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Child neglect in Demy movies


Lola and other Demy mothers are crazy about their children, yet the poor kids are always left alone. Lola is the worst. Today, she could be prosecuted (in America) for putting that kid to bed during the day and leaving him alone in an apartment. But even in Les Demoiselles de Rochefort, mother and sisters trust strangers (men wearing go-go boots and plucked eyebrows) to pick up Boubou from school. Later, Boubou drinks a lot of Champagne. In Cherbourg, Genevieve leaves her child alone in a car, at night, in a gas station. It's all too much to be a coincidence.

Of course, I was a kid in France in the sixties too, and parents did let us do stuff that would be considered unsafe today (walking alone in dark streets, never wearing seat belts, having candy at night AFTER brushing teeth and so on...)

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Which is why we shouldn't put our 21st century PC sensibilities (esp. American) onto old European sensibilities of the 1960's or earlier. Maybe a more relaxed attitude back then towards parenting suited those times. There certainly wasn't as much crime against children back then than there is today, spurred on by so much pornography.

Even the character of 13 year old Cecile is allowed to smoke at the dinner table, right in front of her mother. That looks odd to our eyes today too, but maybe the mother thought, "well, she has to try it someday and I'd rather her do it in the open than out back in some alley".

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You are so right about that. As a child in France, I had a sip of wine now and then. Nowadays I hardly drink at all. I believe it was a better education than getting drunk in college all of a sudden, away from home.

Since I wrote my first remark, I saw La Baie Des Anges, and I guess that Jackie was a worse mom than Lola, Madame Garnier, or Genevieve Cassard: Jackie lost custody of her little boy.



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Very true - we hear much more about the "dangers" of the world, but crime rates, even against children, are no more common than they were 50 years ago.

Try telling that to a paranoid parent that won't let their child walk home from school alone....

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Remember, they met at 8 pm. Still, Lola was a pretty bad mother. The funniest thing about the film was that she claimed to be a good one.


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And what about Madame Desnoyer, who lets her 14-year-old daughter accept a cigarette from Roland Cassard at the dinner table? Of course, the cigarettes back then weren't yet cancerous...

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It has nothing to do with modern(or American) sensibilities.

The fact of the matter is that its simply horrible parenting to leave a seven year old alone in an apartment for any amount of time, let alone for hours in the middle of the night.

Things may have been more "relaxed" but thats not always a good thing.

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Not only that, cigarette companies were spending a mint on convincing the public cigarettes had health benefits. So why wouldn't Madame Desnoyer let her daughter smoke a cigarette and improve her health?

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The fact is that leaving a kid alone is not neglect. Not providing it with food, clothes, medicine, etc. is what neglect looks like. Isolating children to protect them is far more abusive. The hysteria surrounding children seems like some sort of collective guilt about the millions of abortions that take place.

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