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Isn’t it a bit unfair that we are expected to have our entire lives together by our mid 30’s?


At the most you get up until you are in your late 30’s before people start looking at you funny if you aren’t at least married with a career, and they usually expect you to have kids as well.

I’m 36, I feel like I’ve only really just reached the level of wisdom/confidence necessary to navigate this world in the last 3-5 years, maybe even less.

I was a bit of a late bloomer, high school was rough and I spent my 20’s making up for lost time in terms of social exploration and developing confidence. There were still, however plenty of growing pains and obstacles along that path.

Many people will tell you 20 years is plenty of time to enjoy your youth and establish your identity but that assumes you had a relatively smooth/stable adolescence. I think an overwhelming majority of those who didn’t forgo this period of exploration and jump right into adulthood which is fine but not the route I took.

I feel like I still have a handful kinks to iron out before I’m ready to make this transition and with 40 staring at me right down the barrel it is a very stressful time to not have your life figured out.

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You shouldn’t worry about what other people think. As long as you’re not harming anyone, just do your own thing.

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This^^

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Best answer right here
Do your thing MovieBuff...it's the only way to go

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It used to be younger. Back in the 80s you had to be married before 30.

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who gives a shit, be happy man, be happy......

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Well, life is unfair.

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You're right. I was told to change my college major and ended up leaving. I wanted to be a movie actress. Now, I want that degree. I was in some music programs and told to do different music programs. I'm actually in the process of reapplying after over 10 years. I was just talking to the cross country / track coach, this afternoon.

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Do whatever makes you happy. Fuck society's expectations

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exactly, a lot of the stuff is promoted by different industries,ie real estate.

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Life is often not fair. But you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. It's cliche, but true: It's up to you. Fight for success! Successful people (however you define it) very rarely become overnight successes. They fail. But it's their spirit that makes them try again.

I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Thomas Edison

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Read “Late Bloomers, The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement” by Rich Karlgaard. I went to his lecture where he talked about the very thing you are talking about. I think the gist was it’s really a myth and that even though youth achievement is celebrated more loudly, it is really more of the exception than the rule. His own story about being a late bloomer is very inspiring.

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Success when young can be a blessing, but is often a curse. Child actors for one example.

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