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I don't want to be a part of any club that wants me for a member

posted 9 years ago by hayessophie1
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This quote that Woody Allen paraphrases regarding his relationships with women...

I was talking to my sister about this the other day.. I was telling her that one of the reasons I think that I have such a hard time having a relationship with someone is because this is how I feel... it's a turn off to me if a guy wants to date me! She said that she feels the same way, and she insisted that probably everyone feels this way.

So I'm curious... in all honesty, is this how you feel? Do you not want to belong to a club that wants you as a member? Are you ever turned off by someone when you found out they wanted to date you?

[–] Connie_n_Raymond_Marble 9 years ago

Absolutely. I have the exact same problem. The chase is what it is all about for me. And as soon as I've conquered my prey, I immediately lose interest. Why? Because they couldn't be worth dating if they are interested in ME. It's a horrible and lonely way to live. Alvy hadn't even figured out how to rectify this situation after 15 years of analysis. Maybe there is no hope for us.

We'll see who is the filthiest person alive! We'll just see!

[–] mentattodd 9 years ago

I was just talking to a friend over the weekend about this same issue. Anytime a girl would aggressively hit on me I assumed something was wrong with her and didn't want anything to do with her. The ones I always chased were the ones I assumed I could never have.

[–] hotbody805 8 years ago

I don't feel that way because I like myself. If you don't like yourself, then you you can't respect another person who finds you interesting or likeable. So you have to identify what it is about yourself that you dislike and change it. Once you make these positive changes, you will like yourself and you will respect other people that like you.

[–] todtomorow 7 years ago

You're thinking about it too much (getting in your own way). Just like Annie says to woody in this great film!

[–] hodie1 7 years ago

I did. It's really easy for people to feel unworthy when a miracle like love happens to them. I broke up with the man who's been my husband for 28 years on the first New Years we were dating. Luckily he kept pursuing me until I thought that he might be for real and I might have a happy marriage with him. Dont believe all the baloney you tell yourself.