Watching the movie, I didn't see my mother as Joan, but my father definetly had some similaries in parenting....he was abusive physically & emotionally, and I always lived in fear, wondering when he'd blow up at me for some unknown reason. I could identify with Christina - she looked afraid when Joan was around, especially right before the coat hanger scene. And how she was always asking "What'd I do???" I always had to ask that too, b/c I tried so hard to not get in trouble, yet there was always something to get in trouble about. The coat hanger scene is a bit hard to watch, as is the choking scene...my father punched me in the stomach so hard I couldn't breathe, knocked me down the stairs, picked me up by my head & would shake me, and beat me with any number of objects - including his hairbrush b/c he thought I'd cracked it. Really, my brother cracked it b/c he was hitting me w/ it, and when my father found out, he just laughed and didn't punnish my brother at all. People think the wire hanger thing is outrageous, but that sort of stupid little sh*t was the norm at my house - one time my dad called me down and flipped out, b/c I'd left the peanut butter choppy in the jar, instead of swirling it....WTF?!?! I didn't even know that was a requirement, but believe me, I got a lesson that day!!!
I don't think people can really believe this sort of stuff happened to Christina, b/c they didn't have that kind of crap in their own life. There are people in my family that really don't know what it was like to grow up in my house, and even my brother who's only 2 years younger than me, didn't have the same experiences I had....so just b/c Joan's twins don't corraborate Christina's story, or Joan's Hollywood friends say they didn't see any abuse, doesn't mean it wasn't there!
"Are you going to your grave with unlived lives in your veins?" ~ The Good Girl
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