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Were you home schooled?


How’d that go? Do you wish you went to mainstream school?


I don’t think I could have handled home schooling. I don’t think I would have given my mother the patience required or liked being with my brothers 24/7.

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home schooling is not a big thing in Canada.

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I tried to do one semester totally online. I need the structure. I’m too lazy when left to my own devices.

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Sometimes I have to take refresher accounting courses and I always choose the classroom option over the online option. You learn more with a teacher and fellow students.

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I’m the exact same way. I like to ask questions and take piles of notes . Makes it easier to study for tests

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I feel the same way.

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When I went back to school about seven years ago, I thought, being a "mature" student and feeling a bit out of place in the academic world, that I would take all my classes online. But some of the required classes for my degree (business admin) were given only on campus. It turned out that I preferred the classroom over online. I appreciated the atmosphere and the immediate contact with the professors and other students. I may have been the oldest person in all my classes, but it was a kick to meet people from all over the world who attended my local community college.

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We both have business degrees. Imagine that.

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Mine is just a two-year Associate's degree, but I sure learned a lot. I'm still proud that I had the courage to do it at my age.

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I am surprised if Canada has not outlawed homeschooling like Europe. Teachers unions and rich people with private tutors do not like competition.

Homeschooling is flourishing in America. Public schools have become very diverse, with the kids at the low end absorbing all the attention. Schools are overflowing with cash, but a student who doesn't speak English is able to justify triple the funding. Test scores go down so fast that the tests have to be changed to hide this.

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My son went to Catholic school here in Ontario - much better than public school. I am glad to be finished with raising kids and school.

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probably a really bad idea for 99.9 % of the population.

division of labor, socialization, third-party oversight - all kinds of healthy aspects lost by holding kids to one's breast.

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School wasn't always intended for those things and I may be wrong but the primary goal is still education, which you conspicuously leave out of your assessment. Home school kids are sought out by the Ivy League universities because they outperform their peers on every metric, particularly in their desire to learn. It hasn't been beat out of them.

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i left education out because that isn't an intrinsic deficiency of home-schooling v institutional schooling. whenever education was a privilege open to other than the elite, socialization has been an important aspect of it. its part of how a culture is transmitted.

leaving children entirely in the hands of their parents is a cultural/social hazard.

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My nephew gets home schooled.He was getting bullied in school so they thought it would be better for him.He seems to be doing ok.

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is it with a professional teacher and a small class, or just by his parents ?

it sucks that schools can't get a handle on bullying. hiding the kid doesn't seem like a solution, but not knowing your situation, that observation is obviously un-informed.

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I could be wrong but i think they have a teacher come to house.I agree isolating your kid isn't a solution but they both work so it's the easiest solution for them.And he seems a lot happier now.

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I do hope he gets the social interaction with children somewhere else.

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Being homeschooled doesn't mean living in a cave. In fact if anything it's the opposite. It's public high schools were you find kids retreating into themselves, because the environment around them is so unresponsive.

Kids who are homeschooled get the benefit of interacting with people of all ages rather than just other children, being segregated by grade where social growth gets collectively stunted. It used to be that everybody had this exposure. All grades were taught together in the same room.

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The degree of socialisation of homeschooled children is totally up to the parents, so you can't generalise and just assume it's a given for all those children that they will interact with other people. It could very well mean they live in a cave...literally.

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I find that people know as much about schooling as they do about circumcision. Daddy went to public school/got circumcised so junior needs to do it too. We're going to ban homeschooling/mandate circumcision because some child plays video games all day/doesn't wash? You want to enforce a type of minimum standard. I understand you are motivated to "leave no child behind". I want to leave all children behind. Eat my dust.

Parents are being charged with neglect for allowing their children to walk home from school. Playgrounds are ripped up because the monkey bars are unsafe. There's something about this idea of overprotectiveness where on the one hand the child must be confined to a bubble so he experiences no danger and can't hurt himself while on the other hand he must go out into the world beyond the safety of his cave to socialize with bullies who will toughen him up.

I think we need to get beyond this stereotype of the isolated homeschoolers. Homeschoolers take initiative and have pride in themselves. It's ADD ridden public schoolers who eat cafeteria food and sleep through class until they can get back home and lock themselves in their rooms and watch TV until they can fall asleep.

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God no. I know others who were. I never understood it.

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No, never
But I have always wondered how home-schooled children learn to socialize and handle other people...so much of the regular school experience was about social interactions, dealing with demanding teachers, first crushes and dating, etc...
I wonder how well home-schooled kids adjust to larger, more diverse settings

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I’ve met teenagers who are home schooled and are quite nerdy with tons of self confidence. I thought that had they been to mainstream school, they’d probably be a complete introvert. Schooling creates a social pecking order that according to studies, has huge ramifications for adult success.

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that's something to consider too. it depends very much on the home-school environment. a lot of home-school kids come from economically advantaged backgrounds, so in some cases, its almost like you have your own private school, with all sorts of cool outside activities, opportunities to engage kids outside of class.

for some kids, and in some circumstances, it could be great. it is not, however, scalable, or likely a good prospect for kids of average means. especially if there is a heavy religious indoctrination aspect (imo). the potential to impose upon a young mind is something we should be vigilant about protecting against.

i also have to wonder how kids that grow up in such cloistered environments will come to view their fellow citizens as a whole - will they see them as equals or a lesser, perhaps frightening or despised, class.

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I hear what you're saying but would only add that getting into fist fights with other boys, gaining and losing pretty sweethearts and being really nervous about finals every year were important events, at least in my experience...
I don't feel like home-schooling really prepares a person for the daily brawl of life...I'm not trying to be argumentative or judgemental, I'm just happy I got my ass kicked and my heart broken a lot at school
It seems the better way imo...

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What is all this "socialization" leading to? When kids get to college, they have trigger warnings and safe space, and it's not on account of supposedly sheltered homeschool kids demanding them. Homeschools kids are well adjusted. It's the public school kids who aren't. Schools wasted all their time trying to social engineering them.

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'Trigger Warnings,' 'Safe space,' 'Social Engineering...'
You might be taking Fox News too seriously

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I wasn't home schooled, though I was good friends in college with someone who was. He seemed very well-adjusted, intelligent, and a pleasure to hang out with. For what it's worth, his parents were both certified teachers, and he was encouraged to do extracurricular activities while growing up, so his case might be an anecdotal exception. Just like traditional schooling, many factors contribute to student outcomes.

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I have three grandchildren (grade school age) who are currently being home schooled. My daughter-in-law, their mom, teaches them. She has a Masters in Education so she knows what she's doing. She's very organized - she has to be since they have five children (the youngest are still below school age). I have no idea if she plans to home school them all the way through high school.

The kids are well-socialized through outings with other home schooled kids, church, music lessons & recitals, sports, neighborhood kids, and other such events. Screen time is limited and to be honest, they're very physically active and enjoy going outside to play more than being inside.

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There's no way she can teach into high school especially trigonometry, calculus, physics and chemistry.

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I wouldn't think so, but maybe she's good in math?? I have no idea. I've never asked her since it's none of my business. I hated higher math - I made it through algebra, but that was it. And only did one year each of physics and chemistry. That's all that was required and it was enough for me.

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I was a whiz at math and by the time my son got to high school I was useless to him. I didn't retain anything except for some Algebra.

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Do you realize there are Harvard lectures available for free on YouTube?

There is no reason for the average public school expenditure to be over $15,000 per student per year in America. If government just gave us the cash instead of the school, we could all hire live-in private tutors just like rich people do.

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good luck trying to grasp trigonometry from some online lecture.

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Teachers literally read from a textbook, and no one pays attention. Online at least allows it to be interactive and visual. But with the freedom of homeschooling, many will chose to get an overview and leave the rest to Texas Instrument calculator. Not everyone needs to be a triangle specialist. You're almost bragging about having forgotten as if to say that's how important it is.

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I'm not bragging - it's just the way it is when it comes to math.

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Reminds me of my business finance class that was only available online. It was a nightmare thanks to a professor who was MIA most of the time. It took about three weeks before he finally told us that if we needed help with a problem we should ask our classmates, not him.

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I seriously doubt that I could've handled home-schooling, either. Also, I"m better off for having come in contact with other kids while growing up, instead of being isolated at home day in and day out. In fact, I think that home-schooling would've sucked for me--big time.

The only time my sister and I were home-schooled was during the time we were in India. Other than that, no!

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India?
Wow, sounds interesting
I'd love to see India some day...nice people, great art and architecture!
How was the food, I have heard differing opinions

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Hi, ShogunofYonkers.

India was interesting, and we saw much beauty amid all the extreme poverty, homelessness and whatever. The food was interesting a lot of the time, and rather good, but that could also depend where one went. The food did vary, from being really good to being really awful. We met interesting people--we were there for 6 months. I went to school for a few weeks, and my mom made sure that we did schoolwork in the hotels, etc., where we stayed. We got robbed late one night in Calcutta, the night before we were to leave; our room was broken into by somebody having slid the insecure latch aside, sneaking in, and helping themselves to whatever was in sight. Fortunately, my dad's cameras, which is what the thieves really wanted, were safely locked up, so they stole whatever they could find; 2 of my younger sister's dresses, my dad's watch that glowed green in the dark and was at the night table, by his head, and my mom's pocketbook full of money, after emptying her pocketbook and throwing the purse on the floor.

We were scheduled to leave that next day. Detectives came, and they noticed fingerprints galore. Since my younger sister had written a letter to her best friend back in the states that described this whole grisly event, the detectives kept the letter for evidence. On the downside, since there's so much abject poverty in India, when people are desperate enough, they'll do what they feel they need to do. My sister and I slept in an adjoining room, so we neither saw or heard what was happening. We were fortunate to have emerged from that experience unscathed, except for the robbery, and that the two guys who broke into our room and stole stuff didn't kill us all!

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Jeez!
What a tale, Thank Goodness nobody was harmed


India does sound very interesting, if I ever go I'll be sure to slide some furniture in front of the hotel door!

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Yup! It was a true-to-life tale, to boot. Nobody was harmed, thank heavens. I seriously wonder if the overall security is any better today than when it was when we were in India 47 years ago.

We also saw the Taj Mahal at night, which was beautiful, as well as many other neat things.

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