Have you ever had someone in a circle of friends try to turn everyone against you?
Two of my good buddies and I do a lot together, have taken several trips and the brother of one them is sort of an outcast and is unhappy with his life and constantly tries to knock me and talks behind my back.
He is part of the group in that no one else in the circle of 4-5 of us has any issues with him but for some reason he is hell bent on bringing me down. I think it is because I came into the circle a little later than everyone else and have planned a few of the trips we’ve taken that he has been unable to afford to go on so he sees me as a threat and/or is jealous of us taking these trips without him.
He frequently talks down to me in the group chat and tries to emasculate me and find any way he can to criticize or belittle me. It’s gotten so bad that he does middle school level stuff that goes well beyond gossiping, just the other week we were all sitting on a floating dock at the lake and I heard him casually say to a girl we had just met “he smokes pot and has really bad anxiety!” Fortunately most women see right through this sort of cock blocking and it backfires but I just couldn’t believe it.
I don’t know what to do, he’s put me in a really uncomfortable and difficult spot. This is my closest group of friends I do almost everything with, he will always be there because it is his brother but my friends have done little to stand up to him. They’ve both acknowledged the issue but are not the most confrontational people at all and repeatedly tell both of us they don’t want to take sides or get involved, even though he is the problem and I only ever defend myself. Any suggestions?