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When the family is trying to cut down the wedding guest list, they divide the list in to people who are invited to the wedding, and those who are invited to the reception. I always thought ANYONE can come to the wedding. And, who would go to the wedding, knowing you werent asked to be at the reception.

Also, Kay's parents went to the caterer without her. What bride does not want a say in that?
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I always thought ANYONE can come to the wedding. And, who would go to the wedding, knowing you werent asked to be at the reception.
Surely you jest? You actually believe any stranger off the street can just wander in and attend a private wedding? Obviously that's not true. That's why they have a bride's side and a groom's side for seating, and not a "spectator stand". And while it's not really done much these days, there actually are people who would attend the wedding (if invited) and not the reception (if not invited).

Whatever happened to basic etiquette???



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I speak from a position of ignorance so happy to be corrected - as I have never attended a church wedding..

But I thought a Church was 'open', and the reception 'invite only'.
The Church restriction being seating.. probably stricktly allocated.. but believed anyone can enter and watch.
(as I say, I'd be delighted to have someone who really knows tell me otherwise)

I mean .. how many film plots revolve around 'the stranger' stepping forth at the crucial moment to declare "She's already married - to me!" ... Or the emotional recconcilliation as 'The father, who we thought died in the war' astonishingly manages to have walked all the way across Europe from the prison camp, to arrive and atand quietly at the back at exactly the right moment. Or the 'other man' to stride in in declaring "it's me that really loves you.. " as she flies to his arms crying Yes, Yes, it's always been you"

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Maybe it depends on the church and how much room there is but I think you're right. Anyone can go to the church part of the ceremony. The reception, on the other hand, is usually by invitation only. It's typically a catered affair so there needs to be an accurate headcount of guests to assure there will be enough food and drink to go around.

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I know of no wedding that would allow complete strangers to just wander in. It is true that churches are open to prayer. (And Catholics have Perpetual Adoration, which would likely be someone unknown to the wedding couple). But most people, except Perpetual Adorers, would remove themselves from a wedding they were not invited to.

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I grew up in the Midwest and it was common for people to be invited to the reception and not the ceremony. This happened if the church or venue was smaller or the couple were married in a civil ceremony.

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