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why is gay community so shallow and bitter?


I am talking from my experience...
I am instantly judged by my appearance and most of the time the result is "you´re too nice" or "not my type sorry"...

I have friend and he gets the same...

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People in general have the ability to be shallow and bitter, no matter their sexual orientation. There are plenty of straight people who are like this as well, and there are many who aren't. It all falls down to the individual.

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I think it depends on where you socialise. If you hang out in gay bars and clubs then you are more likely to meet shallow peeps that are just looking for short term hook ups. But that's just reflective of the environment and shouldn't be used to judge the whole lgbtiqi population.

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Some of the coldest shallow, unfriendly, rude, attitude-people I have met were gay. No, they are not more sen-si-tive in general. I agree. It's sad but true. I mean, just look at the experiance I had with some of them on the CAROL board:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2402927/board/nest/265098562

Can't even discuss movies with them without a fight of some kind!

Anyway, lumping LG with TG is a turn-off, and only perpetuates the stigma.

Well, I too think it's a turnoff – but maybe for different reasons than you. My reason is that each group of people within that acronym are so different, that lumping them all together is very misleading – and it also builds unfair expectations for people within those groups to get along equally with the others, when maybe it doesn't come natural because they are so different from one another.

The thing is, it seems like some kind of unrealistic utopian mindset to lump them all together, because lesbians and gays are very different, buys and transgender's a very different, and then you have the queer people – who claimed to fit no group. What an average lesbian, who is traditional in every way except for who she happened to fall in love with really understand the ambiguous this of the queer or transe group. No, not really. Because there's more to the queer and trends community than just how they choose to dress – it's a state of mind. It's a state of being, and that's very different from a woman who happens to fall in love with another woman. But unfortunately, because these groups are lumped together by social justice warrior's, there's this great expectation that were all supposed to get along or think alike – when the truth is, nothing could be further from reality.

Now, I may be in the minority in thinking this – in fact, I'm almost positive I am. But it's just my personal opinion that lesbians are not the same as gays who are not the same as trans were not the same as queers. One has nothing to do with the other. I could just be feeling this way out of a sense of fear, for some reason not wanting to be associated with the "strange people" or whatever. But that's what I meant about guilt – lumping us all together lends itself to guilt and discomfort, by forcing this expectation that we all feel okay about it, when we don't.

A woman who doesn't label herself as "lesbian" who happens to fall in love with another woman, for example, is probably the more conservative and traditional of all the groups, so how are they going to relate to the radical end of the spectrum? Some do, but I know I don't. The queers and the trans people – they're the extreme end of the spectrum, and myself – I feel as alien to them as straight people often claim to feel to the entire acronym!

I wish such an acronym didn't exist; I don't like it.

Please excuse typos/funny wording; I use speech-recognition that doesn't always recognize!

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I think it depends on where you socialise. If you hang out in gay bars and clubs then you are more likely to meet shallow peeps that are just looking for short term hook ups. But that's just reflective of the environment and shouldn't be used to judge the whole lgbtiqi population.
The desire for "short term hook ups" isn't what makes the bar crowd so shallow and bitter. Many people like "hook ups" yet are perfectly nice people. And yet cliche'd bar queens are indeed hard to handle.

I've noticed most gay guys tend to be either far left or far right politically, one extreme or the other. Their sex tastes, although sometimes vanilla, get weirder and more extreme than most straight folks.

And some of the nicest people, and some of the worst, are gay. (And the worst gay folks hate the nice gay folks most of all, by the way, which is also interesting).

While many, or even most, homosexually-inclined or bisexually-inclined men, are non-stereotypic and don't use the word "gay" to describe themselves. So we tend to leave them out of the behavioral demographic unless we know something about their personal life, or secret sex life.

A lot of people who are attracted to whatever degree to the same sex don't like the mindset in the gay rights movement which chooses to add yet another letter onto the LGBT acronym weekly (nor the demand that we recognize 24, no 35, no 62, different genders) which turns necessary and important social movements into a kind of leftist Dungeons & Dragons game you can't possibly keep up with. And who don't feel the word "queer" (which means abnormal) is constructive.

The point being: there are lots of levels... Are gay people more sensitive? Sometimes. Are they more mean-spirited and sadistic? Sometimes. Are they ever bland and boring? Sometimes. Are they easily identified? Sometimes.

And sometimes not.


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I think gay people give you attitude because you're a creepy, voyeuristic troll who hates himself.

I work at a huge company in San Francisco and the gays are so sweet! No, they aren't slutty.

Please stop posting misinformation 20 times a day. Get out and live life.

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Sisters deserve a good beating sometimes. They're almost as bad as fish.

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Gay men are mentally defective from all the abuse heaped upon them by society. They cause so much pain and suffering toward others. I know a few who've driven people to suicide.

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