I'd have to say "no", just sad, fearful, I think. Aggie never wants things for herself, she's not selfish. She knows what she missed out on, and how she wants those experiences to her daughter as she believes they will bring happiness.
I think you missed the subtleties in the story, the fears that bound this family. Aggie was afraid of a life alone with just her husband, knowing he was paid to marry her, so she moved in a series of relatives to keep from being alone with him. The brother initially stayed because living with his married sister took less courage than making a life of his own. Between his work and his family life, Tom is drained so he picks his fights and avoids confrontations whenever possible although he can't let go of the resentment. It doesn't mean he's "not a man", it means he was overwhelmed.
I will say I think Bette Davis was miscast (that statement alone should bring down all the harpies of heaven!) as the plain, insecure Irish mother. Bette's best roles were unconventional women with a secure sense of self. This part demanded a Jane Darwell or Marjorie Main. Plus the idea that Davis and Borgnine could create a girl as lovely as Debbie Reynolds strains credulity.
Perhaps you'll watch it again, perhaps you won't. If you do decide to watch another Paddy Chayefsky piece (Network or Marty or Heat of the Night) try to look at the motivations of the characters. They are often complex but it makes for a more rewarding viewing experience.
What features and parts of features are passed on mostly randomly from one generation to the next, making allowances for dominant and recessive genes and mutations -- tending to average out, but at other times accentuating plain features. Using your "system" who could have believed that a pair of parents as pretty as Tony Curtis and Janet Leigh could have produced Jamie Lee Curtis?
Davis was NOT "miscast." She was superb. Davis specialized in MANY different
parts, which is why she was the Streep of her generation.
BTW, Davis considered this one of her very favorite roles.