Kinda GRAPHIC question


I always figured the character of Rhett Butler to be an experienced, competent lover due to his suave, debonair, charming personality he expressed. I've always been confused as to why Scarlett didn't have an orgasm prior to the staircase scene, like obviously during the honeymoon & conception of Bonnie. Was Rhett not a generous lover or holding back because he didn't want to be vulnerable to Scarlett by revealing his deep love for her to through sex?

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Scarlett was sexually unawakened when she married Rhett, for obvious reasons, but it's not clear why she didn't realize what the fuss was about until it was too late.

I also assume that Rhett knew what he was doing, but Scarlett never responded until he got... rough. And he didn't want to repeat the experience. Yes, it all seems improbable, but this seems to have been based on Margaret Mitchell's own experiences.




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Let's not forget the Catholic Guilt thing. She would have been raised to think that sex was strictly for making babies, which she did not want.

The unrelated element to all this is that she was a borderline narcissist and on the subconscious level wanted to always be in control. Having an orgasm is often perceived as being out of control.

BTW, I doubt that the word "orgasm" would have even been in her vocabulary.


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And many people at the time believed that "No decent woman enjoys the act", nice girls didn't expect to enjoy it, or weren't told it could be fun.

But really, I expect Scarlett just learned to tune out during her first two marriages, who wouldn't with those dweebs.



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Yet, it was the demure, modest Melanie who actually enjoyed sex with her husband.
Had birth control been available back then, they would have had the most sexually satisfying marriage in Atlanta!

BTW, while the "Victorian Era" was supposed to be about sexual repression, Her Majesty had a lively sex life with Prince Albert, resulting in nine children.
When told that only abstinence would prevent any more pregnancies, her reply was, "Am I to have no more fun in bed?"

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Catholic guilt huh? What about protestant, Muslim, Anglican, etc guilt? Sheesh. You people are obsessed with religion.

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Well, since the book explains this particular, I'll supply this quote ("Gone With the Wind" by Margaret Mitchell, MacMillan 1936):

She did not love him but he was undoubtedly an exciting person to live with. The most exciting thing about him was that even in his outbursts of passion which were flavored sometimes with cruelty, sometimes with irritating amusement, he seemed always to be holding himself under restraint, always riding his emotions with a curb bit.
"I guess that's because he isn't really in love with me," she thought and was content enough with the state of affairs. "I should hate for him to ever turn completely loose in any way." But still the thought of the possibility teased her curiosity in an exciting way.


Obviously he does "turn loose" the night he carries her up the stairs.

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Scarlett completely misinterpreted all this. Rhett did love her but didn't tell her out of the realistic concern that she would use it to hurt him. Because she would have.



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