I am unfortunately, one of those lonely guys but the movie, while totally relatable, was also sort of depressing.
I still loved it as I do most of Steve Martin's films.
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Im in love with my old girlfriend who I broke up with 10 years ago, by the time I realized the worst mistake of my life was breaking up with the only girl that ever loved me, she had moved away and I never saw here again, I tried everything I could to find her, but I never did. So basically theres one lonely girl out there who will never know that she has always, and will always be loved by one lonely guy. And you can be married and have kids and be a lonely guy, in order to not be a lonely guy you have to be in love with that special girl, and of course her be in love with you. And usually your lucky if that even happens once. So the moral of my story is, if you have some one that really loves you, don't be so quick to let her go.
shareI am 24 and probably a lonely guy, based on most of my life. Only in recent years I started seeing some success.. had 2 girlfriends. If I can give any advice to truly lonely guys, is to realize several things, which will make life more enjoyable (and hopefully provide the first step to being happy):
- forget words like "loser". snobs who have always been popular made them up, to keep loners down, and away from competition (guess human nature is crappy this way).
- switch your thinking from lonely to alone/single.
- finally, the movie shows how bad it is to die alone. Well, realize that its bad only if you suffered. I think this movie is evil this way.. they shouldnt have showed dying alone like this. 1) Because in my opinion, the first step to snap out of this loner state, is to beat your fear of dying alone. If you manage to do it, you will be much happier, trust me. You have to overcome this fear, so that you can let go of the girls that dwell in your memory, even if you think they are the only ones in your life. 2) As bad as it sounds, killing the love feeling is the only way to stay positive and manly. Kill love, in order to find it later again.
I was a 'lonely guy' for around five years in my mid-twenties, after the breakup of an important relationship when I was 20/21. (The girl cheated on me right under my nose.) During that time, every time this film appeared on television I would watch it and find some solace in it because it tapped into my own feelings about being alone.
But then, when I was 27 I found a woman who I fell in love with. We were together for three years and talked about getting married and having children. I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, and I was saving to buy her an engagement ring. Then, in April of this year, just when I thought we were getting along fine she cheated on me and left me. What's worse was that she knew about the last important relationship I'd had and how it had ended with the girl cheating on me, and how this had led me to shun a relationship for around five years of my life, and with this knowledge she promised that she would never do the same thing to me... but she did. Now I don't know how long it'll be before I can trust a woman again.
Now I'm 30 and a 'lonely guy' again. When I saw this film was on television again, recollecting the way in which it gave me solace during my lonely mid-20s I promised to watch it again. However, instead of finding it amusing (like I used to) I'm finding it a little depressing. Maybe it's because I'm older and feel like time is catching up on me; I don't know. I still like the film, but I see it in a slightly different way.
'What does it matter what you say about people?'
Touch of Evil (Orson Welles, 1958).
Lewisherschell, you're still young--thirty isn't old. If you keep up the faith you had after your first girlfriend, you'll definately find another one. It's interesting that this movie came out so long ago, because I feel that it would be more relevent now than ever. Though of course if that's the case, there should be new and more serious movies created to represent this reality--not comedies.
Lewisherschell, you're not alone. Be your own man and don't seek approval and meaning for your life through some woman. Imagine if all men just suddenly stopped seeing women. I would give women one hour before they would be down on their knees begging to give blow jobs!! ;]
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Very Candide and sincere reply my "friend". I guess no one is as lonely as they could have been in the past, in today's internet laden world, right?
sharei'm a lonely guy in his mid 80's looking for a sweet gal in the 18-25 range. ladies feel free to pm me if interested!
P.S. I'm dynamite in the sack!
I qualify as a Lonely Guy... Actually theres probably not even a name for what I am. Its beyond lonely.
shareFYI: that screen name isn't helping...
shareI'm a lonely guy, too. Early 40's and I need to get out and meet someone. Good-bye messasge board.
shareSure am and love my independence (keeping fit,photography and work keeps me alive...never will heart break again)
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