Who is the spy who loved who ?

I'm not sure if they ever thought that out to be honest, because the title was just taken from an almost completely unrelated Bond book. And even in the book, I'm pretty sure "loved" is referring to the physical act and not the emotion, because he just had a one night stand with her and left a note. And I don't think Bond really loved Anya in this movie, I think he's only really loved a couple of women in the films, Tracy and probably Vesper. Anya's just another girl he doinked in an escape pod. She probably loved him though, right until she got his "I'm sorry I killed your lover and that I'm now leaving you to go have zero gravity sex with Lois Chiles" Hallmark card.

"See you guys at the 10 year prison reunion" - Ben Richards

Maybe it's that other spy that Bond killed, or it was between the two Russian spies. They are the only ones about whom love is mentioned.

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She loved him. That's why she didn't kill him in the end, because she was the spy who loved him.

If it were meant to be that he loved her, the title would've been more like "The
Spy I Loved".

well, the title song is sung by a woman about a man, so i am assuming it means Bond is the spy who loves her. i think he loves all his girls in his fashion.

In Latin America, the title is LA ESPÍA QUE ME AMÓ. It's the feminine article* followed by a literal translation, which means that ANYA loved BOND.

*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanish_grammar#Articles

Stromberg: "A British agent in love with a Russian agent. Détente, indeed."

That quote and the theme song suggest that Bond has fallen for a her. But I guess it works both ways so it doesn't really matter.

In the (unrelated) novel the title is about bond as if it were the female character saying hes 'the spy who loved me'

The song 'nobody does it better' is about bond so refers to him as being 'the spy who loved me' (with the 'me' being anya or any Moore bond girl really)

We don't know so its a plot hole