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Childhood nemesis

posted 6 years ago by AlfredTheGreat (471)
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No, I did not recently encounter one but just thinking if I did. Word is that a person who caused a great deal of misery for a number of people including myself has changed their life for the better. After thinking about it I could be happy that this person has changed for the better. At the same time I cannot fully forgive the transgressions done by this person as a kid and have decided I will never seek out this person. If it happens that I see this person in public and cannot avoid them then I will talk for a minute then part company. Just curious as to how others deal with feelings towards those that hurt them and what the strategy is for dealing with them today. Normally, I am a person who wishes only the worst for such people but I guess that I am mellowing now that school is many years in the past. Also, none of us are perfect so I guess I would want the same forgiveness extended towards me even if my offenses were much smaller.

[–] Stratego (29248) 6 years ago

I'd only be satisfied with her dying a horrible death.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Girls can be brutal. Especially if you have the nerve to think for yourself, and not subscribe to the female pack mentality.

[–] Stratego (29248) 6 years ago

Exactly.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

sorry to hear this. ✊✊✊✊

[–] Stratego (29248) 6 years ago

It should've been my birthday wish!

[–] GlenEllyn (21085) 6 years ago

I don't remember any particular nemesis, although I was picked on a lot. Shy, short, and wore glasses - an easy target.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 6 years ago

I was the same way. One guy picked on me from grade 4 to grade 9, then in college I saw him at a bar and broke his arm. He’s in jail now. I’m at peace

[–] GlenEllyn (21085) 6 years ago

Do tell. Did he try picking on you again?

[–] captainbucky (15252) 6 years ago

No. Never saw him after the night in the bar. He tried pushing me around, but I was a totally different person. I smashed a pool cue over his arm. I’m not usually a violent person and I was willing to look the other way, but he pushed me too far .

[–] GlenEllyn (21085) 6 years ago

Wow. He messed with the wrong person this time. I don't blame you. Apparently he's still a jerk.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 6 years ago

Last I heard he was in jail but that was many years ago

[–] GlenEllyn (21085) 6 years ago

Ha, ha. Sounds like he deserved a spell in the pokey.

[–] LuckyDay (14) 6 years ago

For me, a lot will depend on the person‘s age and what they did. I don’t think it is fair to hold a grudge for actions as a child. Particularly, if they have shown that they now are a much better person. I know people who were bullies, and awful people, in middle school, but grew up to be great adults. On the other hand, someone who does terrible things as an adult is probably just a terrible person.

[–] GlenEllyn (21085) 6 years ago

I think you're right. Some people grow out of their bad ways, others are just rotten people.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I had a hockey nemesis from about age 13 to 18. He was a left winger and I was a defenseman and I laid a bodycheck on him as he was coming into our zone with his head down. He spent the next five years trying to tear my head off. I lost some and I won some of the fights with him. I didn't know him off the ice as we went to different schools. Today he owns a garage just outside of Toronto. I do wonder if he stills hates my guts.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I had 2 boys in middle school that harassed me relentlessly. I ended up running into both of them on different occasions in my early 20s. One was a junkie, and the other actually tried to hit on me!

I win.

[–] lennonforever (2453) 6 years ago

As a childhood nemesis, well, I really had none. BUT, as an adult, those that have hurt me, or worse, my children ,I am relentlessly wishing them nothing but ill when their names are brought up. I don't care a whit to be associated with them, they actually tried to apologize but I do not wish to accept ANY apology.

Yes, I know, this attitude hurts me. Makes me a bitter person, but that is just too bad.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

That is sad.

[–] lennonforever (2453) 6 years ago

yes, it is, but the hurt is so very deep😪 and I can never forget or forgive, never

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I couldn't imagine being estranged from my son. It would be tough to deal with.

[–] andreaahr (2332) 6 years ago

I would occasionally get picked on by girls because I am really sweet and innocent and I would hardly stand up for myself. Girls are just nasty, gossipy and mean. I did my best to ignore them and when I saw them, I would walk the opposite direction. I would try to avoid as much contact with them as I possibly could....