Well, I wouldn't have turned him down! No way, Jose.
I suppose when you're that young, a bit of a drama queen, serious, with a talent, you think you'll always be that way: hopeful, with life before you, opportunities, smooth skin & firm body, with offers from handsome young men.
But I wonder that no one pointed out to her that her talent & life would be richer being shared with someone she loves and who loves her. If the man is the right one, what is good in life is all the better, when shared. And that one day, she would be old and alone, with wrinkled sagging skin, viewing a beautiful sunset alone. Always alone. With her accomplishments behind her.
Like the mother in "Hope Floats" says to Sandra Bullock, "You act like life is full of second chances."
Ah, youth. But she was right that she wouldn't have been able to be a serious writer in the way as if she stayed alone. Wives back then were expected to do certain things in certain ways, very traditional, and they were certainly busier doing household and motherly and wifely duties than now. Even the wife of a wealthy man would have had much less free time than now, I expect. Wives also didn't work outside the home, esp in that country at that time. That was rural countryside. She could have stolen time here and there and written as a hobby, but I doubt any more than that. And if you're going to be a writer, writing when you're young is important, I think. You learn the trade and skills, and you capture that exuberance and risk taking and optimism of youth that leaves us as we gain experience.
Ah, youth. Still, if I had loved him, I couldn't have resisted marrying him. Maybe she wasn't taht much in love with him, really.
"Ah, youth. Still, if I had loved him, I couldn't have resisted marrying him. Maybe she wasn't taht much in love with him, really."
That was my conclusion as well. Or she just couldn't get over her view of marriage as a prison.
She tells Harry that if she married him, she would "destroy" him. I thinks she means that she would be too restless, unhappy, outspoken or wild to make a proper wife for a wealthy man - and harm his reputation and/or break his heart. But, really I agree with the others that she was thinking more about herself than him.