'Are you helping me?'
"Because if you are, I could do with a little less help". Did anyone else want to lynch that obese sales director who tried to sell one of those overpriced bibles to one of his own salesman? He used the aforementioned line to interrupt one of the other salesman who warned the "mark" that he should consult with his wife before making such a hefty purchase. The pig couldn't put two kind words together to save his life! I won't even use the, "he was just doing his job" line to justify his obnoxious behavior, because it was completely ineffective. As a manager myself, I know first-hand that leading with the "stick" instead of the "carrot" leads only to resentment, fear, and ultimately lower productivity. The sales world does not HAVE to be so ugly; it tends to end up like that when egomaniacs fail to appreciate the work of their direct-reports.
He who conquers himself is mightier than he who conquers a city.