I recently had an incident with the building manager because she spoke to me like crap, thinking back,I remember two other female managers who despite their education, really don't know how to talk to people respectfully,I've had no problem with male bosses,who seem more easy going and not as stressed,is it just a coincidence or are most female bosses rude and unfriendly?
shareI don’t think its fair to generalize like that. I’ve seen women who are great and some who are terrible. The same with men.
shareMaybe it has something to do with the fact that women in leadership roles face more sexual harassment than other women (and men). Or maybe it's because women may perceive they will lose authority if they employ feminine styles of leadership in male-dominated roles.
shareI don't think male or females are worse or better. Its down to the individual. Some males are going to be worse and others are going to be great. Some women are going to be terrible and other women are going to be amazing bosses.
shareI had one incident with a female boss where she took me into her office to lecture me about a part of my job performance and she had security in there with her. Not only was I angry and disagreed with her, I also felt insulted that she had the head of security right by her side as it was implied she was afraid I might hurt her. Right after that bad boss I had one of my best bosses ever who was also a woman.
shareIt is almost sparking you to become aggressive isn't it. You could have said that you felt afraid that security was standing there while you were being talked down to. Love it when they play the big bad bitch one moment and turn damsel in distress the next.
shareI didn't really see it as an issue of intimidation, it just really bothered me that she was treating me that I might be some kind of violent psychopath when I had done nothing on the job to indicate that.
sharePerhaps it wasn't you, but something that had happened to her in the past and she just wasn't taking any chances with anyone.
share1. They think they have to prove their worth/position title.
2. They think men get places by being assholes so they follow suit.
3. They think their gender will protect them.
4. They are high strung bitches out of the workplace so it just goes to show that they will be the same at work.
The last female manager we had was a nightmare. Loud, over the top, wanted us all to be full of life and excited about work that she made more difficult. We have had male managers who were sort of similar but not quite as aggressive and annoying. She didn't last long.
That’s easy. They dislike whiney, misogynistic babies who overgeneralise about women in disgustingly bigoted ways to compensate for their inferiority complexes by saying things like female bosses are the worst.
You should ask her if your insurance covers therapy to see if you can work on those mommy issues of yours.
I'm a woman myself,and I've had bad experiences with these people for no fault of my own. So your telling me you'd let someone talk down to you,and belittle you infront of other people?
shareIt depends on the circumstances. If doing so means I’ll get fired and risk losing my home, well, very likely yes.
But that’s beside the point. She’s probably threatened by you or she senses you dislike her. Would you feel any better if the boss were a guy who was holding your job over your head to get you into bed? How about if he shoved you into a wall with his hands on your breasts and threatened to rape you in front of the entire kitchen staff all male, who just turned a blind eye?
All that and so much more happened to me and I can tell you it sucked completely but it didn’t mean all my male bosses were A holes.
I’ve had shitty female bosses too but I’ve had nice bosses of both genders.
If she’s really getting you down, try and make a game out of it in your mind. Read How To Win Friends and Influence People. It’s a cornball book from the 30’s but it basically tells you how to win people over. If she’s on a power trip you could try something like asking to have a meeting with her to discuss your work goals and to see if you’re in the right track. When you ask for it tell her how much you admire her business skills and how you’d like to follow and learn from her. Sounds fake, but who cares if it makes your life easier. Flattery will get you everywhere. Just don’t go over overboard and DON’T tell anyone what you’re up to or she will find out for sure. Coworkers can be so backstabby!
Just turn the tables and make it work for you.
You seem pretty level headed. You didn’t get bent out of shape about my response which was somewhat harsh. Lol. Sorry about that. I take issue when I see sexism, which can also come from women against women. When I was young it didn’t bother me so much. But as the years roll by it builds up and you get sick of it. You’ll see!
Charlotte Xavier- I read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" . Great book but unfortunately you can't "make friends' with everyone. lol
My first few bosses were women and they spoiled me into thinking all women bosses are nice. The last several were nightmares!
One took an immediate dislike to me and I never knew why. She accused me of things which I didn't do, faulted me for things other coworkers could do with no problem and sabotaged me. I finally knew she was full of @#@# when she lied to my face.
I wasn't getting called in to work. I wasn't considered full time. But I usually worked 40 hour weeks. But then, she didn't put me on the schedule. Told me she tried to call me "so many times".. I told her flat out that I had caller I.D. and I never got calls from her cell phone or the company phone number. She just had a stupid look on her pockmarked face. I quit soon after.
The word 'pockmarked' wasn't to meant to be mean, just descriptive. She also was tall and, politically incorrect to say it, fat and dressed like a slob.
I've had several female bosses like that, really overweight, no make-up, atrocious grooming, flip flops at work.
I happen to be petite and I always show up for work well groomed, wearing appropriate clothes and make-up.
My last supervisor was grossly overweight and dressed like she was going to wash her car! She was nice to my face. I never complained about all the extras hours she gave me. I know I worked hard. She badmouthed the higher ups a lot when they weren't around. But when it came to crunch time, when I was falsely accused of nonsense that I never did, she piled on, switched her story and sided with the bosses to save her own supersized rear end. What a backstabber! You never saw such a company kiss-ass!
I dread the thought of another obese woman boss who dresses like a slob! No matter how polite I was to the last few, no matter how hard I worked, they were women with crappy personalities who should never have been bosses!
I cut my losses and quit!
Yeah, that’s awful. Jealousy is one dangerous and ugly emotion.
They won’t live long. Obesity kills people young.
Sorry about that. I take issue when I see sexism
What a shitty question/passive aggressive accusation with no basis regarding anything I’ve said.
shareAnd you’ll be happy to know that yesterday I stuck up for a male who was being bullied by another male. It didn’t involve sexism and they were children, but I don’t care what age, sex, race, color, or species someone is; I just cannot stand bullying in any form and that is exactly what sexism is.
And if you need to be told how privileged men have been over women in almost every way imaginable for all of known history globally, then you really need to get schooled.
And if you need to be told how privileged men have been over women in almost every way imaginable for all of known history globally, then you really need to get schooled.