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Have you ever known any guys who have done well with women and you’ve never understood why?


I’d say 9/10 times the guy is with a girl who is way out of his league. I think they’re just attracted to blind arrogance and mistake it for confidence.

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It's YOU that needs to change.

The world isn't going to change, and women aren't going to change. If you want things to be different, change your outlook and the way you do things.

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Let me offer you some free advice:
Talk Less.
Smile more.
Don't let them know what you're against or what you're for.

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Also, whatever happens, do not bring up The Irishman. If they even speak of Martin Scorsese just play dumb.

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In his case, "just play dumb" is the exact same advice as "just be yourself".

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Yes I see that angle, but the man is well versed in Scorsese’s filmography and is still bitter by his Oscar snubbing. He needs to avoid this topic at all cost if he wants love to blossom.

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Ouch

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LMAO

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Haha

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Love it!

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Oh yeah. I know some very handsome men that are charismatic, but are really complete shit holes.

The same could be said of some women.

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No

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I don’t know the guys but I have met many strippers in clubs who work there to support their kids because their husbands or kid’s fathers either send them there to work or just don’t support them. It just puzzles me because there must be a lot of nice caring guys that would have loved to take care of them.

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Assholes tend to have traits which are misconstrued as strengths. I would bet that plays a part in the poor choices some make when choosing their partner.

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Yeah, me.

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I've seen guys on here that DON'T do well with women and I DO understand why.

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I have done it and the reason is all the myths are wrong. Good looking women don't get hit on a lot as everyone is intimidated. In the end you just have to do is approach and talk to them. Usually unusual places are better, not bars etc

There is a very simple formula to it really. But in the end confidence is key.

Oh and don't believe all that shit about being yourself. That might be the main problem. Try being someone else instead.

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I actually think the whole “beautiful women rarely get hit on because everyone is intimidated” thing is a myth. I’m sure plenty of people are afraid to approach but they still get hit on plenty, I’d say conservatively at least 10-15 times a day directly and indirectly and that’s not counting all of the cat calls, double takes and other forms of attention they get.

You are right about confidence though, that’s 99% of it.

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I don't count getting looked at. I check women out all the time without any serious interest in them. I don't do the call thing but that doesn't count either.

There is a fine line between being hit on and actually spoken to as well.

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I agree with mb. Its a myth . Athough I think his numbers are wrong
possibly they get "hit on" a bit less than they might do because guys think they're already taken - both becasue they can choose whoever they want (sort of) , and theyre not short of offers.


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How are you confident without being yourself?

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It was a joke really. You always hear people say "Just be yourself" sometimes that could very well be the problem!

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