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Most embarrassing moment of your life?

posted 5 years ago by CarterBlunt (1030)
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For me there are many, but this one seems like the biggest.

When I was in 3rd grade, I overheard some of the cute girls talking at their desks, and two of them were saying they would want to marry me. I was too proud, and I think my ears perked up a little bit. Then the third girl said who she would marry, and it turned out they were comparing me to the ugly obese kid with a trailer park haircut, who had to wear old faded clothes. He would do stuff like jam his fingers down his throat and barf on the desk. Turns out the black girl was feeling him more.

I was devastated, because he was the only kid I really thought was lower status than me, and I was apparently being put on par with him! What seemed like the point of no return for my self esteem. I think if I wasn't so judgmental myself, it wouldn't have hit me as hard.

The experiences before that weren't great either, lots of weird sexual stuff other kids were doing, and I was complicit in. Can't really say what the formula was to get over all that, but I seem emotionally healthy now. Pretty sure I have ADD though.

What about you guys, do you have a most embarrassing moment?

[–] ShogunofYonkers (71625) 5 years ago

I became very friendly with a really sweet girl in 'Typing' class in high school...she was gorgeous, her brown eyes drove me crazy and she was so sweet...She was black though and I am the whitest guy you ever saw...this turned out to be a problem!

As it turned out my intended girlfriend's daddy was a Preacher, the Asshole 'Typing' teacher attended his church and it was a militant black church...I had no clue

One day I asked her out during class and she more or less replied 'Oh, no...my daddy would never let me date a whiteboy!'

The typing class teacher overheard this little exchange and laughed out loud at her desk...all of the classroom kids started laughing at me too

The typing teacher actually said 'You are one crazy whiteboy!' and man, did she and the whole class laugh at me:/

I've been shot down by a large number of women but this shooting still nearly kills me 30 years later LOL

[–] twinA (4826) 5 years ago

You are one bold lad, Shogie, haha!

Not everyone is familiar with "black Irish," the word used when talking about those of Irish background who have dark hair, dark skin and dark eye pupils.

In between migrations of Gaelic speakers from western Europe, Normans and other Vikings from different places, and later English as well as Scottish settlers into the north of Ireland, the island's peoples have seen a lot of ethnic mixing.

Irish Central:
https://www.irishcentral.com/roots/history/who-were-the-black-irish

The idea of race is hogwash, I tell you. It came about in an effort to unite various groups of people under one roof to stop them from fighting each other. Though, as your story points out, it is still prone to splintering thanks to the herd mentality.

Hopefully, the reasons for incompatability were more than surface-level. Certainly, there were cultural issues. Given the blunt explanation you received though, it's doubtful you experienced a fair shake, man.

In my understanding, intermingling is more common where the ratio among different peoples is around or about even-steven, 50/50.

~~/o/

[–] ShogunofYonkers (71625) 5 years ago

I've always been bold AND stupid...and I'm not likely to stop

I'm a big fan of mixing it up

[–] samoanjoes (50911) 5 years ago

If anything, that sounds more like the dad should be embarrassed. She didn't say she wasn't into you, just that her dad wouldn't allow it. Also, that teacher was unprofessional.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (71625) 5 years ago

Yes to all of this👍 but Yonkers was racially charged at the time...nobody was getting along very well

If anyone was to blame it was my stupid 17 year old self for asking out a black girl (and not knowing her pop was an angry Preacher)

Yonkers had ridiculous race issues at that time...I was just one of the dummies that said 'fuck it'

[–] CarterBlunt (1030) 5 years ago

I went through a period where I was really into black chicks, from like 7th to 9th grade. I had just switched my self-stereotype from alternative to gangsta, and black girls were a new and intriguing thing that I hadn't really considered before. But then I was told that black parents don't like white boys, sabotaging any romantic escalation before it began. I would say things like, "I was gonna ask you something, but you probably won't" before getting her number. I actually had a situation almost identical to yours, where I blurted out, "why not date me, a white boy?" in class. I could write a book on getting rejections from these school situations. Most of the girlfriends I got was from their friends setting them up with me, and even then I would just sit there like a retard while the more outgoing friend moved things along. And if they did it in front of people, forget about it! I would just stare at this hot girl they were introducing, and be frozen for like a solid minute! If I had better guidance, I would have done fine with dating.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I showed up at my new job in a business co-op program back in Sept 1985. Got there at 8:30 and everything was fine. By 10:30, I was in the can vomiting and couldn't stop. One of the guys who I just met gave me a rode home and we had to stop twice so I could throw up. I know they were thinking I was some loser who was out partying the night before but that wasn't the case. The next day I was fine and had to walk back in there and start over as if nothing happened.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (71625) 5 years ago

The nerves can get to you...lots of people have this very experience Amigo

[–] samoanjoes (50911) 5 years ago

Was it nerves?

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I think it was because I was fine later in the day.

[–] BillHicksFan (10099) 5 years ago

How long did you stay at the job? Did things get better?

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

It was a co-op job so the fall semester from Sept-Dec. It worked out in the end but it was a bad start and something I will never forget.

[–] twinA (4826) 5 years ago

Ouch dude, it hurt to read your personal flush out. As a perfectionist, I can relate.

The way we feel about ourselves on the inside is often what people see on the outside. I don't mean to make assumptions here; confidence is crucial to see perception from reality. I say that from experience.

Young people can be so needlessly cruel. Look at it this way, the more they tried to tear you down, the more likely they were jealous of you for some reason and felt the need to place themselves above you. Validation from our fellow peers is an important part of growing up because the world can be a scary place and we have yet to learn to be true to ourselves.

Judging by the way you hold yourself up in your posts, you have become a stronger person, not due to them, but in spite of them, which is impressive. Bravo. 👏

~~/o/

[–] samoanjoes (50911) 5 years ago

When I was in the 5th grade, a student was at home for an extended period of time recovering from an injury. Our teacher, who didn't like me very much for some reason, decided to send him a huge card and have the class sign it with our own personalized messages. The message I wrote was filled with humour and a lot of sarcasm but my teacher spotted it and read my message out loud with such a disdain in her voice. She had a disgusted look on her face as she read it. I remember sitting there while she was reading it and the entire class looking at me with such hatred. If she didn't understand that it was sarcastic that's fine. But for her to spot the message and purposely read it out loud, I felt crossed a line.

[–] LauraGrace (15570) 5 years ago

Summer of 87 my father walked in on me while i was having sex. Vigorous and creative sex.
The Horror...

[–] samoanjoes (50911) 5 years ago

Define "creative".

[–] LauraGrace (15570) 5 years ago

no - it's too embarrassing!

[–] samoanjoes (50911) 5 years ago

I'll keep it game and just assume it involved handcuffs.

[–] AndyKing1967 (33799) 5 years ago

Was I involved?

[–] LauraGrace (15570) 5 years ago

not that time! I ended up marrying him.

[–] AndyKing1967 (33799) 5 years ago

Jolly good, just checking.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

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