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Actor's Ages Relative to Roles They Play


An Affair to Remember was released in 1957. That year Cary Grant was 53 years old. In the movie he and Deborah Kerr visit his grandmother. Kathleen Nesbitt, the very fine actress playing his 82 year old grandmother, was in real life just 33 years older than Cary Grant. Kind of a young grandmother, don't you think?

This is just for fun. They never actually say how old Grant and Kerr's characters are supposed to be. Ms. Kerr just makes a wistful remark about how they missed being together in the Spring of their lives. Movies contain actors playing roles and their real ages are immaterial as long as they can portray their parts in a believable manner.

This age business reminds me that in the movie the Graduate released in 1968, Dustin Hoffman plays a newly graduated college student that is seduced by an older woman, Anne Bancroft, the wife of his parents' business partner and lifelong friend. Actually, Anne Bancroft was only 5 1/2 years older than Dustin Hoffman.

Just for the fun of it, can anyone think of any other similar movie age discrepancy examples?

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I don't know. Hollywood before considered older men as vivacious, irresistable, charming! Look at Gone with the Wind... Clark Gable is so much older than Vivien Leigh and the audience didn't mind.

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Not that much of an age difference for the Civil War Era. In 1939 Gable was 38 and Vivian Leigh was 26. A twelve year age difference in the mid 1800's wasn't very unusual. The audience could easily believe that Scarlet O'Hara was 20 and Rhett Butler was 32 and he was supposed to be older and more sophisticated than she.

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Um, Vivian was 24, actually.

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Scarlett was 16 when she first met Rhett and Rhett was 35.

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In the original The Manchurian Candidate Angela Lansbury played Laurence Harvey's mother. She was five years older than he was.

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In "Earthquake", Lorne Greene plays Ava Gardner's father, even though he was only 7 years older.

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Here's another age discrepancy example (also involving Cary Grant). In the movie NORTH BY NORTHWEST, Cary Grant's character's mother was played by Jessie Royce Landis, who was either the same age as Cary or a year older at most.

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Just saw that movie a few weeks ago. Jessie Royce Landis was actually about 7+ years older than Cary Grant. My wife couldn't believe her playing his mother but apparently Ms. Landis was often cast in parts that called for a much older woman. My wife also thought that Cary Grant looked younger than his real age but not enough to make Landis believable for her part.


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Sabrina comes to mind. Humphrey Bogart was 54; William Holden was 36; and Audrey Hepburn was 25. Bogart and Holden were supposed to be brothers--and 18 year age difference--and it shows. Audrey Hepburn falls in love with both of them and Bogart really does look old enough to be her father.

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And the funny thing is Grant turned down Bogart's role in that movie.

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Yes. But even he was no spring chicken at that point--50 yo in 1954. But he looked a whole lot younger than Humphrey Bogart.

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The Sabrina remake (1995) with Harrison Ford (about 53) and Greg Kinnear (about 32) wasn't believable either. I wondered if they were maybe half-brothers, and thought the same thing when I later saw the original Sabrina from 1954.



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Martha Scott was 11 years older than Charlton Heston. She portrayed his mother in both Ben Hur and The Ten Commandments.

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The age thing kind of bothered me. For middle-aged people to be finding true love for the first time raises all kinds of issues that are never dealt with. I know its just a movie and all and we can accept that an actor is portraying a character at a different age, but I'm a year younger than Cary Grant was when this movie was filmed, and I already have two grandchildren.

The age difference in real life between Cary Grant and his 'grandmother' Cathleen Nesbitt is the most ironic. Nesbitt was only fifteen years older than Grant, meaning that Grant was closer in age to her than to Deborah Kerr, and Nesbitt is more believable as an older sister than even a mother to Grant, let alone a grandmother.

To answer your question about other age discrepancy examples, how about the 1948 version of Hamlet? Laurence Olivier at age 41 cast himself as the troubled young prince, and the actress playing his mother was only 28.

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An Affair to Remember was released in 1957. That year Cary Grant was 53 years old. In the movie he and Deborah Kerr visit his grandmother. Kathleen Nesbitt, the very fine actress playing his 82 year old grandmother, was in real life just 33 years older than Cary Grant

To make matters even worse than you described, in real life Cathleen Nesbitt was only 69 in 1957, not 82 as was her character.

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It's a movie...sometimes you just have watch and enjoy, not analyze it to death. But if you have to, I decided to believe the main characters are about 41ish. Hell, my oldest grand-daughter is 8 and I'm 46! So, you can make numbers work for you if ya believe! Lol

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You are correct! Cathleen Nesbitt was only about 16 years older than Gary Grant, not 33 years older. The gist of what I meant was that: If Cary Grant's character was 53 even at the age of 82 she generally would have been too young to be his grandmother.

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I get ya jomar...I was having a little fun. When I'm watching a movie these days, especially classic ones, I tend to hit the net for a little backstory because I find it interesting. Just wanted to chime in...and of course you are correct with the age stuff.

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I normally abhor it when a geezer stars opposite a babe, or when an actor's mother is a woman a handful of years older than he is. Sally Field and Tom Hanks in Forrest Gump, for example. In a previous movie (Punchline) his character had had a crush on Sally Field's.

The worst may be any movie starring Jack Nicholson. That guy is so old, fat, and ugly he should be surrounded by yellow tape, and yet he is frequently costarred with much more physically attractive women (Witches of Eastwick, Terms of Endearment, As Good As It Gets...)

BUT ALL BETS ARE OFF WHEN IT COMES TO CARY GRANT.

I mean, really. This is Cary Grant we're talking about.

He was supernatural. So gorgeous. Such a fantastic actor/star. Never anything less than a model of style, grace, and elegance. He got better and better looking as he got older. I think many women (and I speak as one) would count their lucky stars if Cary Grant winked at them, no matter his age.

I propose that mathematicians come up with a new number: age 53 for most of us, and age 53 for Cary Grant. It's a totally different number.

I mean, just look at his body. Even in a tuxedo, never mind the pool scene, you can see he still has the body of an athlete, no fat gut under his cumberbund, and he moves like as if he were walking on air.


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An Affair to Remember was released in 1957. That year Cary Grant was 53 years old. In the movie he and Deborah Kerr visit his grandmother. Kathleen Nesbitt, the very fine actress playing his 82 year old grandmother, was in real life just 33 years older than Cary Grant. Kind of a young grandmother, don't you think?
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She was 33 years older than Deborah Kerr. Too young to be her grandmother too.

But Cary Grant is in a league of his own. I'm under 20 and I would have gone out with him in a heartbeat. Whatever it is he had, age didn't dim it.


I guess it's like looking at clouds. You see one thing and I see another. Peace.

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Blue Hawaii: Angela Lansbury plays Elvis Presley's mother, but she's only 10 years older than he.

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