That type of parenting was probably typical for the times - however, out of my four sons, one is the type that you just have to bite your tongue with. But, yeah - as a parent and a child - I can see both sides. My mom would say things that triggered some of those feelings in me - even to almost the last weeks of her life. She passed last year at 100 years old. In her case, she was a parent and I was her baby to the very end! As a parent, I totally understand and respect that.
wow..100 yrs old. Was she mostly coherent with her senses? The odds of living that long are small.
With Sarah Jane, it's not that she was doing anything wrong. It would be different if Annie was trying to talk her out committing grand larceny or drug use.
Yes, mom was still coherent although she was in a wheel chair the last 3 years and in a nursing home. We were able to get her birthday announced on the Today Show by Willard Scott (she passed a month an a day after her birthday). It was thrilling for her! It was so cute - she actually thought Smuckers made jars of strawberry jam with her picture on it. She would tell all the workers at the facility that she had her picture on a jar of jelly! I told my oldest when he came to see her to be prepared because I was sure she would ask him about it. That was about the first thing she said to him - "did you get you some of that jelly with my picture on it?" and my son said "yes, Grandma - I did!". So sweet!!
I kind of have a problem with the whole "passing as white" concept. I know she wanted to be treated like she was white, but the underlying meaning of that is really - "treat me the same as the white girl". But yeah, it wasn't like she was doing anything criminal. Maybe a little risque, working in a nightclub.