You all are missing the point on the wedding. They were ok with Jane's plans until they had the groom's family over for a 'meet & greet' dinner. The groom's family were obviously better off and let it be known, not meanly, but just casually. It was then Agnes decided HER daughter would have more than the simple affair she wanted. They were a working class family that got by, proudly without debt (oh yeah, no putting it on the plastic card), and managed to put the smallest amount aside in savings. To live within their means, to not have debt, to not be on public assistance was a very big deal and very real then. These are people who came out of the Depression. Remember at one point it was agreed that they would have 100 guests each side and then Grooms Mom has 186! My saddest point with that was when her BF, Alice, told her she couldn't be her MOH cause it was costing too much dough. Then, at some point, it's revealed that Jane wanted to go to college and Tom didn't have the money for that, part of the reason he goes along with Agnes wedding plans. They loved their kids but were very practical. What he doesn't reveal, and I personally wondered why, but then in 50s perspective, men didn't always tell their wives their thoughts or plans, so families just took the ride, good or bad, was about the medallion.