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Can someone please explain to me why parents do that?


Now as an adult AND a father of a two years old girl there are slme things that I can't understand. Why are parents such hypocrites? I mean, they admit to had done things in their youth... and then forbid their children for doing the same OR judge them. I have plenty of friends whose parents show this double standard well and which makes them total hypocrites, but I will focus on mine.

1. My parents used to get drunk every weekend starting from age 15 for my father, and 17 for my mother. But me drinking at 14 was the end of the world and they use ground me for it (I would escape from my window as a result πŸ™„).

2. My parents met each others when my father was 15 and my mother 16 and they started to have sex pretty much right away. I didn't have the right to bring girls home at 17 (I did it anyway from age 16 but I had to hide them). What.... seriously? What is this hypocrisy.

3. My father was arrested at 16 for public drinking. He gave me shit for having a ticket for parking in a wrong place.

And I know MANY parents who have these double standards or think that grounding their children is the best education.

Seriously, I hope me and my girlfriend will give a better education to our daughter and instead of being hypocrites... we will be able to talk to her to make sure that everything she does, she does it safely.

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They want better for you. Learn from their mistakes. Your parents are right, and you're being a baby.

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Okay, just to be clear, I didn't ask for religious nutters to answer. πŸ™„ I'm talking to reasonable people here.

Btw, for me it's too late anyways, it's in my past and I'm 27 years old. So, keep your prudish bullshit for yourself.

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Dang BooBoo, you asked for someone to explain it to you and you’ve just been given a very good possible explanation. The reply didn’t seem prudish at all.

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Dude... I expressed myself poorly, I concede. Please don't insult me like the others. I just wanted to say: there's a way to talk to your children without exaggerating.

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All good man. No problems.

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Religious nutter
Unreasonable
Prudish

I don't think anyone would use those words to describe me.
Just giving u the Stone cold truth.
You're still in your Angry Young Man phase.

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"You're still in your Angry Young Man phase."

NAILED IT.

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Well... I guess you aren't so nice after all. Okay I think I get it: you are a click.

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Away for a little time, and still so eloquent in her brevity...

Good evening, Miss Grace....

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You're still in your Angry Young Man phase.

After having sex with over 20 girls, having many relationships and being a father? Yeah... no don't think so.

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πŸ˜‰

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Welcome to ignore!

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I'm fucking nice.
Ask anybody.

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You cite the number of random sexual experiences you've had, and the fact that you once impregnated a woman, (which any fool adolescent can do), and you say that proves you're not still in your Angry Young Man phase??

You're not only an "angry young man", you're a child. And if this thread is anything to go by, you're still in your "rebellious teen" phase as well.

A fellow pushing 30 who's still agonising over his parents' discipline methods is far from an adult.

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What make you think Laura's a religious nutter?

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I don't necessarily think it's hypocrisy. I think a parent remembers the things they did that were wrong, and they regret these things, and they don't want their son or daughter to go through the same thing, with all the pain and regret of it.

A wise man learns from his mistakes. An even wiser man learns from somebody else's.

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A wise man learns from his mistakes. An even wiser man learns from somebody else's.


Truer words have never been spoken!

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LMAO...JUST WAIT TILL THEY GET THEIR PERIOD AND THE DRINKING,DATING AND SEX ARE REAL WORLD POSSIBILITIES,NOT FAR OFF CONCEPTS...YOUR PARENTS SOUND LIKE THEY A DAMN FINE JOB UNDER THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES.πŸ™‚

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Not really. They raised a kid like him.

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FAIR POINT.πŸ€•

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Dude... so far you were nice to me...

I sincerely never had a problem with you... what is the matter? Just because I think people should grow up and make their own choices? What am I supposed to do, keep my daughter in a closet until she turns 18??

You had no business insulting me. You welcomed me so well. I had a lot of respect for you.

Plus, I've seen you comment on how great being in a relationship is... now talk about a double standard.

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I NEVER INSULTED YOU...AND IN FACT DO LIKE YOU...I SIMPLY ANSWERED HONESTLY TO YOUR POST...NO HARD FEELINGS ON MY END.πŸ™‚

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I don't know who you are, I know that Kowalski told me that he respected me in the past..

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What you have to realise is that people are lunatics. Once you understand that everything else falls into place.

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Lol

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Without going into the litany of dumbass stunts my friends and I pulled growing up (many of which ended in arrests, incarcerations, near fatal injuries and at least one dead boy) I think parents are not being hypocrites so much as they appreciate that they got lucky and learned from their foolishness

I'd hit the roof if my son pulled 10% of the shenanigans I somehow clawed my way out of

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That’s basically it. Do as I say not as I do

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I have no problem with this
We took chances with our lives and freedom which were totally uncalled for
I don't want Boyo doing the same stupid things...he may not get as lucky as I did time and again, so I
lie to him and tell him I spent all my time reading and helping my folks around the house😬

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And there were times I didn’t get off so lucky either

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Dude, I agree. And thanks for not attacking me like some others. I understand the point. I really expressed myself poorly. All I meant is: it's normal for people and especially young people to want those things. I know I had a blast. What I don't understand is how parents overreact instead of talking and making sure that their children don't make the same foolish mistakes as they did. I mean... instead of acting like it's the reincarnation of the devil, why not approach it realistically.

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A good talk every so often (the fighting talk, the car talk, the girls talk, the beer talk...) these are important but a sprinkling of white lies is certainly an option

If my boy acted like I did I'd be quite concerned and up all night 'til he came home

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I would've appreciated parents that care...oh well, you can still adopt me, Uncle Shogie...I promise to not scratch any of your vinyl collection...

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I want hownos to adopt me!
OMG, to have parents that care, WOW.

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I like Canada, but before this Covid stuff, I wanted to live in New YOrk at least for some time, and there's Uncle Shogie's record collection...and he's a cool cat...

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"OMG, to have parents that care, WOW.'

you know...

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I promise to scratch his vinyl

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lol....and here we go!

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Where we go ?

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Oh we're there baby!!
Go ahead, make your move, I'll be flinging my crummy Alvin and the Chipmunks records at your face like ninja stars!

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do as i say not as i do - parents have been known for this.

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You ready for the bubble ?

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i am still not convinced there will be any sports.

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It’s happening

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baseball, at least

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My folks were really wonderful people, full of heart. I wouldn’t change anything about them, but I do look back and wonder about some of their decisions.
I stole the car once, first time I ever drove in my life. I guess it was out of steering fluid? I couldn’t turn the wheel but I just thought that’s how it worked. My ma busted me as I was pulling back in the driveway. She tried to be stern but she just busted out laughing and asked me how the hell i drove it.
They were good about not being hypocrites.

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Im not sure its hypocrisy. I had some unfortunate experiences in my youth that led to destructive behavior. I wouldn't want any of the children i know going through that just because I did and turned out okay.

When you talk about making sure that your daughter will do everything safely, 1. How will you ensure that and 2. What will you do when she doesn't?

I think parenting is one of the most difficult jobs on the planet and its so easy to judge others.

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I think parenting is one of the most difficult jobs on the planet and its so easy to judge others.


AND, its on the job training..

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