If someone had needlessly sexualised or insulted a guy I would have said the same thing but it rarely happens. My partner is always quick to pick up how women in the media are always mentioned along with a header which comments on their "ample cleavage", "pert posterior" or "trim tummy" for examples, regardless that the article has nothing to do with anything in particular which is even more alarming - it is written just to sex-up these tabloid pages (which I only see as a sub-menu when reading something online). Today we were waiting in line and a paper read how Mrs Clinton had wanted to curl up and avoid a public appearance after her defeat but not only that, they had to add the unnecessary, irrelevant observation as to how her usually coiffed hair was flat and unkempt and that she was sans any make-up So even when there's an actual "story", rarely does a woman get reported on without reference to her appearance, be that flattering or unflattering.
That is all I was trying to put across to you. Next time you read threads on here or read a newspaper, take heed and you'll see what I mean! I wasn't insulting your mother, I was perhaps harshly singling you out for which I genuinely apologise. I guess I asked for that retort, fair play. I'll take that on the chin
Yes, that profile picture isn't that good but I think the only one I could resize at the time. It's even worse as a thumbnail but nah, I don't want people to gaze at it in THAT way. I was half-asleep first thing in the morning at my cousin's house having a smoke (and it shows). Even putting it in sepia hasn't improved it much ha!
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rascal67
7 years ago
If someone had needlessly sexualised or insulted a guy I would have said the same thing but it rarely happens.
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I'm not so certain that is quite accurate your Royal Holiness. I would guarantee my holy ju ju's over yours, that women—especially when in a group together—are just as quick to sexualize and or insult the male physique. Hell, even men comment and admire or pick on other males bodies. Gay guys are also eyeing up other males and would be constantly making comments about their bodies, especially in a group together.
I think this notion about how women feel that men sexualize them too much is just to mask insecurities about being female and I don't mean to sound condescending by saying this. Sexualizing females is the first and foremost thing "straight" guys would do. How else are they going to be interested or attracted to you. Even gay guys comment on how other females dress and compose themselves. Sex rules the day first and foremost and if men didn't want sex from women, most would likely be hanging out with their buddies. That is just the cold reality.
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highpriestess32
7 years ago
Actually you're right. I am having flashbacks to a rather conservative trip to Blackpool ten years ago with an old military friend. We went to meet an older couple who we'd both known via the regiment. I had to by-pass several hens all acting like rabid animals and mooning plus feeling up random men. LOL!
You got me bang to rights there my friend! Needless to say I've never felt the urge to return. But this is drunken, ladette behaviour. If you get a woman in the workplace she's generally restrained in that regard
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rascal67
7 years ago
If you get a woman in the workplace she's generally restrained in that regard.
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Well, I have worked with plenty of females that have been very blatant in their sexuality and flaunting themselves and desperate for their male colleges attention. One of these girls even had the nerve to accuse one of my friends of sexual harassment, when she was the biggest slut guts around and got with other male staff members before and after, even married ones. Of course she was believed, because she was sucking up to the boss and manipulating to get herself on top. He was opposing the direction the company was taking, so they concocted some bulls<>t. And even if he was teasing her, she touted for it and then suddenly turned it around to suit her own self-serving needs. Needless to say he was demoted and then left soon after.
I find men in some workplaces, are no more sexually forward as what the women are. Women just tend to get more of a pass for their behavior, as though they are entitled to act in the same manner and not suffer a consequence.
I have been to Blackpool many many yrs ago when I was a wee lad before my folks left the UK. It was always a fun time for my parents and grandparents to visit there.
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highpriestess32
7 years ago
Wow, you get more interesting the more I read, Toots. I love your posts. Urgh regarding that slag bag though....
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rascal67
7 years ago
😚 Yeah, what a slag bag! Slut guts was just as appropriate though. 😄
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highpriestess32
7 years ago
Haha! I was somewhat sexually harrassed in the military base but back then we just laughed it off as harmless flirtation. We didn't go around suing people which is what things have come down to, unfortunately. But there's harmless and obviously hurtful, aggressive harrassment (I have experienced both).
This is why a lot of men initially refused to believe Jimmy Savile was guilty but I actually met the creep on a military base during a wheelchair marathon he was presenting back in the 80's. He really was a creepy paedophile but thankfully I was not left alone with him. My late father was the OC of the camp and I was at that time still in school (I later worked at a neighbouring base). My father said I should hand him one of his cigars and get him to autograph the box. He was sat at a desk signing things for people so up I went and he looked me up and down before saying "Are you passionately in love with me?" whilst eyeing me up and down. I was SO embarrassed and turned as purple as a beetroot before scuttling off! It came as no surprise when operation Yewtree was launched after his death but many men I knew at the time sought to discredit the victims. However his own family dessicrated his grave in disgust. It opened up a whole can of worms for the BBC and many more celebrities beneath their cloak were outed.
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rascal67
7 years ago
Saville sounded like a real creep and he was into necrophilia as well apparently. Regards the Yewtree Operation, I find the conviction and incarceration of Rolf Harris questionable, farcical and perhaps even legally unethical. He was a scapegoat for Saville and 84yrs old, decades after the alleged incidents took place. I can't help but feel there was an agenda from his victims who were young at the time—which I don't believe were lying—but were being opportunists by playing "victimized" women, and constructed agendas from the media to promote the police, and justice system working in the best interests of the public herd.
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highpriestess32
7 years ago
The jury is still out on Harris. I just don't know what to think but then I read this article whereby he was writing a provocative and sexual innuendo-laden song from his cell. I sometimes feel like my childhood has been sabbotaged LOL!
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rascal67
7 years ago
Why should Harris care what people think though? He couldn't keep his fingers to himself and it all caught up with him right at the twilight of his life. His own family was dragged down into the quagmire with him who were innocent bystanders, and I doubt his victims gave a thought to the consequences of what their accusations would bring, not only for Harris; but also for themselves. Are they really damaged goods because of what he did? One of them continued an affair with him for 15yrs into adulthood. Is this so she could obtain more evidence against him? He is now locked up and it doesn't change the fact of what he did and quite frankly, after all those years, is it that big of a deal to them and what does it change?
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highpriestess32
7 years ago
I don't know how to respond here my friend. All I can say is that much shame was felt back then and Childline was not then set up. I can tell you one thing - it was set up by Esther Rantzen after my ex-husband's longlife friend wrote to her. He was in a boarding school and heavily abused by a member of staff (sexually).
I think we have to consider that the genuine cases involve young girls who were simply too shy and too controlled to ever speak up. These days it's like we have gone back to the sixties where free love reigns and nobody cares - until this huge expose. I was so shy as a child that I felt awkward telling my lovely mother that I had started menstruating and yet she prepared me for the inevitable. I can understand why some girls stayed quiet. I have listened to some of their stories and I have no reason to disbelieve them but we weren't there were we. Aside from me meeting Savile and that was a lucky escape looking back
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rascal67
7 years ago
Yes, it can be a touchy—no pun intended—subject for many. I just feel that people living in a victimized mindset and a system that thrives of suffering and victimization to pretend that is cares is all rather dubious. The police or courts don't really care how these people feel, they only want results to justify their existence for the most part. We are not talking about murder; but questionable agendas from all parties involved, even dirty Harris.
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