Thank you....It is very nice to know there are truly nice people out there...and the comment was easily ignored. TY again

[–] paulokox 16 years ago

don´t you have friends to talk about this!!!! if don´t, get some...

[–] kenrogers30-1 16 years ago

Yes, I do. Thank you for the response. Sometimes it is nice to just talk to others about it. Do you have a life? If you don't get one, thanks for the rude response.

[–] paulokox 16 years ago

you welcome.
And i doubt you have eh eh

[–] Hollywood-3 16 years ago

Not only does this fool not have friends...but also needs english lessons. Yo...go get some help. No one wants to hear your sob story.

Dont talk the talk..Walk the walk.

[–] herespacedog 15 years ago

very sweet story. sad.
be careful though, sometimes we have a way of building up someone to be something they are not or never were. try to put this ideal out of your mind and be happy where you are and with your choices.

i'm having the best time!

[–] sweetmystique32 15 years ago

I agree with herespacedog's sentiments.

We've all loved and lost, we've all turned left and wondered what would have happened if we had turned right. As much as you love him, maybe it wasn't the same for him. IDK.

Your story made me ache, in part because of my own history but one thing I always force myself to do when I walk that agonizing walk down memory lane is to remember that it wasn't meant to be. It just wasn't. I'm meant to be with the one I'm with now. My boyfriend of 4 years and I both agree, that the reason we kept being with the wrong ppl (before we met) and getting hurt was because we hadn't made the mental, emotional, mature decision to do what was good for ourselves yet, so it's probably good we didn't meet before it was our time because we were different people back then. If we had forced the issue and one or both of us continued to try to make our doomed relationships work, we would have missed out on each other.

Don't idealize, don't romanticize and don't torture yourself anymore. You deserve to be happy. :)

I may be wrong in my personal opinions but I'm still Entitled to them. So Deal !

[–] sweetmystique32 15 years ago

I got this from someone who's momma just didn't love him enough (or maybe too much). He didn't have the balls to post it here so he sent it privately. Please note the fine architecture and depth in which this "person" illustrates given his limited prose.

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" by Hollywood-3 on Sat Aug 15 2009 13:28:30

your boyfriend a fag? coz readin the crap u just wrote - looks like he's either a homo or a sissy...go write a love letter somewhere else u wuss...this is a movie forum...no place for ur sob stories.

"I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow is not looking good either". "
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Note the inventiveness of his signature line, how does he come up with such witty repartee?

You're obviously not here to talk about this movie in any way shape or form. It seems your one goal is to piss ppl off by saying troll-like things (an offense that can get you kicked off of IMDB btw). You mean to tell me you watched "Fire with fire" ? Are you going to admit to that? LOL While you're at it are you also going to admit that this movie prompted you to not only go check it out on IMDB but also see what the message boards say? I noticed you didn't say one thing about the movie or the actors, just attacked random people. I'm curious, what exactly did you expect to find in here? Assuming you watched the movie at all, which I doubt, you do know that this movie is about a love story right?

Does it really escape even your small mind that maybe someone on this board (again a message board for a love story theme movie) might prompt others to want to talk about their own experiences? Is that not logical? How old r u - 12 ?

However old you are, you should know better. Someone should have taught you better.

I may be wrong in my personal opinions but I'm still Entitled to them. So Deal !

[–] Kencrogers300 10 years ago

Hello, I am not sure if your on this site anymore or not. If I replied already personally please accept my apologies. After I read and replied to 'Hollywood-3' I was nervous to comeback and read what other people wrote. As I assumed others would write negative things like himself/herself did. One thing I will never understand is how people can say hurtful things on here. So, thank you for saying nice words. Your words, along with others were very inspiring. My friend Joe from school is still happily married and I am glad he and his family are happy. Am I happy? Yes, I am, single, but happy. Not sure what God has in store for me, but, I am sure it will be a good thing. Again, thank you for putting kind words into your post! I wish you and your partner and family the best.

[–] shakeyspizza70 15 years ago

life is to short. you are lying to yourself and the person you are married to. You should find this person. I would not want to be your wife. Sounds like you need to be honest with her and yourself. Not being rude, but life is short you should not be living in denial.

[–] Kencrogers300 10 years ago

Please accept my apology for late reply.....your response in 2009 did go unnoticed as I was nervous to see any replies after the 'Hollywood' posts. I was never married. In my post Joe is married, and I was dating someone. At that time my left felt empty and my partner knew about Joe and my story with Joe and high school. Since the original post I still have small contact with Joe, but see him and his family on occasion. You are so very right, life is short....and I feel I am honest with myself, and family, but, even as I write this, I could never tell him my feelings. He knows them, but he has a beautiful family and is happy. Your wrote an honest post and I appreciate it very much, nice that you were not rude or mean, just to the point. I am very happy where I am in life....single, but happy. I feel lucky that I was given a chance at love, experienced it, where many others have not. I can only hope others can be happy and in love. It is a beautiful feeling. Thank you for your post, and I am sorry for the long reply....thank you again and have a great weekend.

[–] ElijahLoverx 14 years ago

Thats such a sweet/ sad story...i hope the best for you both and that one day you will be together, even if it just is as friends. Better to have him in your life as just a friend than not at all, right? :) xx

x.Pasa al siguiente nivel.x

[–] tmo811 8 years ago

He has a family. Children. It is definitely not in God's plan to bust up an innocent family like that.
Not trying to be harsh,just honest.

[–] PinkPancreas 8 years ago

I don't mind you telling your story. That is sometimes what places like this are for. People who don't like it should just move on instead of writing hateful things. There is just too much hate in the world and the internet is a breeding ground for it unfortunately. I liked this movie and so we have something in common. Human interaction whether physical or emotional is one of the things life is about. Life is only short if you are happy. When you are miserable it it the longest damn thing in the world. Life is painful. That much I believe. You should seize happiness wherever and however you can find it if you are fortunate enough to do so. Have you found love since you first posted? I hope so. I wish you well no matter what you do with your life. Ignore the haters bc they are secretly unhappy. People who are mean are without a doubt unhappy. Hate comes from unhappiness and bitterness. Happy people don't spew out hate. I wish you happiness and no bitterness.