I don't understand why women like this movie
To clarify the subject line, I am not criticizing sappy romance comedies. There are certainly a number of films in that genre I actually like. There is just something I have never understood about the popularity of this movie. Why weren't women offended by the film? I understand the enjoyment of romantic movies, but this was so blatantly misogynistic that I have always been confused at the fact that women I know as well as the ones that comment on this discussion board seem to really like the movie. We have the central character Kate, an ambitious, successful business woman. She, through mystical powers and the like, comes into contact with a man from 1876. He treats her with the chivalrous customs indicative of his culture. She, finding his displays of 'respect' and 'courtesy' flattering, falls in love with him and so forth and so on.
Yet chivalry was never about respect or courtesy. It was a code of behavior that rose from a society that treated women as though they were helpless infants. Chivalry was based in the mentality that women were incapable of taking care of themselves and thus needed a man to take care of them. The whole idea of what it meant to be a 'lady' in the Nineteenth Century rooted the image of femininity in notions of weakness, inferiority, fragility, and purity by the definitions of male society. Basically, being a 'lady' meant being pretty, submissive and silent. At one point in the film Kate declares that she "wants there to be more 1876." In the Nineteenth Century women had absolutely no rights whatsoever, were the legal property of their husbands (or fathers), and were bound by extraordinarily oppressive societal limitations.
So, essentially the film is making the argument that ambitious, driven women deep down want to be the submissive, dominated property of men who treat them like helpless children and would prefer to have the type of love that implicitly conveys ownership rather than having social, legal or personal rights. After all 1876 was a time when a husband could not be legally charged with raping his wife (she was his to do with as he pleased) and a husband could legally abuse his wife viscously without punishment. The film negates everything women have managed to accomplish in the fight for equal rights, equal pay, fair treatment and the ability to express themselves openly and have an identity that is separate from what male society told them to be. The argument of the film is rather cemented when the audience comes to find out that she is really from that society all along. The film's argument is clear: women who are driven to succeed in a man's world and want to make something of themselves without relying on anyone are actually, by nature, everything that the Nineteenth Century told us women are suppose to be. They weren't oppressed; they were naturally meant to be the submissive, weak, childlike, pretty creatures who are owned by their fathers and then given as a piece of property to their husbands.
The movie's gender issues aren't simply problematic, it is truly socially irresponsible and just plain awful. It is not surprising that it was directed and writen by men based on a story by another man. It is the large audience that went to see the movie and rent the movie that has me baffled. I apologize for rambling on as long as I have, and I am not sure if anyone will ever read all of this, but I felt like getting all of that off my chest. In the end, if anyone actually sits through my tyrade, I really want to know why on earth it is that women not only watch this, but actually enjoy the film? By all means, I'll accept people who disagree with me, but it is simply something I have never understood. To me it is like large crowds of African Americans going to see a minstrel show and then praising the humor. I find a woman enjoying this film to be just as puzzling.