Frankly I think that's rather ugly and grossly prejudiced. All younger women are "problematic, emotionally fragile, unreliable and vain"? Wow, that's pretty repugnant. I think it's a common misconception that somehow people go through dramatic changes as they age. I find this to be untrue. Granted, people do change and (in particular) mature as they age (well, many do, not all) but people retain their personality - as is - throughout their life. If a woman is "unreliable" and "vain" as a younger women, she'll probably be unreliable and vain when she's older. If she's "emotionally fragile" and "problematic" as a young woman, she'll be that when she's older. The same can be said for men.
I'm not trying to psychoanalyze you, but this post feels a bit angry, as if written by an older woman who has been thrown over for a younger one by the man she loved. Men "lust" after younger women for many reasons, very few are what older women think they are. Older men (sometimes) prefer younger women because the period in a man's life when he is first experiencing romance and sexual intimacy occurs when he is young, so pursing a younger woman is often about "recapturing" one's youth. Also, many older women are in "panic" mode and when they go out with a man you can actually hear their biological clock ticking. It makes for anxious and uncomfortable dating.
I have a friend that lost his wife in a car accident a few years ago and started dating again in the last six months. On his first four dates, three women asked him on the *first date* if he was ready to be married again. He had just met these women and they are in such a hurry to settle down that they can't even let things occur naturally. One told him in the first fifteen minutes that he "better be serious, because I don't have time to spend with someone who is just looking to have fun". What is that? After that he started asking out younger women, which has made for much happier and less stressful dating. Yes, he wants to get married again, but he'd like to get to know the woman first. Many of the women his age are entering the age where having kids gets risky, so they want to start right away after getting married. He has a small daughter to consider, and isn't looking to start having children the moment he gets married. Marrying a younger woman gives them both time to adjust and acclimate as a family without immediately having children.
On top of the reasons I have mentioned there are what women believe are the reasons older men date younger women, one of which is the fact that younger women are usually more sexually adventurous and have less sexual hangups than do older women. Lets fact it, for the most part, the height of a woman's beauty occurs when she is in her middle twenties. I'm not saying older women aren't beautiful, because I think (for example) Helen Mirren is, right now at 67, one of the most beautiful women in the world. It just makes sense that a man would be attracted to a young woman, physically.
The real problem is the age difference, not the woman's age. When there is more than 15 years difference, people are just at different times of their life and it's difficult to be compatible. When you're 20-25-years-old you want to go out and have fun, dance, party, whatever. When you're 40, for the most part, that kind of thing simply has little appeal. An older man will do that, for a younger woman, but in actuality he'd rather have a nice, quiet dinner out and then snuggle up to watch a movie on the couch. That languid pace would get old for a young woman (pun intended) rather quickly.
"...nothing is left of me, each time I see her..." - Catullus
reply
share