i think life is a chore......i just want to lie in bed, watch tv and read.
shareI hear that. Once you've had your fill of partying and socializing, it all becomes tedious and annoying. Nowadays, I try to think of excuses not to do some activity cuz it's usually more enjoyable to just lay around relaxing and doing nothing.
shareI actually really am. I'm honestly tired of life. And I do have lots of interests, hobbies, even a couple of passions, so it's not like those are missing for me.
But I don't like the way society is going. I don't want to be part of the world in what it's becoming now. I'm actually glad that at my age I'm now closer to the natural end of my life than to my beginning. Sometimes even consider hastening it along. Not seriously - I haven't formed a plan or bought the accoutrements, lol. But sometimes I just feel like I'm done. Sick of everything.
Life IS a chore even when you do have good things to live for. I personally think if there's a Hell, THIS is it. Even with some of the nicer things about life. THIS is hell.
If it happens that there's an afterlife and reincarnation turns out to be real, and "They" want me to come back for another go, I'm saying fuck no, screw that place. That's how strongly I feel about human life as lived in this world. It sucks. doesn't matter what you do or try to do or strive for.
You really have to keep your mind occupied or those thoughts get you down. I try to add something new every few months just to keep boredom away. Exercise is key, especially if you enjoy the activity, Yoga, spin class etc.
shareI am not, in fact I'm hoping for a lot more living
Sure, life IS a chore in the sense that hard work and sometimes awkward social interactions are involved, but what's the alternative..?
Let's all keep on living for a while!
i had a traumatic childhood
shareI'm sorry to hear that
Abuse, death in the family, abandonment, substance use, incarceration of a parent and divorce are all traumas to little children...
Terrible stuff that many of us have experienced as little kids
Somehow most of us grab a saddle, mount the world and ride it hard 'til it breaks to our command
The alternatives are poverty, depression or death...no thanks
Think positive, you're breathing and that's a real fine start
Professional counseling is nothing to be ashamed of and has helped a number of people I know and hold very dear...the stigma attached to psychotherapy is appalling
Best wishes, be well halo
As someone who has dealt with depression my whole life all I can say is you have to push through it.
shareNo, even when life is hard, I feel there's a lot to live for. Get outside and go for a walk. The fresh air will help clear your mind and give you a positive outlook on things. Sitting inside and dwelling on the negatives is not healthy.
shareBoom right here! ☝️ Check out the big brain on bread.
Go outside, walk, run or whatever. Lay down in the grass on a sunny day and look up into the sky for hours. People forget about these things.
No, that's not what some are saying, or ''right here''. If you could do those things , you'd no longer be severely depressed in many cases. The depression (not the type that you mean) can be a symptom of something greater.
On a deeper level, depression can lead, or rooted, in other forms of mental illness that are so debilitating as to leave you immobile. Society does not relate nor underrated (unless they have been trained to), but talk about things they know not of, or in denial about which only contributes to the person's pain. And, no, we do not have a cure for some of those conditions.
Wait... did the original poster say they are severely depressed?
shareUnless the OP is a fraud, observe the pattern of his many very sad dark comments and topics, that would be a clue without the OP coming right and saying it. Then you would need to consider what your interpretation of severe (clinical) depression is. I don't know the OP personally, but am going on my perception
Regardless, there are many others who are suffering said severe depression , since we're on the topic which posters are casually commenting on (like "yoga and "spin class")
I actually do suffer from depression, so my answer of spin class and yoga was me telling this person if you stay in bed and read , your thoughts will only get worse. I did stay in bed and read for a month after my divorce. When I feel myself slipping into bad areas I go to yoga or spin, so its not a throw away comment, its what I do to self medicate.
shareBut, tcrum, spin class and yoga is for those who are depressed on a level where they can do that. Your divorce was a temporary painful incident, not a chronic one. "Depression" can be a symptom that extends beyond recuperating over an incident.
shareI'm not going into my childhood here with you.
shareYou dont' need to, yet how would anyone know the extent of your pain, then? If you have PSTS (post traumatic-stress syndrome) and other painful- results due to your childhood, you are able to deal with the aftermath. Everyone is different.
Still, I am referring to organic physiological ailments like OCD (spending 6 hours a day taking 50 showers, and still not enough) personality disorders, cognitive impairments, dissociate disorders,etc. The brains of OCD sufferers, for example, have "gray matter", and are different from normal brains, and there is no actual cure (but treatment to some degree). Clinical depression has psychological origins, and behavioral ones.
Again , its serious but this isn't the place for it.
shareHonestly you have a really long post but when I saw her post this morning I new exactly what she was feeling. I have been there. End of story.
shareGood for you, but that has nothing to do with the (medical) things I mentioned. It was a long post for a reason and not only meant for you.Take care.
shareVery well stated
Top shelf post
You are not informed on the severity of depression , nor what the OP is conveying (as you would a physical ailment)
sharePerhaps not, but a walk out in nature can do wonders for ones mental health compared to lying in bed all day.
shareThat's not it. Some are afflicted so badly that they cannot leave the house (agoraphobic); panic attacks; bathe for weeks at a time; hold down a job; or even communicate with others in a social setting. It becomes a cycling catch- 22, especially if they are alone in life. They are lying (or sleeping) in bed all day because it removes the pain which they cannot eradicate any other way.(including non-working anti-depressants). Not to mention, sufferers are shunned by those due to their cynicism and intolerance.
Taking a walk and admiring the sunshine and flowers is not on the same level, unless one has the blues. There is no nice way to say that people should not run their mouths off about things they know not of; it only compounds the grief if the sufferer takes a drastic step towards ending their pain.
If people really are interested , there are ways to research this without being in the mental health profession, but it's too threatening for the masses to hear. it's another reason why severely depressed--and those with related conditions--should stay off social media, so they dont' feel even more alienated.
So what do we do with people who can't care for themselves as you've described? Should social services be contacted? People like that need serious, professional help. However, that doesn't seem to be the case with the OP, who could probably do with some time in the great outdoors and socializing with other people. Whether someone suffers from depression or not, being housebound is not good for mental health.
People here are just giving their advice, not running their mouths. OP posted a question on a public forum and people are responding. And if I remember correctly, OP said they are in therapy, so that's very good news.
Not social services who don't handle this.
This is what's done: the patient , if willing, somehow gets themself to a psychiatrist for medication for trial & error and/or tries therapy. If the sufferer is agoraphobic, it's a tough call.
Problem is: money prohibits finding that many shrinks unless it's a clinic where you see a psych social-worker (or other) who then regularly consults with a psychiatrist.
If the depression is rooted in another condition that therapy does not respond to, then just medication.
If the medication/anti-depressants do not work, then it's a mental-hospital which is for emergency cases for the housebound/debilitated, and those who are incapable of self-care.
If the hospital cannot help the patient eventually improve, then it's permanent residence in a hospital (like schizophrenics who are incurable), unless they have a relative/loved one to live with
I realize posters are giving advice and well-intentioned, but if a true sufferer hears that advice, it naturally would provoke them--and remind us that mental-illness is misunderstood and has a long way to go to find a cure. It would be like going online to express the emotional-pain about being physically paralyzed, only to hear "keep your spirits up" when the patient cannot accept that.
Interesting and thanks for explaining that.
Excuse my ignorance, but does the US even have mental hospitals anymore? I thought the majority shut down in the 90's - early 2000's? As far as I know, we now use group homes, however they can be difficult to get into. More money needs to be invested into mental health services imo.
Your welcome...and
Yes and no. The de-institutionalization act that occurred in the 80's is why there are so many homeless. There just isn't enough room, or you cannot force institutionalization unless the person is a danger to themselves or someone else (as you likely know)
Not at all. Every day brings something new. Good things can arise out of bad experiences also.
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