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Guys, would this end a date for you?


You meet a nice girl and ask her on a date. You go to a nice cafe, laugh, chat, and basically hit it off.

She says she wants a guy who is looking for a wife as she wants to be a mom. "Basically I'm looking for husband material", she says, "who knows, you might fit the bill".

She then bites her lip, "but you've got to be okay with how I make money. Don't worry, I'm not a prostitute. "

You breathe a sigh of relief.

"I'm an actress in the porn industry. I thought, what's a job that combines my love of sex and entertainment and helping couples?"

Do you continue the date?

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No, would not date a porn actress.

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I only date strippers.

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i am also a porn actor so yes, i'd continue.

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So you also did Dallas, along with Debbie?

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affirmative

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Date, as in serious, committed relationship? No.

Date, as in casual sex? Hmm. On the one hand it's secretly most guys' fantasy to have sex with a porn star (whether they admit it or not! 😂). The reality, on the other hand, would be that no matter how much you might shoot your mouth off/be a conceited ass about how 'great' you are with the ladeez, when it came down to it there would be that little voice in the back of your mind that wouldn't shut up, saying 'How do I compare with the guys that do this for a living?'. Tricky.

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Ah, but in this scenario she's made it clear that she's not looking for casual sex, she's looking for a husband.

So, do you buy her that next drink?

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Definitely not!

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How hot is she?? You left out important information.

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FALSE PREMISE...YOU WOULD RECOGNIZE ANY PORN ACTOR LONG BEFORE THEY GOT AROUND TO ADMITTING IT.

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[Blows kiss]

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"She says she wants a guy who is looking for a wife as she wants to be a mom. "Basically I'm looking for husband material", she says, "who knows, you might fit the bill"."

That would be the end of it right there. Getting married to any woman means you relinquish sole ownership of all your property/money, because suddenly, as if by magic, it all belongs to her too, and then there's a high likelihood of a future family court judge assigning sole ownership of half or more of it to the woman, even if she wanted a divorce for no good reason. And to make matters worse, this hypothetical woman wants to tie an albatross about your neck by having kids. She'll get custody of those in the divorce too, and you'll foot the bill. She will have plenty of options to avoid having to pay out of her own pocket for the kids, such as hooking up with another sucker and/or taking advantage of the plethora of welfare options available to women with kids, but no one will help you pay your child support payments.

A man getting married in this day and age is taking a major gamble, one which could cost him hundreds of thousands, or even millions or billions of dollars. And it's not like that's some one-in-a-million risk; it's more like one-in-two.

As for her being a porn star, that's a bonus if she were a good porn star. There are quite a few of them that are hotter than any mainstream Hollywood actress that I know of, such as Mandy Dee, Tessa Fowler, or Simi Green, but it's not enough of a bonus to walk into the marriage + kids trap.

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still bitter about the divorce then?

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What are you talking about? I've never been married. What do you think, that I needed to fall into the marriage trap before I could see that it's a trap? It was obvious to me even as a kid. It's about as subtle as a cheeseburger sitting on a giant mousetrap. The only way I'd get married is if I had a time machine to go back to before it was a trap.

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or get the lovely lady to sign a "my shit is my shit" contract?
might be easier than time travel . just about .

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There's no such thing as an ironclad prenuptial agreement:

https://www.beierlaw.com/blog/can-prenuptial-agreement-overturned/

So-called "family courts" are corrupt as the day is long and a feminist judge can overturn it on a whim. The judge only needs to say, e.g., that the wife signed it under duress:

She may feel pressure to sign the agreement if she thinks that the wedding won’t take place if she refuses to sign.


Of course, saying that she signed it under duress is an unfalsifiable assertion so there's no way to prove the judge wrong, and even if it were true, it's a bullshit reason to invalidate a prenuptial agreement to begin with.

Marriage has been a blatant trap since "no-fault divorces" became a thing, starting in California in 1969, and being in every state except New York by 1985. When the wife actually had to show some wrong-doing on the part of the husband in order to break the marriage contract, the husband at least had some semblance of control over whether the marriage would last or not. All you'd need to do is not cheat, not be abusive, etc. Of course she could always make shit up and the judge could believe her, but in this day and age you have no control whatsoever over whether or not the marriage lasts, so you're gambling potentially huge sums of money and the fate of your gamble is determined by the mere whims of some woman you met a few years ago.

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I completely agree. Marriage is generally a bad deal for men.

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She got the goldmine and he got the shaft.

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Exactly.

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until laws change to put males on equal footing (and they won't) you pretty much nailed it.

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She then bites her lip, "but you've got to be okay with how I make money. Don't worry, I'm not a prostitute. "


pros·ti·tute
/ˈprästəˌt(y)o͞ot/
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noun
a person, in particular a woman, who engages in sexual activity for payment.


It is what it is. You can try and play word games to convince yourself, but you aren’t fooling anyone else.

I wouldn’t immediately end the date, but any thoughts of marriage and family would be off the table. I wouldn’t get in relationship with someone that planned to continue to sleep with other people, and I definitely wouldn’t bring kids in to that situation

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