Romanticizes adultery


I like the movie and the performances, but I think it's creepy how light-hearted and carefree they treat their infidelity.

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It sort of does!

Its that man again!!

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The idea that if we marry the right person than they will meet all our needs is romantic but never true. There is no perfect soul mate; everyone is a package deal. There are things I love about my wife and things I hate. Likewise there are things my wife loves about me and others that drive her crazy. In many ways the US has become more conservative than the 1970's. I don't think "Same Time, Next Year" could be made today because audiences would demand more negative consequences for their trists. Were I to make a movie in the spirit of "Same time" I would probably remove the sexual element. I would make it about a couple who were confidants. They would be committed to their respective marriages and families but in each there is an element missing that would force them to seek emotional support from someone else. It would be too hard to create moral ambiguity with a sexual element present.

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They aren't cheating because their marriages are bad. Their marriages are bad because they're cheating.

If they'd put all that energy into their spouses that they're draining off into somebody else, the marriage would almost certainly be a lot stronger and a lot more fulfilling. And then they wouldn't need to cheat.

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What's the name of that FantasyLand you're living in?

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Not necessarily true.

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it does romanticize adultery. as if because it's only once a year it doesn't matter. but I don't think it really works like that. And actually if you can manage to go a whole year without seeing someone, i think that makes it worse in a way, because your yearning for them can't be that strong. if you can manage all that time without them, why can't you do without them altogether?

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I like the movie and the performances, but I think it's creepy how light-hearted and carefree they treat their infidelity.


I always find myself thinking the same thing.

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