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Garbage. There....I said it


Ok........I'm a film/movie lover and I watch a lot of films. I have just watched this and I am puzzled as to why it's rated as highly as it is. Ok, it hasn't got a nine rating or anything, but people actually liked it........and enjoyed it.

I often visit the message boards after viewing a film and did so after viewing this. I have looked at many posts looking for things I may have missed. Like subtle points I may have missed, classic lines, etc. There is not much criticism in many posts which surprised me.
I feel I have just wasted two hours of my life.

Please don't go calling me a troll. We can't all like the same things and I watched this hoping to enjoy it as I do with everything I watch.
I understand that it was made in 1940 and I make allowances for pace, violence,etc as I know the boundaries have changed massively.
The Wizard Of Oz is another film from 1940 ish and that has more suspense in it than this dire offering.

I can't even think of any redeeming features. When he tells her he should be making violent love to her behind a palm tree! Was that supposed to be romantic or passionate or something?
At the end when she falls down in the courtroom.....was that suspense? Or her eyes when he said he hated Rebecca? Was that suspense/horror?

I'm sorry but this was a real piece of garbage. I dont like giving ratings of 1 so I will try and think of something to make it up to a 2. The thing is....nothing is coming to mind.

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Go back to your anime' and like stuff. "Rebecca" is a VERY fine movie, and is NOT "garbage".

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such a mature and fine response you got there!

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Not sure what response you're hoping for. "Hi, I hated this movie, it really sucked" doesn't set up much of a dialogue, beyond the "Is too!/Is not!" variety.

As Cary Grant said in The Philadelphia Story, "That's not even conversation!".

So you hated the movie. Why put that here instead of in a review, where it might be of interest to the reader?

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I don't really do reviews on here. I visit the message boards. I watch a lot of film and after almost every one of them, I visit the message boards to see what I missed or to see what others thought. I usually learn something.
I also write praise when I have enjoyment after a viewing.

As I said, I wanted to like this as I do with everything I watch. But it was drivel.
I'm not especially after a 'response'. Just some feedback. My title , however provocative it sounds, is a fun poke at the fact that few posters think this is a poor movie. I was hoping for some points 'for' Rebecca which may have made me see something I had missed.

Remember that these message boards are not fan boards, but boards for discussing the film in question.

If I had liked it, I would have posted a favourable post and all would be quiet around here.

I didn't like it, so my post is apparently 'not even conversation'

Are you telling me that everybody who ever watches Rebecca should like it? We all have different tastes. It's a shame that I can't comment on films I didn't enjoy and only films that I do.

I like some of Hitchcocks films. I love Psycho and Vertigo. They are both superb.

Instead of trying to belittle me with your fanboy/girl comments, perhaps you could have pointed out some redeeming features I may have missed whilst watching.

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"I don't really do reviews on here. I visit the message boards. I watch a lot of film and after almost every one of them, I visit the message boards to see what I missed or to see what others thought. I usually learn something."

I don't find anything really inflammatory about your original post. I "got" your title of this thread, yes, a poke but which meant to me you did consider this movie and you added some points as to why you didn't like it. You acknowledged that most people do like it. You're trying to understand what is to like about this popular film.

And yet, you're told to go back to watching Anime, (or action movies, etc). And you're told that there is nothing to say to you because you already said you don't like it.

You shouldn't have to defend yourself, and have to state what films you do like. You are absolutely right, this isn't a fan board, it is a film discussion board. This shouldn't be a big deal if someone has a negative opinion.


All right, I only watched this movie the first time a few years ago, catching it on TCM, because I knew it won best picture and featured a famous quote. I thought it was an interesting story, suspenseful, and has a twist I wouldn't have predicted. I don't think it was as good as Rear Window or Vertigo, but it could have been one of the first of its kind at the time it was made. I was entertained so that means a lot to me in terms of movies I like. But I did watch it again last night and here's my "there I said it": I felt Laurence Olivier's acting was too stagey. He just doesn't come across as natural, maybe too emotive. And his eyes seemed dead. What are your thoughts?

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Yes yes yes! Thank you, Vonfisch. A post with things for me to consider and ponder.
It's a good point that you make when writing that it may have been a first for the time. The twist and the dramatic scenes are by now a well trodden path and I guess I had seen it all before. But at the time, audiences may have seen it as fresh and original.
I need to be considerate towards such things.
As for Olivier, I don't think he flowed naturally either. But he was a great example of a stiff upper lipped English toff, so I guess he did ok with his bossing around of his woman and his impatient spoiled manner.
Thanks for seeing my point of view and not telling me to go and watch a Van Damme film lol. Many people put down some of my favourite movies but I don't get offended. For me, that is what makes film so interesting. Our top ten all time movies would probably be worlds apart and I like that.

I did want to like Rebecca. I just didn't end up liking it. ;)

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No way is this garbage! 0_o. I just saw it and was blown away. Maybe it wasn't your thing but it definitly wasn't garbage. If you're a movie lover then you know it's a brilliantly made mystery.
And Olivier was great here. And him and Fontaine had great chemistry. And he didn't like her in real life!
Anyways a wonderful film.

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I would tend to agree "Rebecca"is not on par with "Vertigo", my personal favorite Hitchcock movie, but "garbage" is a peculilarly inept and juvenile adjective to apply to a film with this pedigree. Olivier, Fontaine, and Hitchcock simply do not produce "garbage". Do not. Period.
My issue with this film stems from the fact I read the book first, at about age 10. I did not see the movie until many years later. I thought the casting was perfect,especially George Sanders as the ne'er do well cousin/lover but I did not like the subtle changes that have already been noted in the "trivia" section. However minor they may seem, they are glaring to me. Still, this film well deserves its place in movie classics.
By the by, I've read in several biographies Du Maurier did not like this film or "Frenchmen's Creek".

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To me"........it's garbage

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Stick to van Smeerens.

Blue as a persimmon in heat.

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van smeerens???? what is that? i even googled it.....and nothing

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Even though I had some problems with this film, It's not garbage. To me, garbage is "The Human Centipede: First Sequence". Now that's classic garbage.

This is from Vonsich's post:

I felt Laurence Olivier's acting was too stagey. He just doesn't come across as natural, maybe too emotive. And his eyes seemed dead. What are your thoughts?


And I agree with it. If you've read the trivia you'll discover that Olivier wanted his girl, Vivian Leigh to play Mrs. De Winter, but that was a not go so he was really rude and somewhat abusive to Joan Fontaine. Hitchcock wanted to capitalize on the tension so he told Fontaine that no one on the set like d her. She was, after all, only 23 at the time.

However, Olivier, wasn't able to hide his very real animosity toward Fontaine from the camera. It's all picked up and he just appears stilted. In spite of it all, Fontaine did a superb job, but I don't really view her acting here as much different from her acting in Suspicion or even Jane Eyre. I mean, it's good, but it doesn't really vary much from one to the other in style.

The other actors did a good job. But I also, didn't feel the grip of suspense in it. The book, as almost always, is far superior to the movie.

Also, Olivier is actually only 10 years older than Fontaine, although his character is supposed to be 40ish. He doesn't seem to know how to play a man at least 10 years older than his chronological age.

I've never really been impressed with Olivier myself, but then I haven't seen his entire body of work, either, so maybe I'm not being fair.

Oh, one other thing that I believe was supposed to impress at the time this was released; Hitchcock chose to film this in b/W, even though color was available, because he felt it would add to the moodiness of the film.

To me, the one truly iconic thing/person that came from this film is both Mrs. "Danny" Danvers and Judith Anderson. There are seemingly countless spoofs, immitations, and mentions of the character that Judith Anderson created.

She's brought but in the Abbott and Costello classic, and my personal favorite of their films, "The Time Of Their Lives". Emily the housekeeper is very nearly the spitting image of "Mrs. Danvers". When "Millie first meets "Emily" she says, "Pardon me, but didn't I see you in "Rebecca?" Absolutely hilarious, if you've seen "Rebecca".

I hope this helps you, Rayray.

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If you had half a brain you'd see he/she was being more than civil and looking for reasons this film was associated with other classics. Instead of proving your lack of reading comprehension how about you go ahead and point out some of the finer aspects?

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Oddly enough, I found that Hitchcock made this story much happier and duller than the book. Shouldn't have happened that way, eh? The "making violent love behind a palm tree" came off much more clipped and eccentric in the book. Max continually scoffs at the notion of romantic love, and you never know whether it's his way of actually engaging in romantic love or whether he's marrying "I" for some other reason.

And the music in this movie, omg. I'm sure it's beautiful music, but it DROWNS the sound track. Strings here, strings there, enough with the damned strings!


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Alright, give 10 reasons why you thought it was such garbage, or write a brief review to show your excellent reviewing skills.

I can accept that some people disliked the movie, but unless you state why, what was the point of this thread? Just to say everyone else is wrong and can't see how much this sucks?

I enjoyed it, it was a solid sort of thriller/mystery that kept my interest.

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@raysraysworld.

Here are some points that I think you can consider:

1. The acting of Judith Anderson playing Mrs. Danvers. Her suggestions to Joan Fontaine to jump: "Go ahead." "Why don't you?"

The icy stares of Mrs. Danvers. The formal manner: "In the future, I hope you will tell me when you break something."

2. The acting of Joan Fontaine. She played the shy, timid role to perfection and then grew into a true partner of her husband.

3. The acting of Florence Bates as Mrs. Van Hopper and her many hilarious quotes: "Hurry up, I want to play rummy." "So this is where you've been spending your afternoons." "You certainly are a fast worker."

4. The acting of George Sanders as Jack Favell. Can anyone play a slimy character as well as George?


Most of the movie was spent developing the point that Max loved and cherished Rebecca. Mrs. Van Hopper said so. Mrs. Danvers reiterated it many times. Others said so: So, it was a big plot twist and a big surprise when he said that he hated her.

I'm not trying to change your opinion. I'm only trying to get you to give it a 2 or 3.

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Excellent post, Marhefka . I can flick through it again and try and take some of these points on board. I do always take into account the age of anything I watch as so many things have changed, not just socially and morally but also things such as the pace of storylines or individual scenes.


As for the previous poster.......I don't have to write a 'proper review' or account for any opinion I may have.
It seems that it is perfectly OK for somebody to write posts like "I love this. It was awesome" but when anything we write is negative, there is always some self righteous know it all who says we have to justify our thoughts.
I watch lots of films and I want to like all of them. If I do, I often comment. If I don't, I often comment. If I don't understand anything, I often comment.

This is NOT a fan board. This is a forum which is open. We all like different things. I also don't like cucumber. Does that make me an idiot?

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rayray - cool down. If you post negative reviews of a popular film here, you're going to take heat. You knew that when you posted your comments. Like you, I write both positive and negative reviews. For example: I've disputed posters on the Gone With the Wind board who hail it as the greatest film ever made (which it's not), and been accused of being a troll, an idiot, the Antichrist. If anonymous strangers' negative reactions bother you, you'd be best to keep unpopular views off IMBD.

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lol....they don't bother me and i'm very cool and calm and collected. I just like having my say and if i sometimes have to put a pompous git right, i will.

by the way, what is imbd?

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That's you when you're calm, cool & collected? LOL - glad to hear it.

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I have no problem with you disliking the film. But to call it garbage, maybe the reason people are giving you a hard time. I have watch both films and read the book, I like this film, but I wished the would have stuck to the original ending. Do you dislike the story or the way the made the film? If it is the film you may like the BBC version, it tell the story more in-depth and goes with the original ending. To each his own, I suppose. Bur calling a classic garbage will piss some people off.

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Is the BBC version also entitled Rebecca?

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Yes the BBC version is also Rebecca, great version too!

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Garbage. There....I said it

Well you are certainly entitled to your opinion. However, I disagree as this is my favorite film. To call it garbage is a little extreme though, don't you think?


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Well, looking at your lists it's pretty clear that your taste is whack. There are more great films you don't like, than ones you do in my opinion. And given that there are 61 more films on your liked list than disliked list, that's pretty worrying.

I mean, you liked Wayne's World. Wayne's World!! But not Rebecca? I think the problem lies with you, not the movie.

Now, you're right - not everybody will like the same stuff. I'm just a little shaken by the amount of trash on your liked list - utterly mindless, tedious, trite and amateurish crap - yet you're here criticism material that even after 73 years continues to blow people away and find rapturous new audience members a few generations down the line.

You have brainless, lowest common denominator BS like Anchorman, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Hellraiser and Napoleon Dynamite in your Top 50 but The Godfather, One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest, North By Northwest, Singin' In the Rain and Night Of The Hunter are bad?

You're an idiot. There...I said it.

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lol....good post with a splash of humour. I like it.

I am not going to look at your ratings or any lists of yours or anything like that because I realise that people are.....wait for it....different.

To cite some of my faves as being of the lowest common denominator is a little unfair. Cinema has always been there to entertain us and if I get entertained then I vote or rate accordingly.

You can slag off anything that I like and compare anything to something else but it doesn't matter. We have different tastes. So what?

Personally, I find Godfather, North by Northwest, et al boring and I don't get anything out of them. Should I like them because the majority do?

Some people give Shawshank or Fight Club or Pulp Fiction a 1 out of 10. I don't care what others think.

I also don't like motor racing or boxing but many love them.

And if you are seriously saying that Rebecca can blow away today's new film viewers and their 'right now' appetites, you are possibly deluded.

I love watching films of any type and have rated over 3,000 on here. I can't like them all....can I?

I enjoyed your reply. But please don't call the above mentioned films mindless tedious crap. There seems to be a snobbery about comedy. For example, Oscars get won by actors in 'serious' roles such as biopics or period dramas. Yet somebody like Brendan Fraser in Bedazzled would not get a mention despite doing nothing wrong in that role and playing different characters superbly. But....you know....it's a comedy so it has no merit apparently. Not many actors could have delivered like Will Ferrel in Anchorman or Carrey on Dumb and Dumber. Different skills altogether from your Brandos or your Pacinos, but skills nonetheless.

You call me an idiot because I don't like the same films that you do. Really??

Right....I'm off to have a strawberry milkshake and a banana sandwich. Maybe not to your taste...I must be an idiot.

Now....that's a good post. There....I said it.

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Taste is not something everybody is destined to acquire.

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Damn right.

I understand people like different things, and there's nothing wrong with that.
But to call a film like Rebecca 'garbage' is just ridiculous.

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Rayray... Rayray... Rayray...

Let's call a spade a spade. You can't seriously expect your favorite films to not meet with strong criticism when you call "Rebecca" garbage; can you? Really?
You really can't be surprised by this remark:

o cite some of my faves as being of the lowest common denominator is a little unfair. Cinema has always been there to entertain us and if I get entertained then I vote or rate accordingly.


or this opinion...

But please don't call the above mentioned films mindless tedious crap.


When you call someone else's favorite film, garbage.

I do agree with you that comedies, science fiction, and supernatural films don't get any attention or recognition that they deserve. I love Brendan Fraser myself, in both his serious and humorous films. He was great in "Bedazzled" and he's excellent in "George Of The Jungle". "Fight Club" was excellent but at times a little too brutal for my tastes; but nonetheless an excellent film. I didn't see "Anchorman" but Will Farrell is "Elf" is just darling.

If your intent was to prod a discussion out of people who view film differently than you do, you did a fair job of it. But you also have to take a punch when you send a punch. Maybe calling "Rebecca" garbage was a tad harsh. Saying it's boring drivel might get you the same discussion results while possibly avoiding a return salvo at the films you give high merit to.

Oh and IMBD ~ IM Bored Daily. I know... it's garbage.

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Please don't go calling me a troll. We can't all like the same things and I watched this hoping to enjoy it as I do with everything I watch.
I understand that it was made in 1940 and I make allowances for pace, violence,etc as I know the boundaries have changed massively.


What do the boundaries of violence have to do with anything? How would violence have benefitted this movie?

As far as pacing, it's fine. A movie like this shouldn't have a fast pace.

The Wizard Of Oz is another film from 1940 ish and that has more suspense in it than this dire offering.

I wasn't aware 1939 is considered part of the 40's.

I can't even think of any redeeming features. When he tells her he should be making violent love to her behind a palm tree! Was that supposed to be romantic or passionate or something?

So this movie is such a grand failure that a criticism you bring up is some throw away line?

At the end when she falls down in the courtroom.....was that suspense?

No and it wasn't meant to be. It was a moment in the plot.

Or her eyes when he said he hated Rebecca? Was that suspense/horror?

Does something have to be directly threatening to qualify as suspense to you? I mean, if you can't see how someone making a dark confession like that as suspenseful, especially with the way it slowly unfolds, then I don't know what to tell you.

and really, this isn't a full out suspense/horror movie like "Psycho". It's more of a dark drama with some elements of murder mystery. You claim to watch a lot of films, one would think you'd pick up on this an hour in.


I'm sorry but this was a real piece of garbage. I dont like giving ratings of 1 so I will try and think of something to make it up to a 2. The thing is....nothing is coming to mind.

Seriously? The direction and cinematography alone should bump this up to a 4. One would think a film lover could appreciate that.

Which is higher than I could rate this unintelligible mess of a post you put up. You say this movie is complete garbage and can't come up with one coherent reason, you bring up three random moments, one which you complain you didn't understand the context of(even though it's hardly relevant in evaluating the film as a whole), than bring up two other moments and ask if they're meant to be suspenseful, like somehow if the answer is no, that's a reflecting on the other 129 minutes of the movie.

To cite some of my faves as being of the lowest common denominator is a little unfair.

When you come and call a film garbage with no redeeming qualities, on a board where fans of said film would reside, you lose any and all right to complain when someone picks apart films you like.

Personally, I find Godfather, North by Northwest, et al boring and I don't get anything out of them. Should I like them because the majority do?

There's a world of difference between "this wasn't for me" and "this movie is complete garbage with no redeeming features.". If you came on here and said "Rebecca's not to my tastes.", you would've gotten a less volatile discussion. Instead you proclaimed the movie garbage with no redeeming qualities. Let's get past not liking the film. Someone who has supposedly seen over 3,000 movies should be able to recognize certain qualities. For instance, I don't like the movie "Blow Up"(1966) but it certainly has redeeming qualities, being very well made, having a few inspired moments, and a strong lead performance. I don't like it, but I would never call it garbage.For a Hithcock example, I don't like "The Birds(1963)", but it has obvious qualities to it.

And if you are seriously saying that Rebecca can blow away today's new film viewers and their 'right now' appetites, you are possibly deluded.

The breakdown of voting shows a lot of younger members rating this movie highly, so clearly modern film viewers can appreciate this movie. Perhaps the delusion rests on you?

There seems to be a snobbery about comedy. For example, Oscars get won by actors in 'serious' roles such as biopics or period dramas. Yet somebody like Brendan Fraser in Bedazzled would not get a mention despite doing nothing wrong in that role and playing different characters superbly.

No, he gave a passable, forgettable performance for a forgettable script. Films like Bedazzled are flimsy and no actor is really going to be able to pull out a 5 star performance from it.


Not many actors could have delivered like Will Ferrel in Anchorman or Carrey on Dumb and Dumber.

Are you being serious with this? Okay yes, they did fine with those movies, and Carrey IS a good actor, has shown he can do a variety of genres successfully. However those scripts were tailored to the actors.

You call me an idiot because I don't like the same films that you do. Really??

You're an idiot because that's exactly the impression you've given with asinine criticisms that I hesitate to even call nitpicks, than going "oh well, my tastes are just different from you", which is COMPLETELY divergent from your original claim of "Rebecca" being garbage with no redeeming value, which is also an idiotic claim.

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The scenes with Mrs. Danvers were excellent. She was creepy. Also, when Maxim was proven a fraud and had to fight for his life was chilling. Plus a female character that was so off center for the time is refreshing. I didn't quite get the timid wife, but after Maxim described Rebecca, you knew what he wanted to avoid. The scene where the second wife said he married her because there wouldn't be any scandal and Maxim challenging her to explain was enlightening. Topping it off was his admission that he hated Rebecca, perfect.

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First,

Nice observations. The first time I saw this film, I thought he was initially interested in her for two reasons. One was that she was beautiful but shy, which he may have been intrigued by. Which as your initial take on her character indicates, was probably not enough in itself for someone who not only was wordly and wealthy, but had a reputation of being with if you will a more glamourous type, the kind who not only was the center of attention but somehow demanded it. I also thought their initial encounter may have been felt by him to have somehow bound them, at least a bit, together - they shared the knowledge that he may have been saved by her, and at least was brought back to the living from whatever morose contemplation he was experiencing as he peered over the cliff. But again that is not enough it would seem for him to have pursued someone who, at least when seen through the sort of Greek chorus eyes of Mrs. van Hopper, was very much not what she thought to be his type.

As the film progresses, but still short of the specific moment when Maxim told her that he hated Rebecca, we are given conflicting opinions. Of course there are in addition to Mrs. van Hopper the obvious position of Mrs. Danvers in the if you will pro-Rebeecca camp. But there are other and subtly opposing views to those. The conflicting views tend to draw us in, wondering which take is the more accurate. For example while Giles Lacy maintains that the second Mrs. de Winter is exactly the sort he expected, we know this is not true, and Beatrice Lacy confirms she is not what either expected. At first we hear her say some negative comments about the second Mrs. de Winter's clothes and hairstyles. These seem to conform with the views of the pro-Rebecca camp. But... at the end of their first meeting, Beatrice remarks how much improved Maxim seems since he was around his second wife. While such praise is not effusive, of course, it nonetheless is certainly a statement of general approval, and reflects an understanding at least on Beatrice's part that she understands, and we are beginning to understand, why Maxim is attracted to his new wife.

An even more complicated take, however, preceded the lunch with the Lacys. And that of course is the second Mrs. de Winter's first encounter with Frank Crawley. The more times I see this film the more and better I think I undertand the significance of his part in this story. At first I found this scene somewhat jarring. It is the complicated and mixed set of signals Frank sends out that made it so. But we also must recognize it is the first time someone outside the couple gives some real indication (as opposed to Mrs. van Hopper's obnoxious remarks as she wonders out loud about why he would want to marry her) of what the basis for Maxim's attraction to her is. He lays out his compliments, but also refers to Rebecca's great beauty and how impressive she was. I frankly thought, the first time I saw this film and for a few more times after that, that overall Frank's comments were rather inappropriate, and in their own way even obnoxious.

But now I think it best to understand Frank as something of a stand in for a delayed recognition of exactly why Maxim would want his second wife. It is delayed because it is undertaken by someone outside the relationship, looking at it with historical knowledge. But also I think Frank reflects the assumptions and standards of beauty that prevailed at the time, among the upper classes, including the relatively more well placed servants of the upper classes that people who manage the estates, meaning Frank, would share. As I have mentioned elsewhere Joan Fontaine's look in this film represetnted a break with the less natural and more glamourous, but expensive to maintain, look that dominated standards of beauty before.

Frank's take on the situation therefore shows a transition of public perceptions. He follows Maxim in that regard. But he does come to see in effect that Maxim is correct in arriving at a more modern conception of female attraction.

While I think this film has much more to say on the subject of standards of beauty and attraction, and of more interest is the relation of such standards to more general standards, mores and expectations regarding the place of women in society, making Rebecca a sort of pre-feminist work in that regard, there is something else about the role of Frank Crawley in this film. I think this first scene he appears in contains the first indication that not all was happy in regard to the first de Winter marriage. Again, on first viewing it is perhaps not so apparent, but when one reflects on the compliments Frank gives the second Mrs. de Winter, they have to be understood as referring to virtues that Rebecca herself did not have. This in turn must mean that Frank was aware not only of how suhc shortcomings reflected on Rebecca, and made her something less than the paragon people such as Mrs. van Hopper, and of course certainly Mrs. Danvers, saw her as. It also meant that Frank, as we later come to have confirmed, was at least somewhat aware of Maxim's unhappiness with Rebecca. Even one might conclude this early on a significant unhappiness.

but the main point I want to make about all this is that I think Rebecca reflects a dynamic I know I have experienced in my own life, and I think is one that is also experienced by many, even most, people. And that is that prior disappointments in relationships can make one value the differing qualities of a new lover more than would have been the case without those prior experiences, and disappointments. In effect the portrayal of Maxim's character includes a dynamic of that sort, where we come to learn how very right he was, despite the confusion and doubts we begin with, to see not only how right he was to pursue his second wife, but how that process allows him, and us, to grow beyond that first relationship (of course it can be more than one prior relationship, but i digress).

That is one of the things about this film that makes it so great.

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Thank-you for your insight. When Frank described Rebecca as a "beautiful creature", it spoke volumes as to what he thought of her. The only thing Rebecca did wrong was not telling Maxim who she was before they married. She didn't change with marriage, and Maxim held to a standard of living with his mistake, instead of living his life as he expected, someone who loved only him. This reminds of the Bette Davis movie "Dead Ringer", where the honorable husband wouldn't divorce the sister he didn't love, and she murdered him.

Should bad experiences make us define who we are? I mean, if I'm looking for love, should I redefine who I want based on bad experiences. It's the good relationships that tell us we are on the right track. Maxim did a 180. Now if he didn't want that life in the first place, and did it out of family expectations, yes, the new Mrs. de Winter is his choice. What if there's a beautiful, moral woman out there? He was trying to mold her to accept her responsibilities as head of the house. She was even willing to accept a smaller role in his life just to be near him, friends, companions. Is that self-esteem or someone out of their comfort zone? I can see both, very good Hitchcock storytelling. Makes me want to read the book when I finished with The Manchurian Candidate.

I'm not sure he has who he wants, but he did say he was willing to try to be happy. Some of us buy into the hype (old me). Some of us are strong enough to know it's hype, and wait (new me). It's all about knowing what we want (new me).
I remember a conversation where I said people spend more time selecting a car, then giving their heart to someone to cherish. That's not to say you should have a list, it to state that be more observant of the signs. We show who we are all the time. We need to pay attention to protect our hearts.



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first,

I would not say that bad experiences should define us, but I would hope and in fact expect that we should learn from them.

As far as Maxim is concerned, I think he takes away from the moment of the film's endings a few things that can serve as the basis, perhaps, of a long continuing marriage to his second wife. First of all he knows he can trust her with his most awful truth, that she has shown that he can, and that is hugely sigificant in a marriage.

He also recognizes that his wife has grown in ways I doubt he considered when he first met her, and that these ways I think make her an even more attractive wife. In turn she knows that she has helped him get through what could have otherwise been his complete downfall, and we have every reason to believe he will be grateful to her.

It is easy for newlyweds to ponder the notion that they can grow over time, in a life together, in ways they do not presently have or can even contemplate at first. But it is another thing to actually experience this within the context of a marriage. More generally I think that is also a feature of virtually all long term successful marriages.

But on the specific subject of Maxim's relationship to the possibility of his being happy, I am fairly optimistic, even if I am not generally inclined to be. In his specific case the thing that stood between him and a general happiness with himself and his life, which of course affected his view of his marriage, was his fear that Rebecca would in some way hurt him and prevent happiness. He may have been thinking of her body lying in the boat, and whether it would be discovered, but it need not have been that specific a fear, as he himself told his second wife that early morning in the boathouse. Now that she is aware of the story and he has avoided being trapped by Rebecca's death, I think this obstacle to his happiness has been removed.

And of course with Manderley now a smoking crater, no need for the second Mrs. de Winter to better act as the estate's mistress.

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Yep, Mrs. Danvers removed that obstacle of the house. So we can take away from the movie that both protagonists further
defined their characters. That trust is a foundation for any good relationship. As long as you believe in someone, nothing is impossible.

Maxim did trust her with a terrible secret. But what does that say about both of them? We make mistakes, and hope that they only hurt ourselves. The hurt done to him with the secret led him to believe that he could not have happiness, and he was willing to give up the second Mrs. de Winter for his crime. I was glad to see him not give in to blackmail. A lesson learned from the secret.

I would agree that we should be open to personal growth and learn from bad experiences. I also believe that fear should be managed to bring out our strengths. Maxim didn't want to be reminded of Rebecca because of the secret, while others believed it was her differences in one believes is good character. I hope we learned that we cannot be any good to someone if we are not first, good to ourselves (honest with ourselves). How can they love us if they do not know who we are.

I did find it amazing that for all Maxim's breeding and good friends, he could not go to one of them and tell them, so human. Good movie.


"...as long as people can change, the world can change"

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