I have a lot of sympathy for their desire to leave royal life, just not their desire to take the royal lifestyle with them as they go. Yes, the family hierarchy has to be deeply unfair and frustrating, because Harry comes from a family where his sibling's needs really DO come first. Like I said, primogeniture has been undoubtedly been fucking up family relationships, ever since the invention of inherited titles or fortunes.
But watching Meg and Harry try to deal with the unfairness has been a real-life dark comedy. I mean Meg thought she could march into the HQ of the best media manipulators in the world, and tell them that since social media is the shit now, she knew how to handle media and they didn't! Hahahahaha!!! Seriously, she forgot the fist rule of social climbing, which is that if you succeed in social mountaineering and make it to summit, the climber is the one to adapt to their new surroundings! You don't demand that the people who are already living on the summit change to suit you.
But yeah, Harry is the twerp here, Meghan is just trying to do what he wants - bring in millions a year to fund their lifestyle via social and mainstream media, without Harry giving up any more of his privacy than he wants to give. Harry just wants to live in luxury while doing nothing to earn it, except whine about how hard he's had it - in a world full of poverty, disease, exploitation, hopelessness, natural disasters, environmental degradation...