Unsympathetic


I heard someone say here on the message boards that this was "A sad, haunting story..." I think that's pretty ironic. Wanda was probably the greatest flake in film history, but she was also responsible for causing more damage than suffering it. I guess because there was another woman to take care of her abandoned, young kids, we aren't supposed to dwell on that...

She was so drunken, enabling, pathologically irresponsible, and, frankly, stupid it was hard to feel a lot of sympathy. I mean people from the Appalachians or rural parts aren't necessarily idiots despite the stereotype; she made horrific choices, wallowed in them, and then got saved time after time by a fluke but learned nothing. She wasn't relatable or interesting. She probably should have gone to prison to knock some sense in her head. At this rate she will wind up stuffed in a dumpster. Unless she's mentally unstable, which is not really hinted at specifically, she's kind of hateable.

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I had a very personal reaction to her (and I've known a lot of people like that; family is all from Appalachia).

My initial feeling was one of pity, because I saw her as someone overwhelmed by living, and someone who wasn't really equipped (mentally/emotionally) with making decisions in an adult world.

She was like a cork in the water, just bobbing along with wherever the situation took her, so after seeing about 30 minutes of her personality, I understood her not really caring about her husband and her kids. She didn't care about anything else, really, and I could imagine her getting married and having kids with the same amount of thought she put into everything else, which was next to none.

I don't think she was capable of really looking much beyond what was directly in front of her, and I don't think she had the maturity to realize that she could control her life, she didn't have to just take what others gave her.

In that way, I was very sympathetic to her. Where she lost me, though, was with her constant talking. "Do you have a headache? Huh? Huh? Do you want me to pull over? Huh? Huh?" and the exchange between her and Mr. Dennis drove me up a wall:

"You should do something with your hair."

"My hair?"

"Yeah, cover it up."

"Cover it up?"

"Yeah."

"With what?"

"I don't know, a hat."

"A hat?"

"Yeah, a hat."

That kind of parroting is annoying on a good day and shows that she really couldn't function independently; she had to have someone telling her when to eat, when to sleep, where to go, what to think. I wouldn't have the patience for that.

In the end, I guess I still felt bad for her, but I sure didn't like her much.

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