ilahilda says > True, although the memories still sting, the mean crap of school bullies years ago did not scar me for life.
It's sad to hear you say the memories still sting but how can they still sting if there are no lingering scars? It would seem they are there. They may be hidden but you probably are, in some way, carrying around baggage from the past. That's unfortunate. I think the best, maybe only, way to avoid carrying emotional baggage is to refuse to pick up that baggage in the first place.
Granted, some bullying may be worse than others but I think a lot of the escalation is caused by the 'victim's' own reaction. It may sound like I'm blaming the victim but I'm not. I'm saying just don't be the victim.
Bullying will always exist in one form or another. It's part of our nature and, like many of our traits, was probably once a survival instinct but I've noticed that a lot of what some people call bullying started innocently; often as a joke or random comment. Instead of shaking it off and moving on the target takes on the victim persona; adjusting their behavior, demeanor, and thought processes. The bullies around them, sensing their vulnerability and weakness, seize on the opportunity and the whole thing begins to spread and/or grow quickly and exponentially.
Woman, man! That's the way it should be Tarzan. [Tarzan and his mate]
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