Lost Love !
This is the second time I've seen this movie and it still makes me cry and yearn for lost love !
shareMe, too----Lydia was telling her old men friends that Richard had another woman, "one with a claim", which I am guessing is a child, so that's why he took off. He was too cowardly to tell Lydia to her face, probably b/c she'd been so clingy and giggly (she really was a little nauseating, while living in sin with the sailor). When he stood her up at the altar on New Year's Eve, I was very sad. And then......the creep didn't even remember her?? I sure as heck would have told him who I was, would you have??
shareWatching it again tonight, but it's late and I don't think I will be able to see it to the end. No I would not have told him who I was because I see he did not care for me at all and I was just one of many he dallied with ! Just finished seeing the end of Now Voyager which is my all time favorite ! Also a story of lost love, but not quite !
sharewow, just finished that one too for the first time. Just adored it. Two great movies about strong women. LOVE IT!!!!!
shareWell, I am impulsive, guess it's the Greek/Italian in me or something; I would have really laid it on him. "Look at me, jerk! Don't stand there and tell me you don't remember me!! Lost our minds, have we??". I agree about Now, Voyager, too~~~had it been 30 years later, they would definitely have been together, no holds barred.
sharetotally broke my heart and I was crying so hard. And I couldn't believe he didn't remember her either! What a jerk :(
shareWhen the movie ended I wasn't really sure how to take it. I didn't even know if I liked it or not. On one hand, Lydia is an independent woman, who was ahead of her time. She had an interesting life and lived it on her own terms with no regrets.
Then again I felt sorry for her because when it came to love she always seemed like a naive girl. She had many opportunities but she kept chasing after some ideal that didn't really exist. She did it with Bob; rushing off to elope without really knowing him. She should have learned from that experience but she didn't. She then has her relationship with Richard. She never once saw what was really going on. She spent a lifetime loving and remembering a guy who was basically just using her. That 'great' love didn't remember her because she had been one of many such relationships in his life.
She kept saying she never regretted their affair; even telling her grandmother about it. The grandmother told her she'd pay for it and it seems she did. She claimed she didn't regret it but it seemed like an act. It did weigh heavily on her mind. I feel the only reason she decided not to marry Michael is because she felt she should tell him but knew she couldn't.
It seems she didn't feel worthy of his love because she had been with Richard. She probably also thought he'd reject her but she never gave him a chance. I believe Michael was the only guy who ever really loved her but she couldn't see it. He was always there, always honest with her, he was a good guy, he was mature and honorable. Maybe that's what did him in. Her grandmother liked him but Lydia just wanted to rebel, thinking that's what made life interesting.
Lydia reminds me of these people, usually women, who use love as an excuse. They allow themselves to be stuck in these incredibly bad relationships wasting years of their lives because they 'love' him. I don't believe love is a passive verb. However one feels about someone, if that person is being abusive or is not behaving in way that indicates they care or are reciprocating that love, they need to be cut loose. That describes Lydia but also Michael. He should have moved on years ago.