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Are We Supposed To Feel Sorry For Her?


It's very hard to. It's kind of like she was asking for it.

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Because, sure, girls who enjoy recreational sex and drugs just deserve to be violently raped and murdered.
You're an idiot.

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Constant hookups with random scary and increasingly violent men is beyond recreational. Seeing someone purchase an illegal substance in a bar and then attempting to "score some" yourself from some random drug dealer (even though you've never even taken drugs before) is likely to result in a shorter lifespan. People are entitled to mistakes, but making repeated mistakes involving violent people and criminals isn't such a good idea.

And, for the record, the OP didn't say she DESERVED it he said she was ASKING for it. Completely different.

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Yes! Thank God , intelligent answer.

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She wasn't asking to be killed!
Good Grief! You must be one dull human being..... Stay in your safe little world by your computer. Nothing bad will ever happen to you.

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Acually I interpreted the movie differently. I do think at the end she was slowly wanting to die. I have had many experiences with people deep in this lifestyle and they are inherently self destructive. I was lucky enough to have several caring people intervene or who knows what may have been the end result but it typicaly doesn't end well.

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She made a number of foolish decisions, but that doesn't mean she deserved what happened to her.

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Spoiler!!!! In the book the very last lines she says are Do it! Do it! Go ahead and get it over.... And yes I felt very sorry for her both in the book and film versions. She is one of the saddest characters ever.

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Yes, we are. When you look at the repressed Catholic environment she grew up with, and not having a proper introduction to the social and sexual gratification she was craving, she made a number of decisions that led her to her demise. It's all innocent and unrealized by her, and that's why this is one of the most disturbing pictures ever. The final 15 minutes are completely gut churning. Yes, you should feel sorry for her. This is a tragedy, and we see it from start to finish.

When will you ever learn, this feeling is all you can discern?

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Well said Banshee57.

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Yes indeed we should feel sorry for
she did not deserve to die in such horrible and brutal fashion!

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It's a truly horrible way to die, so yeah...I felt bad about that, but it just seems to me she was an incredibly stupid person. She chose the most horrible men possible -- going back to that idiotic married teacher she had an affair with. He treated her like crap and she kept hanging around him. The way she would so aggressively make fun of a man's sexual dysfunction was ridiculous. I mean, common sense would tell you, that's just not something to do...especially to someone you don't even know.

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She absolutely did not deserve to die that way. However, she was also a highly unlikable character in general, IMO

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It's very hard to. It's kind of like she was asking for it.


I saw the TV version of this film some time ago, and just looked at it again on TCM. This film is like "Midnight Cowboy" to me in that I can't get it out of my head, it's very disturbing, even done in the 70s. So I look up all the information I can about these things and the one thing I found was Roger Ebert's review of the film in 1977 that put it into perspective for me. In it, he said was even though the film was effective, what it didn't do is tell you how she got this way.

No one ever deserves to die. That is a horrific way to think. And I do feel sorry for her. You don't have to, but I do. Because...I am assuming on "how she got that way". The strict upbringing, the pressures, the beginning of sexual freedom for women -- in my book, what would Theresa been like if she had gotten help for her issues, and she had issues. Could it have been a split personality, or control freak, or rebellion/repression/freedom, or looking for Mr. Goodbar...??..??

Now, the real woman this was based off of makes me feel even worse. She was that school-marm by day, but at night into rough sex, picking up random men too and picked up the wrong man. Cost her her life. This was in the 70s, but still as relevant today.

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Lambiepie-2,
I agree with you... v v:


.....Now, the real woman this was based off of makes me feel even worse. She was that school-marm by day, but at night into rough sex, picking up random men too and picked up the wrong man. Cost her her life. This was in the 70s, but still as relevant today.

Yes, no matter what decade, the moral of the story applies still today.
A sad movie, based on a real-life story of a very sad happening.
This movie leaves most people stunned---especially if they watch the entire movie until the stabbing ending.
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